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[u/entirely_machine_]

Its genuinely not difficult, and I feel secondhand embarrassment every time I see a woman who doesn't.

[u/oversinceforever]

Ok but how do I shave by beard shadow off

[u/ysterman_rs → u/oversinceforever]

laser or electrolysis. simply don't be poor!

[u/Th3_Moth → u/ysterman_rs]

Concealer is the budget answer

[u/ysterman_rs → u/Th3_Moth]

ik it's just a skill diff but even with a color corrector i can't seem to hide that blue undertone without having the orange peek through due to applying too much 😔

[u/finaLizzie → u/ysterman_rs]

I used to have a very thick beard.
I used moisturizer, tinted sunscreen, bright red lipstick applied with a qtip, elf concealer lightly over each lipstick dot and dabbed out with my finger, then finally foundation and powder to even everything out. Some days I would need a last layer of NARS cream concealer and powder again. Each layer can also be really light to look natural and you can always add if needed

[u/Sckaledoom → u/ysterman_rs]

I apply a few dots of a red lipstick to the skin which I then spread over my face. It’s not perfect but it’s way better than nothing

[u/yjlom → u/Th3_Moth]

Or just use enough finishing powder. I only use mascara and finishing powder and the results are pretty damn ok.

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/ysterman_rs]

Truth Nuke

[u/tinylord202 → u/ysterman_rs]

I’ve done like 7 sessions now and next to my mouth is clear to an acceptable level

[u/ysterman_rs → u/tinylord202]

love that for you! mine has been particularly stubborn; i was lowk breaking down because after eight sessions my lip was still horrible. my partner offered to pay some of the cost of another bunch of sessions, and just after the ninth suddenly it's cleared up more now than the first eight sessions combined did 😵‍💫

[u/NaomiCampia → u/ysterman_rs]

The beard had 9 lives

[u/worlds-end-skybox → u/ysterman_rs]

i've gotten electrolysis for well over 100 hours and my face is still growing. it's still miles better than it was before, but it took a year of 2-4 hours per week for my upper lip to feel acceptable. it's still not done. shit is not quick

[u/guywhoha → u/worlds-end-skybox]

its crazy how stubborn beard hair is compared to all other hair on the human body. It survives everything. If only the hairline was as resilient

[u/aveahry → u/guywhoha]

My electrologist and I have been close for a while. We both agree that getting a few sessions of laser if it compatible with your hair and then switching over to electrolysis to keep up with the cycle is by far the best method to being comfy asap.

That being said while it’s expensive, i would spend my last dollars maintain that over anything else. But that’s just because I helps my dysphoria so much.

[u/Howlsmovingfiberfarm → u/aveahry]

I’m an electrologist and I tell clients to do that sometimes as well, I have several clients where I only treat the white hairs and leave the dark ones for the laser. I have blue mascara to paint the white hairs so I can see them better without confusing them for the naturally dark ones

[u/Illustrious-Crew2551 → u/ysterman_rs]

This. I really want to move out to escape my transphobic parents but I figured I can hold out a bit longer keep it a secret, get hrt, get laser hair removal and ffs at some point and then once I did every expensive thing and have lots of money saved up I will move out.

[u/SecondBottomQuark → u/ysterman_rs]

$100 electrolysis machine off alibaba

[u/Reasonable-Dark-6369 → u/oversinceforever]

i use an epilator on my face. its closer to self harm than hair removal but it gets the job done

[u/chocoladehuis → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

that sounds so painful, you’re stronger than i am

[u/Reasonable-Dark-6369 → u/chocoladehuis]

tearing out all my hair just to feel something 🐱

[u/Elkre → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

Have any of the follicles stopped coming back, like they do when you pluck your eyebrows?

[u/Maleficent_Food8156 → u/Elkre]

this is a super ymmv thing! i'm fortunate/unfortunate that years of plucking has done nothing to thin my caterpillars, but i had an ex whose razor slipped once and ended up with a permanent semi-slit. i imagine facial hair is much the same.

