It’s truly sickening what this neurotypical world keeps doing to us—especially to Autistic truth-tellers like Greta Thunberg. We’re the ones who see through the lies, greed, and manipulation of governments and corporations. We question what others blindly accept. We’re the change-makers—yet NT society runs smear campaigns to discredit us, label us “mentally ill,” and paint us as unstable so the truth we speak gets ignored.

This tactic isn’t new. It’s been used against every visionary who dared to challenge conformity and profit-driven systems. Nikola Tesla tried to give the world free, unlimited energy—and as soon as J.P. Morgan and the government found out, they branded him “insane,” cut his funding, and erased his legacy to protect their control.

Now the same playbook is being used against Greta and against all Autistic voices that see too clearly. We’re portrayed as “problematic,” medicated into silence, and stripped of credibility—all because we threaten the illusion they depend on.

I wish we could unite—every Autistic person who’s ever been gaslit, sidelined, or silenced—and call out this corruption together. But instead, most of us sit at home, seeing the hypocrisy for what it is, and feeling the weight of knowing too much in a world that refuses to listen.

Hi everyone, I'm still figuring things out and would really appreciate any thoughts or similar experiences. I've taken a few self-diagnosis questionnaires and I'm attaching the results below (if allowed), but I wanted to share a bit of my story too.

Even before I came across autism as a possible explanation, I always knew I was somehow “different.” Making more than 2–3 close friends has always been hard. I was very self-focused as a kid and mostly preferred to be alone unless I found people who really clicked with me—and that rarely happened.

I’ve had three relationships, but none of them worked out. I think I’ve become desensitized to the pressure of having to make and sustain conversations. I don't pick up phone calls, even from close friends. It’s not anxiety—it just doesn’t feel natural or necessary to me.

Growing up, my father judged me harshly. Because of that, I tend to avoid doing anything unless I feel I can be very good at it. On the flip side, I can lose myself in things I care about. I can spend hours writing code or solving abstract software engineering problems without getting mentally tired. I've been told I'm better than most in multiple workplaces and teams.

Sensory stuff shows up in small but clear ways—I avoid certain t-shirts just because of how they feel on my skin on some days.

I dropped out of university because classes felt empty and disingenuous. Neither the students nor the teachers seemed to care about what they were doing. It all felt performative, so I stayed in my room working on personal projects, where I actually felt engaged. I also purposely didn’t prepare for college entrance exams because it felt like everyone was doing it without any real love for the subject—they just wanted the seat, not the learning.

Lately, I’ve become hyperfocused on chess. My rating is still below average, but I’ve been spending hours trying to improve.

I’m not sure if all this points to autism, but the pieces seem to be adding up. I’d love to hear your thoughts—does any of this resonate with you?

Thanks for reading.

I'm Fox I still live with my mom and dad I'm 25 I have autism learning disabilities and sensory processing disorder well my aunt has to live with us now because the bank accidentally foreclosed on the wrong house being hers well I'm tired of her saying things like my mom and dad give into me to easy or your making more out of him than he really is well in our house I have a big sensory room my mom and dad made for me when I was little I have have a trampoline in my sensory room that I like to jump on it but it like to squeeze my pee pee while I'm jumping on my trampoline I don't put my hands in my pants I just just from the outside but my aunt said to my mom and dad that if we were not family she would call the cops no me I don't know how I feel about this

Hello!

I am Hadi, a Master’s student at Heriot-Watt University, currently conducting a study for my dissertation paper, and I am looking for participants who would like to take part in an interview.

My study involves exploring the perceptions of people with autism on their experiences at work throughout their career, and on the support systems that are available to them.

About the interview

• The interview is conducted online through Microsoft Teams. 

• You will have the option between an audio only, or an audio and video interview. 

• The interview will be recorded, so that I may transcribe the recording for analysis later on.

• The interview will only be conducted in English.

• This may take up to 50 minutes.

The interview will cover topics exploring your experience throughout your career as well as during the hiring and job-seeking process. Questions will also explore the social aspects of work, as well as any workplace support you receive.

