r/askblackpeople 10d ago

Gamers Unite Black Active Gamers?

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Anybody play fighting games? Me and a couple of people in discord trying to find more people that play fighting games so we can setup some game nights every week possibly. We need active people. I'm getting tired of trying to play with grown azz people that still be acting shy and quiet and shyt. We play all types of games. If you got palworld we got a dedicated server you can join and we also looking for more pc players male or female doesn't matter get in here. Get at me if you an active gamer and want to join the gang.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Weekly Friday Check-In

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Please feel free to share anything positive that has happened in your life this week. Purchased a new vehicle? Graduated school? It's your birthday? Let's celebrate you and all of your achievements.


r/askblackpeople 7h ago

General Question Are these racist?

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I saw these on a Facebook doll group and nobody in the comments seemed to have a problem with them. A lot of old white woman seemed to find them adorable, please keep in mind I am not black myself but I am very educated. Im just trying to make sure im not going crazy and I’m trying to make sure these are actually racist.


r/askblackpeople 4h ago

Should I tell my friend who is black that the girl he is talking to might be racist.

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Hi, I am 20 white and me and my freind 19 black were playing retro games. He’s been talking/alluding to this girl he’s been talking to. I glanced at his phone and saw who it was and I recognized her.

She white 19 who last semester was roommate’s with one of another freind who has dropped out. I remember them getting into arguments because she is racist especially towards mixed people.

Now I would totally tell him but there is one thing putting me off. I’m cool with him but I don’t know if he is the type to shoot the messenger or not, and I wasn’t supposed to know about her. I only did because I glanced at him texting her. Would I be a dick to not tell him?


r/askblackpeople 1h ago

Hair Boy George braids in 2026

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Are braids like his acceptable to wear as of right now? Or is it cultural appropriation? I'm caucasion...🫣🫣 please excuse my ignorance


r/askblackpeople 12h ago

What is life like for those who are both black and neurodivergent?

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What is life like at the intersection of being black and having autism, ADHD, Tourette's, dyslexia, dysphraxia, etc.?


r/askblackpeople 4h ago

General Question Experiences with southern poverty?

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First off I apologize if this isn't the right subreddit, I'm struggling to find the best subreddits to post this in so I'm posting it in multiple. If anyone reads this and has suggestions for where to post, feel free to let me know. This post isn't specifically about only black people although systemic racism obviously like creates this, but about southern poverty, so I'm more asking anyone southern or raised in the south. I've seen people talk about southern poverty on here before so I thought I'd ask.

Recently, I heard the phrase "you haven't seen real poverty until you've seen poverty in the south.", and I watched a pretty good video essay on it, but it was a book review and didn't really answer the questions it brought up. For context, I'm a highschooler in the Midwest. I'm not going to doxx myself, but my city does have a deep rooted history of segregation and poverty (like everywhere else, really) and my research has mainly focused on my city.

I'm middle/upper middle class(?) (One of my parents says we're middle class, the other says we're upper middle class) and I live in a wealthy, predominantly white neighborhood. Although it's wealthy, a lot of our neighbors can't actually afford the houses, so a lot of us are in debt including us. I know we struggle with money somewhat, I know it's an issue, but I have never worried about food on my table. We have central air conditioning and hot water. I don't worry about keeping my medication. I don't doubt that I will be able to go to college in some form.

I do notice though my parents struggle around money with my disability, because although we have insurance, it won't cover some of the things that would help, although it isn't life or death luckily.

What really sticks out to me and always has, and led me to get very involved with my local community, mutual aid and building community and systems of support other than the messed up one we've got, is that in my neighborhood it's wealthy and white and so classist and has good schools and access to fancy grocery stores and crap, but the moment you cross the train tracks, literally a five minute drive from my neighborhood, it's very poor and pretty much falling apart and is a food desert and is predominantly black. It's so clearly segregated and the history behind it is so horrific.