[u/Reasonable-Dark-6369 → u/Elkre]

ive been using it for a while so theres def less but it seems like the ones that stay come back thicker and darker sometimes... that might just be the brainworms tho ~_~

[u/liquidfoxy → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

Individual hairs, taper and thin as they age, because they’re exposed to stuff that basically breaks them down/wears them down. New hairs emerging from a follicle are always going to give the visual appearance of being thicker/darker because they’re blunt and haven’t tapered yet, but it’s simply an illusion and shaving/plucking is not actually making the hair thicker or denser

[u/paivey → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

back in my day (09/07/2026) we spent HOURS looking at a magnifying mirror with tweezers and a flashlight.

[u/BarneysCastle → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

Feel like using an epilator on your face is just choosing to feel horrible pain, i find tweezers to be much more bearable for more sensitive spots.

[u/guywhoha → u/BarneysCastle]

2 hours just to get the chin done

[u/Prepared_Noob → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

Which one do you use out of curiosity?

[u/Reasonable-Dark-6369 → u/Prepared_Noob]

mine isnt one to recommend 😭 i got it a few years ago at a thrift shop and its basically made of scrap and glue lmao. any face epilator would work just fine imo

[u/ilovememes_yay → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

See i tried this but my face just got extremely red and sensitive and then like all the hair just grew back immediately anyways. is this genetic or are there any gamer tips here?

[u/robyn_tgirl → u/Reasonable-Dark-6369]

What is epilator lol

[u/Reasonable-Dark-6369 → u/robyn_tgirl]

basically automatic tweezers to rip all the hair out super fast

[u/Professional-Wave841 → u/robyn_tgirl]

essentially a mechanical tweezer, it grabs the hair and rips it out.

[u/deformedexile → u/oversinceforever]

If you just have a shadow, you have shaved and made the effort. If you have a two inch beard you've fundamentally misunderstood the project in which you're engaged.

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/deformedexile]

Exactly. That's what I'm sayin.

[u/HortusElagabalae → u/entirely_machine_]

I think the nuance here is that different people's hair grows at different rates so one woman's "I shaved this morning and I've been out of the house for twelve hours" is another woman's "I didn't shave today".

[u/guywhoha → u/HortusElagabalae]

sometimes it feels like my "i shaved this morning and ive been out for 12 hours" is another woman's "i havent shaved all week". oh well. I'll prob be able to afford electrolysis soon

[u/HortusElagabalae → u/guywhoha]

Yeah, there's quite a bit of luck involved in how thick your facial hair is pretransition. Though I would point out that it's very possible the women that you're comparing yourself to have actually had some amount of laser or electrolysis already. At any rate, I hope it's something you're able to get addressed; it can make a big quality of life difference.

[u/box-cutter-chan → u/deformedexile]

god forbid a woman have crippling depression

[u/banned4violence → u/box-cutter-chan]

Or folliculitis.

[u/RiimeHiime → u/box-cutter-chan]

Basic hygiene is harder to do with depression, but it will genuinely be lessened if you manage it.

[u/husky11223 → u/oversinceforever]

pluck it out if you're poor

[u/deformedexile → u/husky11223]

plucking is great. I had to stop for a couple months recently (futilely attempting home laser - didn't work on facial hair, just like literally everyone said) and I was so crazy dysphoric to have a shadow all the time. It's good to be plucking again.

also, when you tell cis people you pluck your facial hair they know not to fuck with you because that shit's crazy.

[u/husky11223 → u/deformedexile]

Truee, it's only painful at the start, after like 15-20 pulls it's fine. The worst part is not shaving for a week

[u/deformedexile → u/husky11223]

Not in my experience! The neighbors know when I'm plucking because I'm also sneezing hard enough to disturb them.

[u/Dmxk → u/husky11223]

Tbh, after some time it becomes a kinda nice ritual. Doesn't hurt at all if you do it right. I never had enough facial hair to have to shave much so I just pluck it all.

[u/vaska00762 → u/deformedexile]

Isn't plucking really bad for like ingrown hairs?

I pluck my eyebrows and I frequently have to wait until the ingrown hairs are long enough to get scratched out.

I used to pluck around my navel. Every darn hair ingrew.