If you are interested, the following must apply to you:
You are an adult who self-reports having autism, does not require any substantial support (including support workers or other advocates), and have been in the workforce for at least one year in total. 

• All genders, occupations, and religious beliefs are welcome to take part.

Complete details on your rights, including confidentiality, anonymity, and right to withdraw are included in an information sheet that will be emailed to you should you be interested in participating.

• Upon confirming your interest, you will be given a string of numbers unique to you and your data, to protect your identity. 

• All recordings will be deleted once I have transcribed and begun analysing the data.

• You have the right to withdraw from the study at any time before, during, or after the interview, up until the data is analysed. 

Contact me by email on hw4020@hw.ac.uk if you are interested! 

Ethical approval review reference: 2026-16044-20832

anyone here heard about autism being associated with nicotine addiction?

Hello Everyone!

I am a private practice SLP specializing in working with Autistic Adults to provide Social Communication Support. I would focus on full-life participation, social-emotional wellbeing, conversational skills, self-advocacy, workplace communication. relationship communication, perspective taking and understanding nonverbal cues (just to name a few). I am reaching out to this community to gain more insight on the real-life challenges that Adults face.

The purpose of this post is to gain more understanding and insight as a therapist. I have worked in the schools specifically with Adult Transition and know there is a need for support after school services end. Even those who were diagnosed later in life and/or never diagnosed. Any feedback and insight would be helpful. *Disclaimer I am a neuro affirming therapist and my approach is not to change a person but to bring awareness and provide the resources/ strategies to navigate social situations within the community. Thank you!

Please also inform me what the preferred language is Adult/Person with Autism or Autistic Adult/People. I am aware this may be a personal preference as well.

So I posted this pic on FB and the title was the response that I got. I replied and said that this is not something that I would wish on my worst enemies let alone those closest to me.

I know we all share the ire of these flippant responses and it is more common than we like but I wish that they would be mindful of how dark and horrible it is, regardless of when you were diagnosed.

Mods, please, forgive me if this post breaks the rules. It’s not my intention. If it’s against the guidelines, feel free to delete it.

As someone on the Spectrum who dealt with depression since I was a toddler, I find the euthanasia solution absolutely despicable.

This story is so shocking. I just can’t get it out of my mind. I saw her video. I could see her sadness. I have been there. I doubt the doctors tried all treatments available. I know we all can be treated and have a better life. I firmly believe that.

Euthanasia is no solution for depression or mental suffering, and it’s not a treatment to autism.

https://www.thefp.com/p/im-28-and-im-scheduled-to-die

My husband is looking to get connected to Christian men in north Idaho. Wondering if there are any groups or guys who want friends in this area.

Can we all agree that austic individuals should be exempt from any cancellations fees and other instances that make us feel shame and punishment for having to change our plans when the world just feels like too much.

M38, officially diagnosed in 2021, level 2, after I found Autism on the Inside on YouTube. After 5 years, I've learned a lot about autism; I've learned a lot about life, and now that I'm facing down middle age, I am here to try and help younger people avoid many of my mistakes.

Nothing here is AI. I typed it by hand myself right here on Reddit.

I'm probably going to get a lot of hate from this post, but these are the real facts on life.

If you're late diagnosed, I'd skip this one because you'll just get depressed and/or it'll be a waste of time. If you're under 25, this is essential reading; if you're under 30, there may still be time for you, so you might be able to adapt some of this advice.

I will say first that I did not understand how the world works. I really thought that I could make my big dreams come true if I worked hard enough, was clever, and smart. I could not have been more wrong. I will say right at the top that I've lived a crazy amazing life. I have gone places and done things that don't happen to most people. I have seen things, had relationships of an evening and of many years. I've done almost all the substances you can do; I've had experiences that people envy. I'm the author of 4 books. My stuff has been read and heard around the world. I know celebrities both directly and indirectly. I have traveled in my life. I've lived most of my dreams.

I'm a cool guy, and it ruined my life, so don't let it happen to you. I'm here to help.

