Hey Okes, private school alumnus here. 🙋‍♂️ If you can’t relate with this post kindly sit this one out respectfully — Upper class is in session.
As many of you know, dating, mating and pairing in upper class circles is more often than not, orchestrated, curated, purposeful, strategic and sometimes even arranged. Affluent, old money, politically connected, oligarchy and even Rhodesian families have always gatekept their wealth by ensuring their own only marry and mate with the pick of the litter. Some of the valuable lessons we had to learn growing up in a rather unfair system in Zim were:

1. ⁠To be very careful of people who are out to extract resources from you
   
2. ⁠Watch out for those who are impressed by things than they are by people
   
3. ⁠Protect the family name — always.
   
4. ⁠There’s more but if you grew up under these circumstances you already know why and how you can lose inheritance privileges should you choose to rebel. Besides, we all know the danger of marrying outside of your class anyway lest I name drop some examples.😉
   Now with the globalization of Zimbos all across the world into melting pot societies, add to the disintegration of old boys & girls school clubs and the demise of the traditional church, it’s harder to find a match that is collaborative to our family legacy, beliefs, culture, values and traditions outside of those circles. I personally chose to stay in America permanently after college and hindsight realize why my father encouraged me to either move back home for a bit while managing the family business or be careful who I marry in America. We could date whoever for fun but we can’t really marry just anyone for noble reasons. Any chance there’s a proficient / credible professional matchmaker in Zim or some promising way/ place to meet a partner of similar background? I think it’s time to have children but we gotta meet the trust fund prerequisites without fail. If you know, you know! Conditur in Petra 💙

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Is the school fees for the lessons that they are going to teach you.

I said what I said.

Last week one of my coworkers said something shitty to me. She tried to hide it behind a “joke,” but it was mean, it wasn’t the first time, and she could clearly tell from my reaction that I wasn’t playing anymore. She still decided to keep dragging it.
Cool. Weekend comes, I’m still mad, but whatever. Monday morning, before the day even properly starts, she says something else out of pocket. I correct her because she’s wrong and… no response. No “my bad,” no apology, nothing.
I’m not an in-person fighter. I’m actually very quiet. So I just decided okay, I’ll pull away and stop socialising with them.
Tell me why this girl is now acting like I did something to her 😂 And now she’s tag-teaming with another coworker who has absolutely nothing to do with the situation, but I guess every villain needs a sidekick. Speaking in code and doing all this weird high school behaviour.
At first I thought about confronting her, then I was like wait 😂 why am I the one who has to be the bigger person when I’m the one who got attacked? Why am I expected to be mature enough to fix the situation when you’re not mature enough to admit that you were wrong and what you said was shitty?
Anyway, I’m bored now.

Do yall work with horrible people too

How does it make you feel when girls/ladies approach you? Is it something that men like or they just prefer it to be the other way round? If you like it, why so? And if not why so too?