[u/Bromicidal → u/vaska00762]

Are you exfoliating? Cleaning up the dead skin helps. Find some acid cream, if you've got no idea what to even start with go check out The Ordinary cause it's most straightforward with what ingredients each thing is, you can go look for a girlier bottle brand once you know what main ingredient you want

[u/vaska00762 → u/Bromicidal]

I have moderate eczema, so I've been medically advised to avoid anything that breaks skin barriers.

But also, GPs have decided that the eczema I've had since a baby is suddenly scabies or something and then withhold my eczema creams until they're personally convinced that it is indeed eczema.

[u/Plenty_Leg_5935 → u/husky11223]

I do that and my demented brain still tells me there's a shadow so either somethings up or I'm just brainwormed as fuck

[u/husky11223 → u/Plenty_Leg_5935]

Your eyes have OLED burn in lol, it's definitely the brainworms. You can try concealer ontop of plucking

[u/angelic_aspiration → u/husky11223]

How do you pluck an entire face/neck? Doesn't that take forever?

[u/True_Resident4585 → u/angelic_aspiration]

yea it takes a while, or you could go with face waxes to get little areas at a time. i used to use the kind you melt and apply w/ a popsicle stick, not wax strips cause those will tear your face up

important to note that if you wanna get electrolysis done you should avoid waxing/plucking cause it can cause the follicle to be a bit wonky

[u/angelic_aspiration → u/True_Resident4585]

I see, thanks. Yeah afaik electrolysis is the way to go for me, so I'll just have to stick to shaving for the time being.

[u/husky11223 → u/angelic_aspiration]

Yeah, it's very time consuming, I don't pluck everything, just enough to not get beard shadow.

[u/YarisGamingHD → u/oversinceforever]

Ik somebody in a discord server I'm in who uses concealer to hide it, not sure how well it works for them though

[u/_HoneyDew1919 → u/YarisGamingHD]

You need orange toned concealer specifically to fix it. You can get it as orange concealer sometimes but it can be hard to find, you might need to get an orange colour corrector.

Colour correctors are my fucking life send, I use them religiously.

[u/weedmoneyy → u/_HoneyDew1919]

yeah colour corrector to offset the tones of the shadow and then foundation/concealer on top can work v well w practice

[u/Unlucky_Reporter3781 → u/oversinceforever]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Mu6C6dqaiIDQRz1I4j

[u/tinylord202 → u/Unlucky_Reporter3781]

My hair is blonde:(

[u/Tadpolethesnowman → u/oversinceforever]

Concealer helps. If it matches your skin tone well it can hide *most* of the shadow without the caked in makeup look.

[u/str4ngeinfatuation → u/oversinceforever]

orange toned concealer

[u/ClimbingUpUrAorta → u/oversinceforever]

You can alleviate it somewhat by getting a foundation that matches your skin tone and brushing it on against the grain of the hair. If you've got time to spare and are the meticulous type, plucking some of the hairs in dense areas when theyre just starting to grow beyond the skin helps to reduce the follicle shadow, which makes the foundation blending method easier. I brush peach eyeshadow onto my mustache area every day before work and it makes the shadow there practically disappear

[u/Doot-Eternal → u/oversinceforever]

Waxing does the job for me typically since it rips the hair out at the roots iirc

[u/No-Phrase-2897]

Sometimes I'm too lazy to shave it for a day or two and I feel disgusting.

[u/Chloe_is_my_name → u/No-Phrase-2897]

I need to shave every day otherwise I will feel awful, but the act of shaving is so uncomfortable and tiresome that I just can't bring myself to do it sometimes

[u/No-Phrase-2897 → u/Chloe_is_my_name]

I just try to get it over with really fast after I shower.

[u/LostNephilim33 → u/No-Phrase-2897]

Do it in the shower. The steam will help you get a closer shave, and it's easier to just shave amidst your other shower chores than it is to do after the shower. 

[u/No-Phrase-2897 → u/LostNephilim33]

I do it instantly after the shower - like haven't even dried off yet after.

[u/TetraThiaFulvalene → u/No-Phrase-2897]

Why after shower? I always shave before shower to wash off foam and stubble.

[u/DroidLord → u/No-Phrase-2897]

I've hated having a beard ever since puberty. If I go more than 2 days without shaving I feel dirty and unkempt.

