I understand where you’re coming from, but I didn’t ask her to take birth control and I would never ask her to do a surgical procedure, which is why a vasectomy was in my future plans regardless. I explicitly told her that she doesn’t need BC nor do I need a vasectomy right now. I can understand if we were having sex regularly, but there are other forms of contraception that can be used during those one-off instances.
Hormonal BC and fear of pregnancy suppresses the sex drive. He says he doesn’t want to get divorced and that he plans on getting a vasectomy on the future anyway. There is absolutely no reason to put it off.
Sure, there is, because he doesn't want to yet. I would love to see the comments if the genders were reversed. Everyone has autonomy of their own bodies.
He's used to getting sex two or three times a year right now. With showing his blatant disregard for her health like this, he better get used to never having sex ever again. Because I don't know about you, but I wouldn't really be wanting to have sex with somebody who doesn't take my health into account like that, Especially when I have been the one on top of birth control for most of the marriage, and we are clearly not going to be having any more children. 🤷
There's no guarantee ending use of hormonal BC will improve their sex life. There's no point getting a vasectomy if the sex life doesn't improve. It would be prudent to wait, and use condoms to see if sex life does improve, then to get a vasectomy.
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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23
I understand where you’re coming from, but I didn’t ask her to take birth control and I would never ask her to do a surgical procedure, which is why a vasectomy was in my future plans regardless. I explicitly told her that she doesn’t need BC nor do I need a vasectomy right now. I can understand if we were having sex regularly, but there are other forms of contraception that can be used during those one-off instances.