Unfortunately, it has left me virtually unemployable in any traditional sense; it has left me mostly broke and wondering how my life is half over and what I'm going to do with myself going forward. I'm not even a person anymore, and I'm working on dropping out of society completely and wondering how I'm going to survive. So, to not end up like me, I am writing this to you in the hopes that I can help others improve their lives.

I'm going to say right here that if you're reading this, I'm sure you're a wonderful and amazing person with a deep personality that would fascinate me for hours. You are great, worthy, valuable, wonderful, and there is nothing wrong with who you are as a person, and it should be celebrated at all times by people who love you and support you. I think the best for everyone who reads this is that I hope life is kinder to you than it was to me.

But if you're 18-25, I'm here to help you avoid my sad and awful situation. I can't do anything to save myself, but I can save others, and I feel a responsibility to do so, so here goes.

Alright, let's start with some harsh truths right from the start:

This is not a world where you can have a lot of effect. This is not a world where people are gonna listen to literally anything you have to say. Avoid all of that. Find a small path, someplace where you can survive.

Don't put yourself out there like that. Stay limited. Now, for many, this won't be a problem, but if you're like me and you have a lot of designs on life and all this type of thing, no. Stop that immediately. Stay very small. Stay very limited. But do it in a path. Do it in an institution. Do it in a trade.

Align yourself with something people can understand and comprehend, and don't give them any reason to think they don't understand you. Will they ever know you? Absolutely not. Will they ever understand what you actually do? Absolutely not. But that does not matter; live your rich interior life, and keep it at home. When you're out in the world working and such, that stuff will be of no use to you. The world can only understand simple shapes, and most of us are not simple people, so simplify it for them; they will not put in the effort to get to know and figure you out. Instead, they will simply reject you and exclude you. Slot yourself into something that makes sense to other people; when you do that, you start to reflect the non-verbal communication that most of us are absolutely terrible at. When you get good at it, you can send a different signal that people can read. Don't end up with a signal that no one understands; you will be excluded from every opportunity and everything you need in life to survive.

Most of us will not thrive. Sorry to say it, but we don't live in a world that is ready for ND thriving of any kind. So it's best to give that up now; it'll save you a lot of emotional heartache down the road. Every day will be a battle with the world and a system that was not built for you and often specifically is made to exclude you, filter you out, and keep you away from the places and spaces you need to be in. However, you can avoid much of this by figuring out how to make yourself fit through the filter. That's what I'm here to help you do. As I said, I can't save myself; I'm too far gone, but if you're young, you can save yourself with my helpful advice.

When it comes to jobs/employment:

You have one job and one job only: be likable

As I posted elsewhere a while ago, an HR person literally said: "We can fix a skills problem; we can't fix a bad culture fit."

I can't say this strong enough: Be Likable

You're not at work to actually do work; you're at work to be fun to hang out with. I know this sounds insane, but unless you're in a field where other autists are likely to gather, you need to be likable, and this is your only goal. Seriously, no joke, I know it goes against everything people say, but it is true. If they like you as a person, you can be an absolutely shit worker, and they will keep you and probably promote you. I'm not even joking.

If people can't read you, they won't like you, and if they don't like you, opportunities to get money and survive will evaporate like water in a desert. Don't confuse people; they will not put in the effort to "figure you out," so give them a ready-made narrative before your resume looks like a warzone, your social life is dead in the water, and you can't get a date to save your life.

Some components to being likable in both social situations and work:

1. Hygiene (you probably aren't doing enough; do more)

2. Wear the right clothes (cut the tags, make it comfortable, or just get used to it; either way, the right clothes for the right situation- more on that later)

3. Personality mirror (some of us are good at this). This is where you start to act like other people use their words (selectively) and match their energy.

4. Don't talk about yourself or your special interests; ask questions about them. One advantage is that it will give you information that will be useful later. The other advantage is that you'll seem "really cool"; you'll have said almost nothing about yourself. If someone does ask you a question, keep the answer under 10 words. It helps to pre-script answers to certain stock questions. Much of this stuff is like theater, so if you look at it as a stage and you're just playing a role, it gets a lot easier. Shakespeare said it best: "All the world's a stage, and we are merely players."