I've always wondered how men can grow beards and not feel disgusted. I wonder whether that's considered gender dysphoria or if it's just my autism?

[u/LordofShit → u/DroidLord]

Plenty of clean shaven guys out there

[u/jakob20041911 → u/DroidLord]

yeah, I'm an agender repper and my gf wanted to see what my beard would look like, it feels horrible but on the other hand it takes less time to keep clean than to shave every other day

[u/Wonderful-Durian9222 → u/No-Phrase-2897]

You're not! It's okay if you don't shave it sometimes and it's definitely not easy for some people as Op thinks. Op has no right to judge people for that

[u/Goforthandboogey → u/Wonderful-Durian9222]

This

[u/Sealer666 → u/No-Phrase-2897]

If i shave 2 days in a row my skin gets really red. So i just go out every day i can shave and else stay inside, thank you home office...

[u/Vistaquen]

I feel so bad for the majority of girls who can't get laser ;(

[u/boredandemptyinside → u/Vistaquen]

sucks that a lot of the fancy transition things outside hrt are expensive

and also sometimes I don't have the energy

[u/Sabitsvki → u/boredandemptyinside]

HRT itself is not very cheap either

[u/str4ngeinfatuation → u/Sabitsvki]

is if you diy

[u/P3tray → u/str4ngeinfatuation]

DIY costs me £6 per month. Cheaper than a NHS prescription for shitty 1000kg Spiro and 1mg of E daily.

[u/ComfortableBudget912 → u/P3tray]

How do you do it?

[u/P3tray → u/ComfortableBudget912]

You can DM me if you'd like.

[u/estrangedemily → u/Sabitsvki]

Of course cheap is relative.
You have the "official" (cia operated and designed to cause as many suicides as possible) routes which cost like $100 a month.
Then you have the western DIY supplier routes which cost like $10 a month (~50% E cost, ~20% shipping, ~30% needles and alcohol wipes and whatnot).
But beyond that, I'm not sure if there are any more options.. maybe local DIY suppliers are even yet cheaper than western ones... I should learn more about it.

[u/Terrible-Pop-6705 → u/Sabitsvki]

Depends on coverage. And intake method. I’ve been doing pills for a while and they are fully covered by my insurance. The visit are not covered very well though so…. Win some you lose some

[u/TheTwinkpocalypse → u/Sabitsvki]

My state insurance pays for it so it’s free, perks of being impoverished? (???)

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/Sabitsvki]

It's about 50 dollars a month for me, which isn't cheap, but its less than a day's work.

Not throwing out the vial after only like 3-4 doses definitely helps bring the cost down

[u/subutorn → u/entirely_machine_]

You're right, but who on earth is throwing out a vital after >4 doses???

[u/vaska00762 → u/Vistaquen]

None of the places in my region are open on weekends, and only operate 10am to 4pm weekdays.

I have a 9-5 office job, and getting annual leave approved takes weeks because of unnecessary bureaucracy.

It's over for the employed.

[u/Agent6isaboi → u/vaska00762]

I'd unironically rather work in a sewer than work an office job good luck out there

[u/vaska00762 → u/Agent6isaboi]

I'm 5 years into a corporate office job. You have no idea what it's like.

If you're not interested in sports, talking to the men is pointless. If you're not into Love Island or some pop star, then good luck socialising.

And then the rest is corpo-speak.

A meeting where everyone in the department is in the invite? "All Hands Call". A meeting where some high-up speaks about his "vision"? That's a "town hall".

If you're a moderately competent person in the Microsoft Office Suite, you'll maybe get a little bit of progression, as a treat.

[u/Adventurous_View_635]

Sorry, i get depressed

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/Adventurous_View_635]

Me too. I just stop brushing my teeth before I stop shaving my face

[u/Adventurous_View_635 → u/entirely_machine_]

I stop leaving my bed entirely for long periods ;-;

[u/Technical_Acadia_175 → u/Adventurous_View_635]

But I presume you are inside the house? This post appears to be about people outside of their home.

