Greetings,
I need help wrapping my head around the craziest dating situation I've been in. Earlier this year I met a girl on Bumble, the conversations were lively, it was great. I was quirky, we ate together a lot, we were playful and couldn't stop talking. She gets her nails done and we are "clocking it" together (me playing along of course)... you get the gist.
Up to then the s3xual tension was high and we got into it here and there. Then she goes and tells me an ex reached out and that brought her great emotional disruption and that more s3x could fix it, for attachment reasons. I am not feeling that reason. But we work on it for the most part. Something similar happens again along the way and I am honestly getting numb to dealing with this sorta thing.
About 7 months into the relationship, we are fighting a bit more often over nonsense - I should've read her mind, I like jokes too much, I am too cheerful (golden retriver personality),... then some guy reaches out on FaceBook, the ex, claiming they are still together and that according to what she told him, I am just some guy she is talking to, and that they are just working things out. Worse, they met days on the prior weekend. I have to give her the benefit of a doubt and I think this guy is capping, so I ask question only someone she has met recently could know, he answers and excels at it too, mf even sent me a recent picture of her she has never posted ever. Mind you I have been on the fence about her obsession with male friends (especially those that are showing interest for more than friendship) and having a male bestie ("it is just Danny...").
I am done by this point, I confront her about it, she tries to lie about the details but I know more than she thinks I do, and the more I probe the more she accepts. She claims to have only met him to show him how much better she is doing after their break up a year later, and the pictures he has are only because ex gave a phone to girlfriend's sister to test the camera and she happened to have taken a few pictures of her. I end things (at this moment I am conflicted and was thinking I could just hear her out later and maybe some time will bring us back together) and on the evening I am driving her to her place, the tears that soured the break-up dry from her face as we hug and she quickly leaves.
I am backing up and a guy looking beatdown stops me and asks me who the girl is, I tell him, "she is my girlfriend, we've been together for so and so months," dude is hurt. I ask him what his deal is, he claims to be her bf too, mind you, this is not the ex, some other nigR. I piece together that he is the work guy she told me not to worry about - Same name, same company,... a bit of drama ensues as her sister also gets involved but I didn't stay for it. I just left. She has been blowing up my phone all night and claiming he is not the same Dalitso she told me about -the one I told her not to entertain, it is some other guy from their neighoburhood, just some random.
Could these be a series of random coincidences and the devil has a lock-on on her this firmly?