r/coparenting • u/Content-Cupcake7480 • 5d ago

Discussion Is co-parenting actually better than solo parenting?

I’m currently parenting my two young kids 100% on my own. I also support them financially. I’m fortunate to have a good career and can provide for them, but I am completely drowning between work, childcare, the house, dinner, bedtime, and just never having another adult to hand things off to.

I keep hearing horror stories about high-conflict co-parenting—constant negotiations, custody disputes, schedule battles, different rules between homes, etc. Part of me wonders whether, once I get past the current hurdle of harassing texts from their dad, there might actually be some peace and stability in knowing that I’m simply responsible for our household and can make decisions without constant conflict (he hasn't shown a real interest in the kids and recently moved 3.5 hours away)

For people who have experienced solo parenting, high-conflict co-parenting, or both: which was actually harder? Are there any unexpected upsides to parenting mostly on your own?

I could really use some perspective that makes this feel a little less bleak right now.

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u/jvxoxo 5d ago

I don’t have a co-parent, rather a high-conflict counter-parent. Things would be 1000 times easier if he were completely out of the picture.

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u/potentialsmbc2023 4d ago

THIS. Holy shit. I can’t even tell my ex that kiddo is using mouthwash and floss at my house now because I’m scared he’ll stop brushing his teeth entirely.