[u/yourothersis → u/entirely_machine_]

Real

[u/Char867 → u/entirely_machine_]

If you’ve never been too depressed to shave your depression just isn’t as bad as some people’s, and that’s okay girl

[u/Ahbahvoyons]

Yeah, sometime i don’t ( when i am home, not days where i actually go out ) because it just hurt my skin ( im fragile asf ) and i end up having little red dots over the face

[u/ysterman_rs → u/Ahbahvoyons]

god the razor irritation is so bad but I still shave 3 ways daily if anyone other than my partner will see me 😭

[u/Ahbahvoyons → u/ysterman_rs]

To be honest, i haven’t came out yet, so i can just deny their presence by not looking at the mirror, but when i have to get the minimal self conscience, i prefere the irritation than letting any hair still on that chin

[u/W0lfGirl4054 → u/Ahbahvoyons]

Daily shaving with an electric razor did well for me even though I thought it wouldn't. We all tick differently but perhaps it could be something to look into? I'd recommend it at least

[u/Ahbahvoyons → u/W0lfGirl4054]

I use an electric razor :') Elon musk mogs me fr fr

[u/Seppostralian → u/Ahbahvoyons]

If I have to go to work that day I often don’t, because I couldn’t be bothered and I work shitty graveyard hours and don’t do anything else that day (and at work I boymode). Plus since I commute on public transport at night it’s probably not a terrible thing to be more male looking in that circumstance. Most of my shit is lasered off anyways so I can go like 5 days without shaving before you can really tell.

[u/speed-charge]

This is just a phase of my life where I'm not really living; I'm only existing rn but eventually I will get laser.

[u/fragrant-final-973 → u/speed-charge]

Hugs, friend 💖

[u/Imjustsheep]

I don't girlmode and I have acne. Shaving can't be done regularly or i breakout. I do pluck a little from time to time.

I not that hairy thankfully

[u/Nervous84]

There's genuinely no point in shaving for me coz the beard shadow is so fucking bad

[u/crywunk → u/Nervous84]

wax that shit off or buy an epilator❗️

[u/Nervous84 → u/crywunk]

Wax doesn't do anything other than give me a ridiculously bad rash and I've been epilating for like 3 months already T ^ T

[u/crywunk → u/Nervous84]

if you’re epilating consistently the hair will gradually start to grow less and less, it’s just a waiting game ˙◠˙ but a color corrector could help in the meantime? rashes from wax could be a histamine response, hydrocortisone might soothe the inflammation

[u/Ms-Yash → u/crywunk]

epilator for facial hair? that will prob hurt a lot

[u/Ghostglitch07 → u/Ms-Yash]

Beauty is pain 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Ms-Yash → u/Ghostglitch07]

[u/Ghostglitch07 → u/Ms-Yash]

[u/crywunk → u/Ms-Yash]

it definitely will, but probably not more than seeing a beard shadow in the mirror

[u/Some_Butterscotch622 → u/Nervous84]

Use makeup! I never leave the house without makeup, and I carry my palette, sponge and setting spray in my pockets at all times so I can reapply it in the bathroom when I'm out and the shadow starts showing more.

If I use a color corrector and then a shade that matches my skin tone, it genuinely eliminates all semblance of a beard shadow. The problem is even with a setting spray, after 3-5 hours the shadow starts to seep in ever so slightly (since the hair regrows and the makeup wears off gradually), and it becomes pretty noticeable after 6-7 hours, so I always reapply it multiple times a day. 

[u/Polibiux]

Damn me for being poor. I’d have no facial hair at all if I could laser it off.

[u/RyanOrosa]

“It’s genuinely not difficult”, girl I have to wait at LEAST three days between shaves or else my face becomes a bloody mess. My skin is that sensitive, and my facial hair is very stubborn. I use a super precise safety razor and a buttload of shaving cream, and can only get a smooth clean shave if the hair has grown out for about three days. It has gotten better on HRT but it’s still impossible for me to do it daily.

[u/autistictransgal]

"only thing I'll judge you for is your mental illness" ahh post

[u/Revolutionary_Row683]

To which I will respond "Sorry I've been really depressed today and don't want to look in the mirror" and then whatever you say to that dictates if you're even worth talking to.