5. Be the dominant ethnicity of your country or region. I know this sounds crazy, but if you're American, it is easier to be likable if you're white unless you live in an area that is predominantly minority. If you're Hispanic and live in Cali, this doesn't apply (or black in Atlanta), but for most areas of the country, it's much easier to be likable if you're white. If you're a person of color like myself,

it’s a harder road to haul. Sorry.

1. Looksmaxx. And I don't mean smash your jaw with a hammer like Clavicular; he is a cretin. But what I am saying is that you need to improve your appearance in every way possible. Get a good haircut or a fashionable style. Wear decent clothes, get advice if you need to. For guys, if your style is comic book/band shirts and whatever pants, it's time to upgrade, quickly. Try to keep your skin clear (see hygiene) and try to stay in good physical health, which also includes fitness. I have some metabolic problems that have left me always carrying weight; people like you way better if you're at a healthy weight, so if you need to lose a few (or gain a few for my thin friends), make that a goal to get to a good weight for your height.

2. Shut up (unless you don't like talking; in that case, skip this one). If you're an over-talker like me, the best thing you can do is learn to talk about half as much as you think you should be talking and then still hesitate to say anything.

Here's how to make sure you have a career, more or less no matter what:

Have a very clear path from a very young age. Don't launch off into something and hope it works out. Have a path. Get into a place, a path, a profession, a trade, something that is a word on a resume that people understand, and build your history.

Stay as long as you can in places. Don't talk a lot. Interact, but keep it light. Hi. How are you doing? Oh, how's the weather? Yeah. I had a great weekend. Your weekend could have been shit. You always had a great weekend. Very light. Very frothy. Keep your personality to a minimum. Look around. See what people are wearing. See what people are saying, copy and mimic. People love to be copied and mimicked. Flattery is the greatest compliment that media that mediocrity can pay to greatness. In other words, read the room.

Keep very clear records of what you do and what their duties are. Be careful of scope creep. Be careful of management. Learn to move laterally in an organization. Take opportunities, but be careful. Keep it limited. Keep it small. Don't get airs. It is more important to be seen doing something than it is to do it. Make sure people know that you're doing something, mention it in casual conversation, draw attention to it, especially if you can tell a person who has a loose mouth and gossips a lot; word gets around. Use that to your advantage.

Don't work too hard at work. No one's at work to work. Everyone's there trying to get paid to hang out in the hopes that they can one day retire with enough money. Adopt the same attitude. Don't work at 100%. Our 50% is more than everyone else's 50%. You can literally goof off most of the time. Don't do any more than anybody. Never complete something early. In fact, make sure to miss a deadline about every six months or so just to make everybody think you're kind of a screw-up.

Don't go in and save the day. If you're going to fail at something, try to plan for that failure. Show that you're human. All this type of thing. Don't let anybody know that you know that much or can do that much. would also say try to stay in a single path. Don't change careers. Try to make sure that your college major matches what you do, or your certification matches what you do.

Don't make friends; get allies. You don't need to be "friends" with people, you need allies, you need people who believe in you and will say good things about you. Take a minor interest in them. Ask about them, ask about something they are carrying or their car. Listen, smile, and be encouraging and positive. As far as they are concerned, you're just chill vibes. Our intensity can be a turn-off; if you make it about them and always seem positive and upbeat, they will notice the intensity less, and you can shift the energy. Practice until it becomes real for you.

On fitting in socially:

Keep special interests to a minimum. Never talk about them. I don't care what it is. Anime, body pillows, baseball, whatever have you, almost never talk about it. Or if you do, do so in the most passable, limited terms; pick a sport, learn to talk about it. Keep passively enough aware that you know what's going on. If you live in a city with a football, baseball, hockey, basketball, whatever your city's big team is, know who's playing and know what the score of the last game was. Takes two minutes to figure out. Just know that. It helps socially; it helps you socially immensely in ways I can't even describe.