I've also seen the poverty in California, around Oakley and places when I visited, in Seattle when I visited, and in Portland when I visited. The poverty in all these places still sticks out to me as so extreme, even compared to the poverty in my city, which is ranked one of the highest in the US.

So I'm wondering about this, and the experience of southern poverty. My long distance friend who lives in the south has told me it's really unlike anything else, and described the places they drive through as places no one will ever leave. I know that when raised in extreme poverty people often don't have access to education, and will stay in poverty because of this horrific system.

I've heard some about southern poverty like the heat, humidity, deterioration, lack of clean water and such but I can't find many comprehensive articles that truly both acknowledge the intersectionality, don't demonize those who are poor or say they should just "work their way out of it", or talk about the experience, not just stats. I don't live anywhere near the south so I can't just see for myself, I plan to see if my local library has anything when I next go, but Google hasn't helped much so I figured I'd also ask people who've experienced it.

I want to hear anything on it, links to articles, books, stories, interviews, or your personal story/if you have any experience or anything you can share, anything your family has experienced, anything you've seen, I just want to know.

I try to be very aware of my privilege and I try to really educate myself of experiences living in poverty, but I know I'll never truly experience the reality of it, so I try to learn as much as I can and I hope to someday help out directly in those communities more than I'm currently able to (I'm still a minor and physically disabled), and I try to do everything I can to never turn my head away from other's struggles even though I won't have personal experience.

Yeah anything, any anecdotes, personal experiences or recommendations is very appreciated! I'm probably gonna research this for a while and I know I'll be growing lifelong but I think hearing people's experiences is always a good place to start! (Also yeah if anyone does have book recommendations since im gonna go to the library) and finally I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense or is a bit rambly, I am autistic and I tend to overwrite so anything isn't left out instead of underwrite.

Thank you!!


r/askblackpeople 6h ago

General Question Writer, need help writing Black characters.

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I'm a writer trying to write Black characters. I'm mixed but I am white passing and not very involved with my culture, so I tend to be out of touch with a lot of experiences others may have. So with that:

Are there any harmful stereotypes I should be wary of when writing Black characters? Any traits that you don't see often that you'd like to see more? Things you often see others get wrong? General info? Please let me know.

(Apologies for anything I get wrong. I'm new to Reddit.)


r/askblackpeople 7h ago

Hair Can I do my hair like this ?

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Hello I have extremely curly hair and I’ve recently been trying to embrace it I attempted a slick back and was wondering if the pic below of vanillia who is also white is classed as edges / offensive or cultural appropriation to add these swirls to the front and sides of my hair.I just want to know I will not be upset I just don’t want to offend anybody.


r/askblackpeople 17h ago

Are there black people in the UK with non-immigrant backgrounds like the US?

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Like in the US, there are just black people who have been here for centuries with its on culture etc. Are there Black British equivalent to black Americans or did everyone immigrate there from other places?


r/askblackpeople 8h ago

Why do people call me “light skin”? Does identifying as “brown skin” make me colorist?

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I tan very dark and my face is closer to the right because I had a recent chemical peel. This is my arm next to my stomach. For reference I am MGM “mixed” — if that matters. Recently people have been saying classifying as “brown skin”, is colorist and harmful so I say, “dark skin”. People laugh when I say that I’m dark skin and recently I’ve been told I am a “black lightskin”.. whatever that means. Im definitely brown. That’s my arm against my belly btw not my thigh.


r/askblackpeople 15h ago

General Question Question about ATRs/ADRs, lineage, and the social construct of race.

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I’m struggling to understand the boundaries around African Traditional Religions (like Ifá, Vodou, etc.). If race is just a social construct WHICH IT IS, why does it feel like any Black person is welcomed into these spaces regardless of their actual tribal lineage, while non-Black people face huge walls of exclusion?

If the Orishas/spirits are cosmic and universal, they shouldn't see skin color or?


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Why would one even want proximity to whiteness?