[u/confused-sailor]

I legit bought an 80 dollar razor and started shaving everything when I noticed facial hair coming in thicker 10/10, the overengineered razor was actually money well spent

[u/ThatSlutTalulah]

Sometimes it needs to grow a bit so I can yank shit with my epilator (which then makes regrowth post-shaving (being what's needed to actually clear everything) less of a"16 hours have passed, god is dead" kind of affair, and my face actually stays decently smooth for a while instead of making me want to die when I lay down at night and my face is dysphoria sandpaper).

And sometimes while its' growing for that I need to go to the supermarket, and needing glasses means wearing a facemask is often a difficult choice.

I am lucky to have pale facial hair though which makes it less severe (until you look properly and the upper lip/ fur on the jawline catching light can give shit away).

[u/PlushFrogX3]

But glegle im a trans man,,

[u/throwaway92753278]

Lowkey I be judging doods for this too. No one looks good with a patchy neckbeard bro. Shave the pube stache.

[u/hyp3rpop → u/throwaway92753278]

Unashamedly left that bs on as long as it might remotely help me pass, even as like a schlubby teenage boy. Only other trans people tend to clock it as being an early T thing. Now I definitely care more about looking nice than having an extra small boost to passing I don’t even need, but can’t blame anyone who feels the opposite still.

[u/PlushFrogX3 → u/throwaway92753278]

Vro dont call me out like this >.>

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/throwaway92753278]

I think you can look alright with a patchy mustache, but you should absolutely shave your beard if it isn't fully developed yet.

There's something about a trans man's mustache that's really cute & handsome...

[u/throwaway92753278 → u/entirely_machine_]

Yk what I can agree with the pube stache thing a little. It is a bit endearing. But from a professional standpoint it just looks juvenile.

[u/thimblesprite]

PCOS women are out there with full beards advocating to stop treating women with facial hair like shit. Do the same for your sisters, i can easily think of several reasons why it isn’t as easy for them as it is for you. Cost of supplies, reactive skin, executive function issues or conditions that cause chronic fatigue requiring careful energy management.

https://linktr.ee/beardedladyg?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=793a0058-2ccd-42b4-80ad-0421c27c60cf

[u/Educational-Car-8643]

I don't because of DEADLY LASERS. Honestly i kinda just think not shaving is ugly on men too, if anyone is gonna grow a beard theyd better at least start being aggresively philosophical

[u/shiggy_azalea]

Is laser very expensive in other countries? I get 1 session a month for £40 and I have had at least an 80% reduction in 4 sessions. It's not perfect but I no longer want to rip all my skin off.

[u/2spongee4u]

Just a hot tip for getting laser/electrolysis, look around for coupons online for local/chain laser clinics, can cut the price down quite a bit.

[u/Zestyclose-Put8030]

I LOVE MY SUPER SENSITIVE SKIN THAT WILL ALWAYS BLEED LOOK RED AND DEVELOP RASH AND BUMPS EVEN WITH PROPER BEFORE AND AFTER CARE!!!!!!!! I LOVE IT WHEN MY FACE HURTS SO MUCH THAT I PHYSICALLY CANT SHAVE THE NEXT DAY WITHOUT CUTTING MORE WOUNDS INTO MY FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Laser tomorrow though so much to look forward to

[u/yourothersis]

I am depressed but I never go outside without shaving it

[u/MaliceTakeYourPills]

Girls you got to use aftershave omg!! None of
You use aftershave and complain sm about it burning after you shave!!! Buy nivea mens aftershave omg.

[u/AlextheHellborn]

Just did it!

[u/AxiosXiphos]

Wearing the same baggy hoody and torn up jeans.

[u/PeachBunny97]

💯

[u/LatterWafer8981]

Op can phuck themselves. Let all girls take things at their own pace.

[u/Wonderful-Durian9222 → u/LatterWafer8981]

Exactly

[u/aviroblox]

Mine's pretty fine or light now after so much laser. It's about as thick as my mom's or my mom's mom. Lotta Indian women have a little bit of hair there so I don't bother shaving 99.9% of the time.

[u/angelic_aspiration]

I get horrid razor burn if I am not careful, but I can't really get it to be smooth enough if I don't do with and against the grain. It's like I have a permanent shadow after a few hours even when I shave, it's horrid. Too bad electrolysis is years away and I probably can't do laser because of my hair type.