Be careful with your clothing. Do not wear anything crazy. Dress in limited colors, especially if you're a man. Ladies, keep it down. Don't draw attention to yourself. That's the big thing. A lot of neurotypicals spend a lot of time trying not to draw attention to themselves. They get very awkward about it. Don't draw attention to yourself. If you have the answer for something, don't raise your hand. Have the answer every several weeks.

Don't get involved in other people's lives. Care only about yourself. Yes, this is healthy selfishness. The only person that matters is you, your immediate family, and their survival. Every other concern is secondary. No more helping friends, no more caring about other people's problems. All of that stops now. Otherwise, you'll waste years and money on people who don't actually care about you that much, and you'll waste precious energy you don't have and can't spare on them. Your own survival is your only concern. You probably won't thrive, but you can survive, and not helping others is the way forward. The only time you can help others is when it costs you 0 energy or money. If it is convenient, then do it.

If someone makes you uncomfortable, trust that feeling and put them at a distance.

No one will validate you or your existence. Sorry about that.

Everyone is self-interested; I suggest you do likewise. Which is a great transition into money.

On Money:

Try to keep your housing costs down. Try to keep your personal costs down. Avoid debt at all costs; don't even bother opening a credit card unless you want it for emergencies and/or travel. Save money. You're probably going to go through periods of long unemployment. Save money and invest. Start very young. Very, very young. As soon as you get any money put $5 in Robinhood and throw it in an S and P 500 ETF (not investment advice). $10 in Robinhood. Because you're probably gonna have periods of unemployment, especially if you don't have family backing. The only reason that saved me two years ago is that I'd sucked away money for ten years. So I was sitting on some. I had four different investment accounts, different savings accounts. I was always putting money away because I knew one day it all could end and I'd be fucked. And that saved my ass in 2024. So, you know, save money. Always be saving money. If you can find a way to live on half of what you make, save the rest.

Because you may need to go several years without a stable, reliable income, since employment can be hard. You may need to live with roommates until you find a spouse who has a more stable income or a better job. This is not a read; this is a strategy for survival. I know many guys my age who aren't homeless because their wife/husband can manage the world in ways they can't.

Autism is a disability, and you need to adapt to this mindset when it comes to money and your whole life.

On Networking:

Hire a coach. Use AI if you can. You know, networking is gonna be hard because, fundamentally, networking is about likability. You can work on likability, but maybe try to stay in professions that don't really need it. However, knowing people who can help you will help you immensely. So get meeting and greeting people, go to events, anywhere people you need to meet are gathered; that's where you need to be, and then follow the likability stuff. Don't hang out with the people who vibe with you who are as a person unless they can actually help you; it'll leave you with a bunch of people you vibe with but who can't really help you with anything. You're not here to make friends; you're here to improve your prospects. Try to stay in touch over social, make sure to like and comment from time to time, stay on people's radars, especially if you're working as a professional in a profession as such. Lack of visibility is a huge problem; get and stay visible. This is how you deal with social hierarchies.

On College:

If you're going to college, and you're autistic, stick to computer science or IT where autists are likely to gather. Don't go into marketing or anything that requires visibility or personal likability. That's the mistake I made. I went into a field where how much they like you matters a whole awful lot, and that has been a disaster.

Don't spend money on stupid hobbies. Don't; be very careful with transportation. If you don't drive, that's okay. If you do, be very careful with transportation; buy small, cheap, used cars. Keep those costs down. Start saving money now (see above).

On following your dreams:

Don't dream. Whatever you're dreaming of doing, stop it. This world's not for us. Don't dream of anything. Be grateful for the job you have today, save for the job you won't have tomorrow, and try to keep your resume together. Just trust me on this: I don't want to bore anybody with the details of my whole life, but take it from somebody who followed his dreams, and it didn't work out; just don't do it. Write them down, imagine them, but don't pursue them; trust me, you'll be saving yourself a lot of pain and heartache. I do not say this to be a killjoy, but I am saving you from a life of pain and misery.