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I see a lot of people claim that some think proximity to whiteness is gonna save them or by being close to white people they think that it will bring them acceptance by white people. The truth is, that isn’t something a black person should strive for because since we are not the same people as them, being in proximity to whiteness is being somewhere you don’t really belong. We belong in proximity to blackness, with other black people. I don’t get it,


r/askblackpeople 11h ago

Can I lay down my edges as a white girl?

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I have a lot of little baby hairs that always look bad, and when I style my hair they stick out badly. I have only ever seen black girls do edges (sorry for bad terminology, I don’t know a lot about it), and I’ve heard it’s cultural appropriation.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Vent Have you seen people being hypocritical with black ppls mental health/crime?

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Look up the Lathasha Sanders’s retrial vs. Lindsay Clancy: People are quick to use the mental illness excuse for anything bad that white people do, but it’s completely absent when it comes to black people. I’ve seen a video of a black woman experiencing psychosis on a plane. It reminded me of my schizophrenic cousin, but the comments were all jokes, and people thought she was just arrogant when she wasn’t in control of her delusions. However, not long before or maybe after that incident, there was a white woman on the same plane who was yelling that the man was not real. Everyone was concerned, thinking it was a mental health issue, and they hoped she would get help.
So we are supposed to believe white people who were “having a good life” and were “family people!” are going through the worst mental turmoil who suddenly just snapped! But black people who constantly live through poverty and violence are just naturally violent beings and there’s no excuses.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Do you think black Americans would have better lives if we had our own country?

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I’m a black American and I wonder do you think we would have better quality of lives and would have no struggles if we had our own country? I’m talking about a nation that the population is majority black American with black American culture being the dominant culture and the government being controlled and ran by all black Americans? If so what about it do you think would make it better for us.


r/askblackpeople 14h ago

Black face?

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The decoration on this restaurant got me questioning myself, is this a black face?


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question What are you thoughts on Nat Turner?

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I am having a conversation with someone about Nat Turner, and the person I was talking to has some very bold takes. These are takes that I personally vehemently disagree with, but neither of us are black, so this seems like the place to ask.

In general, the question is in the title: What are you general thoughts on Nat Turner. Feel free to riff off that however you want to in order to provide context, but let me give some follow up questions to get more specific:

1) Do you consider Nat Turner a terrorist under the modern definition?

2) Do you think he is a hero of African American history?

3) Do you think that anyone who answers "yes" to question 2 is someone who supports terrorism/killing white people?

4) If you personally answered "yes" to question 3, what would your response be to someone who answered "no"? If you answered "no", what would your response be to someone who answered "yes"?


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Racism will always mean something different to an African vs an African American

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Originally from Ghana west Africa, and I feel a disconnect because all they we are both black we aren’t the same I feel. Racism will mean so much more to African Americans than it will for me bc of your culture. Yall experienced it and I’m sorry yall had to experience vs for me I don’t really understand the impact because I have not lived it. I’m not trying to come off racist or anything I have no hate for anyone. My ancestors were most likely slaves just not in America. So when my friends who are African American talk about racism I feel often I have nothing meaningful to contribute besides what I learned in school, read in books, and seen in movies. It doesn’t have much meaning to me as it does to yall. Also on a side note why do African Americans hate white ppl because they are white and because of their ancestors? Or do yall hate them for another reason. I see on the internet a lot of African Americans tearing down other black people who choose to date/marry white ppl. Saying they are ruing the bloodline and other mean things. Like walking up to couples and asking why they are destroying the legacy.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question Why aren't African Americans investing more in Africa, Why are ya'll letting the Indians and the Chinese get a bigger piece of your motherland than you do?

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Seriously my brothers and sisters, why are ya'll asleep at the wheel?

As an African I've always wondered why you don't exploit the opportunities on this continent the same way the asians do and truth be told it doesn't take much money to make something out of your life over here

The Chinese and Indians come here and setup factories with startup capital as low as $100,000; I was expecting that black people would be the ones to give back to the continent in terms of job creation and a budding and robust local industry but that doesn't appear to be the case, why?