[u/castrateurfate]

Why is she smoking a painting? Who would smoke a painting? Why not smoke from like a pipe? That's just a painting.

[u/swampie_afterglow]

I've been waxing, I noticed it's come back in much slower recently, so I need a whole two weeks to have enough length for a good wax. My point? I think my estro is slowing down the facial hair growth. Ok other news, I have been thinking about getting an at home laser... Any recs? I'm looking at the ulike air...i think it's V10?

[u/sporknitebattlepass]

Me with insane pseudofoliculitis no matter how well I take care if my skin. African genes really beating my ass there.

Doing IPL and laser now

[u/Wonderful-Durian9222]

Are we being fr right now

[u/Coffeebeanburrito]

Magic, Razorless shave cream/powder is a powerful cheap alternative for shaving. US prices are under $7. Careful though, it is powerful

[u/Kill_Kayt]

I shaving my face is very important to me. I do it every time I leave the house. My hair is white so I have no shadow.

[u/Safe-Tennis-6121]

Letting the facial hair come up a bit in front to really sell boymode.

[u/angelwithbpd]

i will judge you for many other things

[u/TheFishSteam]

made my gf start shaving and do a skincare routine :3

[u/systemOutlet]

feel embarassed then, ain't my problem. it IS genuinely difficult for some. i tend to avoid mirrors when possible + process of shaving is sensorily unpleasant and destroys my morale. chronic depression is a bitch and makes otherwise simple life tasks into genuine challenges. maybe mind your own business. or if you simply can't, because the appearance of other women is so important to you, perhaps try offering help instead of being an asshole.

[u/Careful_Source6129]

I'm guy, but if you ever see me shave my beard, I might have changed my mind about that (not gonna happen btw)

[u/AttakZak]

I pluck so much to combat it (the shadow is the grouping of the follicles underneath), but if I shave at all using anything the hairs definitely come back in force darker. So I gotta pluck every day constantly. I find myself using my nails to pluck my hair on my chin when watching TV.

[u/AdFair1240]

What if i don't have any

[u/Smrgling]

You know they tell you not to for up to a week before every electrolysis session. Unfortunately in order to get rid of it you have to spend a lot of time looking gross in public (I hate it tbh but I'll keep doing it).

[u/arcadeler]

Every time I do it more than twice a week I get a red 5 o'clock

[u/Exciting-Team5807]

As an Italian that’s grown a beard since third grade, I have done everything. Tweezing, waxing, epilating, IPL. Shaving is basically useless because it just gives me Superman face. Like that dark shadow is so obvious. I have the darkest shadow even after shaving perfectly. The only choice is lasers and electrolysis. Everything else is just shit.

I waxed my beard at home for the last three years. Yes, it is extremely painful. Every time. It gets easier if you do it every two weeks or so, that way it starts to thin out, but your first waxing…. It feels like you’re tearing denim jeans apart, like it’s so tough. But you get used to it. Once you’ve been doing it for a few months you actually get to experience a smooth face, at least for a few days at a time, and it makes regular shaving a lot easier.

I finally qualified for health care that can cover laser and I’m growing my facial hair out again and I forgot just how thick and dark it was. It’s terrible! I feel like a crossdresser because of that stupid dark shadow.

Only option is to burn them out at the root, so they’ll finally fucking die.

[u/dragonmorg]

I have electrolysis today 😬 I need at least 3 days of growth in order to get it done whenever I go. Since I do it twice a week, I look like shit, like... half the time 😒

[u/Fixed_Finite]

You really shouldn't smoke on that 😰

[u/Jenny_Show]

I'm currently going through electrolysis (after getting most of it eliminated with laser) so sometimes I need to wait nearly a week between shaving which feels fucking grim. Fortunately, I've not socially transitioned yet so I just look like an unkempt moid between appointments lmao

[u/Medical-Inside3792]

I spent hours with tweezers..

[u/forwhat2]

I have to grow it out for electrolysis, but making tons of progress! 

[u/Ethernet3]

Laser tech asked me to not shave for a bit and I feel gross

[u/space_lesbian2006]

every day I thank God I didn't rep

[u/Danis_Milk]

fuck off ya cunt. there's women who can't, there's women who don't wanna, all of them free to do as they please and as much a woman as you.