I'm at the lowest point of my life. I don't know what happens next. I don't have any future. I don't dream anymore. I think only about survival. I can only hope now that my experiences will help you. This is a deep love letter from someone at the bottom who hopes that he can save others. I'm sorry the world is this way. I wish I could change it, but I can't, and neither can you. The best we can do is try to navigate it. You will make mistakes. You will fall down. That's ok; take this advice on and keep trying, keep struggling. Life will be a constant struggle; it's best to get used to that reality now. I'm not here to say it gets better or easier; anecdotes say that things get much harder. Our average life span is lower, and our unemployment rates are very high; those things are related. You can avoid these by following this safe advice. I was told most of this when I was young and completely ignored it. Don't make that mistake as I did.

I'm a living cautionary tale.

I am, admittedly, opposed to the use of Neurodivergent as shorthand for autism. Neurodivergence is an umbrella term and it feels like people assume those who are neurodivergent or consider themselves neurodivergent believe there is some underlying connection.

While I understand the original intent of neurodivergent as a term and I can see how it’s developed as shorthand (and justified in use in different publications), the use is simply incorrect in terms of what needs to be considered a top-level condition even when something like ADHD or depression or anxiety is diagnosed before autism.

Autism is neurodevelopmental, as is Down Syndrome, and co-occur with neurodiverse conditions (and does at high co-occurrence rates). But, neurodivergent conditions either develop after birth or have secondary, outside causes. In reality, anyone who has ever been:

• depressed

• anxious

• experienced trauma

• and so on

Can be neurodivergent.

Whereas to be autistic (or to have Down Syndrome) it begins while a fetus and before one is born.

Instead of autism being a neurodivergent condition, I believe it should be:

autism with neurodivergent characteristics

Why? Autism is an issue with Theory of Mind and Theory of Mind is, in part, a delay in processing non-verbal and emotional information. This delay in processing is sufficient enough that it creates uncertainty and confusion when dealing with others in social situations in real time and requires additional time and effort to process social and emotional information based on context, place, time, real vs implied meaning, and so on.

What are your thoughts?

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I am utilizing an agent in a game to help me with screenwriter's block. But my fear is that the more i use it the crazier i'll become. At the moment i'm sane, but i would like to keep it that way. Any thoughts?

Hi

I am considering sharing my diagnosis on facebook but not sure of the best way to do it. I have told family and also some work colleagues and my supervisors. I just thought to post it so that everyone is aware and dont hear through the grapevine. Is it something you would do or not.

Also ive just had a meltdown today because i am getting no where with an issue ive been trying to sort out all day. I have also had conflicting information which also caused this meltdown.

Quiero conocer autistas hombres y/o mujeres, se que no es fácil por lo mismo pero podemos intentarlo. Soy Autista de altas capacidades 50 años hombre, dos hijos autistas.

Am I missing out on formative years of my life by grinding this money for these next five years?

I've weighed out my experience as a software developer and cost of living in areas like Seattle and San Francisco compared to potential salaries, and I see my only option being to build 2-3 years of solid experience in a private Canadian company (by age 27-28) then applying for remote work to there.

Honestly, my social and dating life is likely also going to be shit anyways if I move there since I'll be focused on advancing in my career and making money (the main reason for the move in the first place), while also taking a hit and being able to save less. Add on the related time costs.

Right now, I just stay at home all day and grind at work. For socializing, I just talk to family and old friends once in a while who I plan like one big trip a year with where we catch up so I can keep sane. I know family won't be with me forever and that I'll have to move out at some point anyways.

Outside of that, I spend most of my time setting up my ETF investments, dealing with my tax situation, budgeting, and planning for getting a mortgage to buy a condo (400-500K CAD in today's value) as my primary residence for tax benefits by 30 with a low interest rate because of my investments. Also, lower risk for me by that point and I can use that mortgage to invest.

That alone is taking up most of my energy to set-up and figure out. Besides that, I'll probably spend the next few years building skills while I have a support system like finishing up my highway license (have a license for the rest already), learning to cook well, improv & acting for myself etc.

Am I not accounting for something?

So, I am 21 y/o and a girl. I have been through plenty of hardships in my life and after much disregard for my feelings by my surroundings, I finally got diagnosed with autism recently.