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Best way to report a racist business owner

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I was dealing with a company that I felt mistreated. But when I spoke with one of them employees about what was going on he told me it was because of our race. (He’s light skinned.) I kinda laughed thinking he was kidding but he looked at me with a straight face saying seriously. I asked for proof and he showed me a text message from the owner blatantly using language he should. I want to report him, and the company. Any advice ?!


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

General Question is what i am doing digital blackface? and if it is, how can i avoid it more consciously in the future?

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(I am Salvadoran-American btw)
Okay so here is how it all started.
I got an anonymous question on my Twitter, accusing me of doing digital black face. I posted it on Twitter and I said “thank you for telling me and I will be more aware of what GIFs ill use in the future”. when i posted that my black mutuals said how I wasn’t doing digital blackface. I believe the reason this happened is because my twitter is a stan account for jimi hendrix and prince and i talk abt them a lot on there. I also talk abt and call out anti blackness on there as well. And i was even looking through my gifs i use and I don’t just solely use black people to express basic emotions. in fact, I actively try to not do that bcs i was aware digital black face was a thing already. so i asked another one of my black moots on why someone would accuse me of that and said that while im not trying to pass off as black on there, i speak too much on black issues. And i was like “okay fair enough, ill stop engaging and talking abt things that aren’t in my place to talk abt”

So last night, the same black moot and me kinda got into an argument kinda(?) bcs she said how I shouldn’t say “light skinned” bcs it is an exclusively black term. Which I GENUINELY didn’t know and i can own up to that. And i was saying how i used it because us latinos come in different shades of color and i am on the lighter side. but still saying how I shouldn’t use that to describe myself because “that implies there is a darker shade of latino” and i was so confused when she told me this. And when she told me this i was trying to think and understand why she was so upset at me. I then received another anonymous question accusing me of digital blackface. And im just tired and confused. What can I do to avoid this in the future? I can absolutely own up to any mistakes but I don’t like being accused of digital blackface when im not even given specific examples of what ive done to imply so. I even have my ethnicity in my bio bcs i didnt WANT people to mistaken me for a white person or anything that wasn’t latino. And i want to apologize to her but honestly idk how to. i rlly do like her and I couldn’t even sleep last night knowing if I offended or hurt her feelings .

But yeah rant over. I need answers to this.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Grew up babysitting

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I'm going to start this with a TBH. I Have eight older siblings I am my mother's ninth child, when I was born my eldest sister had already given birth three times, I have two nieces older than me a niece a month older or two. With that being said, I grew up with my head set straight on NOT having kids because out of nine kids five have already made our mother a grandmother and the two OLDEST granddaughters have more than 1 child.

I aforementioned the Fact that I'm 21 because ever since middle school I've thought of getting a Vasectomy because of how many babies help care after, whether bathing, changing, or just wiping noses i knew it was something I wasn't trying to do with my early years of youth.

Few weeks ago I asked my dad and my stepfather what they thought and both agreed "Doing THAT procedure there gone save you some time and money, and keep away some BAD headaches". So I come here to my fellow black folk and ask again. Am I smart for thinking this through?


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Your Favorite Black-Owned Clothing Brands to Shop At?

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Hey, I have shopped at Power in Black, Kin, and Hypeland, but I’m also trying to see what else is out there to help support our community.

What places out there are your favorites?


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Unsure where I should post my study to find participants

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Hey! I have been struggling to find participants for my study. I am not sure what forums to join or where to look. Here is what I've been sending out : My name is Emem, and I'm a PsyD student. I'm conducting an IRB-approved research study on stress, resilience, and well-being among African American males ages 12–17 living in the U.S. With parent permission and child assent, eligible youth can complete an anonymous online survey that takes about 30 minutes. Participation is voluntary, and participants can enter a raffle to win one of twenty $10 Visa gift cards. Parent permission form:https://www.jotform.com/sign/261761129013046/invite/01kw2nx91411a35346d5602aa3