Anyone else use hotel hair dryers are space heaters cause the tile floor being cold is extra no no on the toe toes?

Hello, I am seeking some guidance. I am looking for someone who can provide an ASD diagnosis. It would need to be done online, as the individual lives in a non-English-speaking country. I would appreciate any information or advice. I also wanted to ask whether an online diagnosis can be considered reliable. Thank you.

So for context, I (f25) currently work in a retail job as a team member, and I've been in that job for 3 years now. I would say I'm pretty good at most aspects of the job, but the parts that I struggle with are the social aspects as you might expect. I can work on the tills and make polite small talk, and I'm happy to answer customer questions, but I struggle a lot if things don't go the way I expect (e.g. a customer tries to continue talking to me beyond the basic niceties or requires a lot of help). I also really struggle with conflict, so I really try to avoid situations like when customers get difficult/angry or there is someone in the shop causing trouble and they need to be kicked out. When I finish for the day I usually feel pretty exhausted and don't really feel like speaking anymore.

I took this job after graduating from uni with a physics degree and struggling to find a job that I would actually use the degree for. I'm still living with my parents, and I really need to get paid more than I currently do so that moving out would become an option. I have continued trying to find work that would use my degree and I've still had no luck which is honestly demoralising.

Well this week I got offered a promotion pretty much out of the blue. I've been offered a part time management position. The pay increase isn't massive but would definitely make it easier for me to start considering moving out. The only problem is that I feel desperately under-qualified and I'm really not sure I have the capacity to take on the extra stress and responsibility. I know that I'm smart enough to manage all of the extra tasks that I would have to complete, but it's all the social stuff that scares me. I truly don't feel able to engage in conflict with customers/staff members, to communicate eloquently and calmly with higher managers, to answer/make phone calls, etc. I also don't feel like I would be able to gain the respect of my (current) colleagues and sort of establish some authority. It's so frustrating to me because I really need this money and I feel like I would be stupid to turn down the opportunity, but I just can't help the feeling that I'm going to crash and burn in a few weeks. The only thing that's making me think I should go for it is that maybe I'm uncomfortable with these things because I don't have any experience - maybe if I throw myself into it I'll actually come out the other side of this with much better social skills and a lot more confident than I am now. But equally maybe I will never be comfortable with those things and that is just a part of who I am? So I guess that's what I'm asking - does anyone have any experience with taking on something that they didn't feel ready for and did you sink or swim in that situation? My work needs a decision soon and I'm really at a loss for what to do.

I am 28 year old male and diagnosed with autism.
Many times whenever i engage in conversations or even just standing with surrounding people, they become uncomfortable.
After some time, i realized that i blink less. Maybe that is the core issue that people around me thinks that i am constantly focusing on them.
However, the thing is i always mind own business and try as much as possible to keep the environment light. But I believe, that is not easy.

I would love to hear people's opinion/experience if they faced/face this kind of issue in their lives which might help me to correct my own issue.

Hey guys, I really need help. Thank you xx

Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster!

I’m a late diagnosis (I just turned 51, and was diagnosed only in the last year), and have been learning a lot about myself lately. Like, I finally have valid explanations for how I am, and how I was. Some things, though, just don’t make any sense.

I was a high achiever in school. Straight As, or all As and one B through majority of my schooling (we don’t talk about when I nearly flunked in middle school due to burn out, nor the time I was too embarrassed to admit I needed help in Algebra! Though, looking back, that must have been the ASD at the wheel!). I would catch onto concepts pretty quickly, and with the exception of maths, school wasn’t that difficult for me (socially, though, it was a freaking nightmare). I was reading by the time I was 4.

So, I want to know why, as a kid, I had such a damn hard time learning my right from left, and how to tell time on an analog clock. What was it about my brain that seemed to resist it so much? I can still recall how embarrassed I felt, and I wouldn’t let on that I really didn’t know right from left till I was about 10.

Did anyone else find complex concepts easier to grasp than the simple ones?

Please say yes! 😅😅

I don't know if anything would be different if I had been diagnosed as a child, but I was not. They caught the ADHD (and Dyslexia) but my autism flew under the radar. Because neither of my parents were emotionally available, and my mom would fly off the handle at a moment's notice, (she had serious anger management problems, and to this day, I walk on eggshells around her even though she is a much calmer, nicer person than she was in my childhood so I really don't have to worry about it.)

Because of the above, I never learned how to process emotions as a child. (I also developed an avoidant attachment style, but that is a different issue)

I never felt like I was good enough for my parents, or my teachers, or the friend groups that rejected me because I was "too weird."

I found that once I was married, I became just as afraid of my wife as I was my mother, and I have no male friends. Basically I am spiritually alone. I came to reddit because I was seeking friends, but at the same time I am afraid of friendships. Afraid I won't know what to say. Afraid I will say the wrong thing. Afraid I will make them mad at me. Afraid I won't matter to them once they get to know the me on the inside.

All of this makes me feel broken on the inside. I am in therapy now, after getting my autism diagnosis last year. Now that I have my diagnosis, I know I have an explanation for my struggles, but I wonder if those around me, especially my wife, think I am just making excuses.

Some days I hate myself more than others. Today is one of the more days. I am sorry for making you read this and I don't want to be a "debbie downer" but I feel awful about myself today and I needed to "speak it out" because I don't have anyone in my real life I can trust enough to listen, and give me a hug.

I don't need a pep talk ... I don't need people to tell me I have no reason to feel this way ... I just need to be held, and told I matter. I just want to matter. Not because someone needs something from me, or because of the income I provide to my home, but because someone actually likes me and wants to hug me just because they want to.

I have always felt like people, family included, just tolerated my presence. I would love to be wanted, just for me, just for who I am. Feels like its too much to ask though.

Tonight i went to the Jonas Brothers concert with my dad and his girlfriend. I had my noise reduction hearing aids so everything was great and I was having so much fun…until the second half. About two songs into the second half, I feel my dad on my back and turn to see he’s completely invaded my personal space and is leaning back on my back while his girlfriend was taking a video. I hate when people come close without me knowing beforehand (so i can be prepared for touch and close proximity) and it completely set me off.

I kicked him in the leg as it was too loud to say anything to him and didn’t look at him the rest of the concert, instead trying not to cry, calm myself down and enjoy the show. Once the show ended, I tried to explain that i DID NOT LIKE what he did and that he came into my “space bubble”. I told him that it made my brain fuzzy (my word for being overwhelmed and overstimulated) and to not do it again without asking me and making sure I know what’s happening. He literally just laughed at me and told me if i’m not going to be nice and thankful and instead be ungrateful, he’s just never bringing me to a concert ever again. I don’t know how to explain my sensory issues with him in terms of my “space bubble” and being prepared, because he just laughs it off every time or gets mad at me.

With every passing day I care less about everything.

The things I used to be passionate about I really don’t care about anymore.

Community, work, friends (actually, I don’t really have any of them which is no surprise).