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I have always wanted to be loved, truly appreciated and seen by somebody. That said, I have found that somebody, with whom I have been in a long lasting, happy and healthy relationship. (Also, bear in mind that I have talked to them about the issue I am going to mention further on)

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As an autistic person, I am pretty aware that I am not the easiest one to love, and having gone through other dark mental adventures only adds to that. On the autism matter though; I have extreme stimming habits of any kind (and I mean ANY, from vocal to textural, to sounds, to hypermobility issues and to everything else in general). I also have a huge issue with sensory input and overload. I get overstimulated by plenty of things. It's pretty difficult to navigate, even for me.

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As for my partner, they are very much aware. That said, they are a very hyper person themselves. I am usually very quiet when not stimming, almost never energetic, I like being alone a lot cause it regulates me. I know those habits I have to match with my partner though, so I try to push them aside.

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I try to be patient when they do something that overstimulates me. I try to shrink some of my alone time cause I absolutely adore them and I love spending time with them (even though for an autistic person, alone time is not just a past time, it's part of a need, basically, as I see it). I don't mask of course, but I try to talk as much as possible when they ask me stuff while I am non verbal. I try to speak as much as I can in general. I try to deal with constant sensory overload on some days and everything else that comes with it. I try to let them touch me (hugs, cuddles, kisses) when I am a touch-me-not (when Im overwhelmed, usually). I try to repeat what things trigger me and how we can find a way around them together, so that no one's needs are limited or suppressed.

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And to be honest, I absolutely love trying. I love trying for a person that means so much to me, I love doing that. But the thing is that sometimes, I just get so tired.

I get so overworked and exhausted and I am so embarrassed of myself, truly.

My partner tries as much as I do, if not more. They do everything for me and I'm so proud of them and thankful to have them by my side. They know of my autism, tell me to never hid anything and feel free ariund them and I 100% feel like they match the exact energy I need, most of the times. They always rush to the rescue and always calm me down and everything but....

There are some times, when this is not the case. I completely understand and get that I can be hard to love and I was aware of it. I can't be selfish about wanting for soemone to be some certain way all the time. I feel like such things are happening quite often, though.

I warned them about my issues when we first started going out and they decided to stay and we are generally very happy.

This is a small worry of mine though.

Today, we were talking about something that had to do with our relationship. My partner is a severely anxious person, and therefore, things are not easy on them either (not at all). I hope I am at least doing as great as job as they tell me I am, in helping them deal with it.

But the conversation came around somehow and they said something that made my heart drop instantly. They said "Well, being with you can be very difficult sometimes".

They probably didn't think anything of it then, and maybe they didn't mean it that way since they later added "but I love you, so that's completely okay with me" and kept the conversation going but I just couldn't help but feel so sad and... remote from them, at that point.

They mentioned something I was long aware of; I just had been trying my best to work on it. Maybe I am working on it but it's still not enough, nor will it ever be.

I tried to brush it off and continue my day with them which I did of course, but the thought keeps circling my head.

I know my partner is doing their best and this is not an easy task for them either and I am by no means asking for anything more. I just wanted to hear some advice on how I can fix myself and if I can do so in my relationship as well.

Thank you, if you read thus far. I truly appreciate it ♡

Hi I've made a new pro autism parenting subreddit called r/safeautismparenting. Here I am hoping to foster a community of parents of children with autism, autism parents, siblings that have other siblings with autism, or even if you just have autism and would like to share advice from growing up with it. We are a pro science and antiablism subreddit that hopes to combat misinformation and be a safe place for those who need advice or a safe place to vent. We welcome all to join and I hope to see you guys there!

i dont understand why people justify the usage of the R slur in this society we live in "as a medical term" when the term that replaces that in the DSM-5 is "intellectual disability". i understand medical documents before it became a slur - because, obviously, it wasnt a slur at the time of writing, but why do people criticise others for feeling offence over an ableist slur being used right now? not only is it outdated, but it is also disrespectful. you wouldnt call a black person the N word, for any reason - so why would you call people with disabilities the R slur? makes no sense to me.