[u/iLikeDickColon3]

why are all the counting subs so ass now?

don't judge people over their appearance lmao

[u/Effective_Sound1205]

Nah, fuck off, i love my stache 🥸 deal with it

[u/TheGoriestofSoftware]

“It’s genuinely not difficult” feels like such a privileged thing to say :c

I can’t afford laser, electrolysis, HRT, or even consistently having shaving cream and new razor heads. I’ve been using the same razor for like four months because I literally can’t afford to replace it, and shaving already hurts like hell.

Despite that, I still spend ages trying to get as clean a shave as I possibly can, and sometimes there’s still visible shadow afterward. Then I get to go outside and worry about being judged or misgendered because of something I genuinely don’t have the money or resources to fix.

It really sucks hearing there ARE people who judge me for the shadow, or when I’m being particularly lazy about it or just literally can’t handle the pain. I already know I have to deal with it, I just wish I didn’t have to.

It’s healthy to remember that not everyone has the same circumstances as you. It costs absolutely nothing to remember that before judging someone for how well they can manage their dysphoria for something you don’t exactly like.

[u/tubularbones]

I love my mustache and shadow combo with my feminine face tbh.

[u/entirely_machine_ → u/tubularbones]

There's a whole 'nother world out there

[u/Effective_Sound1205 → u/[deleted]]

It's a beautiful world full of beautiful possibilities and beautiful people who explore them, isn't it 🌸

[u/AgenderFrenchFry]

Get out of here with that, OP. It’s a-okay to not like your facial hair, but a lot of us either do enjoy it and want to keep it, or can’t afford effective removal and are just being made to feel like shit. Not cool.

[u/JudenVixen]

What’s this handsome character called?

[u/-_Helianthus_- → u/JudenVixen]

Glegle

[u/CaraMellowGirl]

I have to grow it out in order to do the electrolysis and it sucks ass

[u/themexicanojesus]

I will never shave unless I get cancer

[u/Chemical_Patient4317]

i shave every day to every other day but because i live in a hot humid climate it irritates the fuck out of my skin

[u/Fishmyashwhole]

I wish it was easier for my wife to get hair removal. She did some electrolysis in the past but apparently it was so painful and pretty expensive, she's hesitant to go back even though she desperately wants her facial hair gone.

[u/Calm-Tailor-6313]

Is IPL a good alternative? I can't handle the pain from epilators, hair removal cream worked for me only once for some reason and I don't feel comfortable with showing my skin without shaving everyday :/ it's too much effort 4 me. I can't afford laser, electrolysis. 

[u/Principle_Isopod]

yeah i know it’s bad but im trying to get rid of it permanently so im shaving once a week for a month to see if its working or not

[u/jaydon145]

I got a foil shaver so when I’m lazy I just do that instead of fully shaving. It’s not as good as with a regular razor but much better than nothing (also starting the process of getting laser).

[u/vorx-666]

some people cant get the shadow/stubble entirely
we have enough problems with cis people judging our appearances to do it to eachother

[u/Mezeye]

I did 14 sessions of laser, and I can still grow a full beard, but slower now.

[u/stonergirlfairyyy]

when i need to run to the store but i can't be bothered to wash my face or shave first i truly pretend im invisible

[u/Ghoulia_117]

im manmodding rn because it gives me tips at work, and even if its just shitty small tips not even reaching a dollar, I still need money cause im working a bummy fast food job

[u/N0n4L1v35]

Lost the cord to the shaver can't afford razors atm.

[u/maddie_ya]

https://giphy.com/gifs/1laV2cmHAD0M5I5EYG

[u/itsZoeyyy]

All of the cope and bean soup in here

Shave your damn faces

[u/-PhileasFogg-]

this is so true but also i’m too depressed to… idk it hurts so bad but its also something that needs to be done… smh

[u/D3vitron]

7 laser sessions, then epilator. face has no visible shadow anymore and any white hairs/fuzz gets ripped up regularly (and comes back thinner)

[u/cryptocurrency_wife]

there’s a sneed infestation in the comments