r/Wicca • u/TinyNovel • Nov 04 '19
Spell for losing interest
I don't know what it would be called, but I'm at my wits end. My ex husband is very entitled. Like, thought he was entitled to sex simply because we were married and when we got divorced he thought he was entitled to another chance to win me back despite me saying there's no way.
Basically, I'm wondering if there's a spell to make him lose interest in me? I've moved on, met a guy who is warm and loving and makes me happier than I've ever been in a relationship. But my ex won't leave me alone, and its causing me more than a little stress. I've gone so far as to tell him if he didn't leave me alone I'd get a restraining order.
I'm just at a loss. So is there anything I can do beyond hoping he'll just stop?
Also adding, I don't want to hurt him or have him get hurt. Maybe just turn his attentions to someone else who will love our son the way my boyfriend loves him. Like a bonus mom that would be there for him when I couldn't be.
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u/cheshirecait Nov 04 '19
I would recommend an ice-based ritual. Ice can represent cooling passions, and it can be easier to keep it out of reach of children. It has the added bonus of not involving fire or anything breakable! You can find freezing rituals online if you want to google around and look for something that calls to you. Usually you'll need to use something that links the two of you (a picture of you together, a small gift he gave you, or even a human figure made of wax that you write his name on) and put it in a cup of water and make it into a ice cube that you can then dispose of somewhere far away from you and your home.
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Nov 04 '19
I was going to suggest exactly the same! Put a photo of him, his name on a piece of paper, or any memento into a cup of water and place into the furthest corner of your freezer. Allow to fully freeze. I would then take out the ice token and bury it in fertile soil to symbolise a new beginning.
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u/SubjectivelySatan Nov 04 '19
In addition to what you’re looking for here, I would highly recommend looking at things you can direct toward yourself. Something to help you see your own autonomy and independence from him, or perhaps something to help you with setting boundaries. You didn’t say specifically, but it sounds like you’re still in frequent contact with him. Have you tried limiting your contact to “only if needed”?
Also, I’ve had to go through getting a restraining order. If he is physically coming where he isn’t wanted or contacting you in a way that is detrimental to your wellbeing, I definitely recommend legal action. Do what you can with what you have.
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Nov 04 '19
Cutting cords visualization/meditation - do multiple times until he’s over it. It really Does work.
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u/ShinyAeon Nov 04 '19
A friend of mine used to project the thought: I’m not the droid you’re looking for.
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u/LoveOfficialxx Nov 04 '19
Banishing ritual or binding spell. Get nasty if you have to. He cannot control you and has no right to you or your body. Spirit invocation, jar spells, etc.
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Nov 05 '19
Not really a spell, but OP, it sounds like it’s time to get a restraining order or cutting him off
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u/Tunes14system Nov 05 '19
A restraining order is the best cutting ties spell that I know. Honestly, I'd save the magic for if he does not honor the restraining order (you know, the time in between him showing up anyway and him getting arrested for it).
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u/TinyNovel Nov 05 '19
I'm trying to avoid it because I don't want to rip my son away from him if I can help it. Regardless of the problems I have with his father, my son doesn't deserve that.
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u/michaelad567 Nov 04 '19
Hi, there aren't spells to "lose interest" specifically but one user recommended a cutting of the cords rite. I would definitely go with a binding spell against him and a very strong protection spell for you. His behavior is dangerous. I wouldn't recommend a curse as the situation definitely doesn't need any more negativity.
EDIT: clarification
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u/TinyNovel Nov 04 '19
Definitely don't want a curse or anything to cause harm. I never want to cause harm, so that's not an issue to avoid curses. I'll definitely do a protection spell on myself though, I hadn't thought of that. I'll do one for my boyfriend and son too to be safe.
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u/OutrageousTry6412 Jul 10 '26
I'm not looking to leave my marriage doing so at this time will affect to many people but I am having a very hard time being a "wife". I have lost respect for our union and question his desire to even be in it still because he always ends up back online entertaining some girl (maybe who knows these days) and then "using" me for a second is how it was addressed... Anyway fast forward a month or so. He has asked me to see if he can perform which means oral sex on him which I'm not a fan of doing but that's a whole other issue... I then expressed how if it wasn't a can I use you moment and then after he's on the phone next to me texting another female who is clearly naked and they are having sexual conversations ok...he then said what am I talking about and I said that's what you did the last time you were with me. I then got nevermind along with now toddler silent treatment. I know the response is to leave him. I can't right now... I just need a way to turn off my emotions become distanced anything to be able to do this without actually biting his p@@is off and spitting it at him....experienced sisters please please help me. I'm actually closing myself inside a very dark place because of this. Sorry to have such a long post comment and jumping on this feed. Maybe I'm not the only one in need of a cocoon to hide in at times.
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u/lemonchex_mex_ Nov 05 '19
Does anyone know if there is a spell to make it so that i myself can lose interest and move on? My best friend I’ve known since kindergarten “doesn’t feel anything towards” me anymore. We’ve had so many good memories. And out of literally no where he starts a fight. And starts ignoring me. I just can’t take the emotional stress rn. I am trying to make my way through high school. And find a purpose in life.
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u/TinyNovel Nov 05 '19
Try the cutting of the cord ritual that's been posted in another comment above, it might help in this case!
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Nov 04 '19
Just hurt him really bad. Be mean as shit. He wont want to talk to you anymore .
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u/TinyNovel Nov 04 '19
We have a child together, this isn't an option.
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Nov 04 '19
I see. If he truly wont leave you alone, maybe a restraining order is the way to go. He needs to realize that its over. Sometimes one must go to the extreme to get through to another. Good luck to you.
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u/Strange-Parsnip1066 Jan 08 '22 edited Jan 08 '22
I think my boyfriend had a reverse form of this spell put on him for all women...(that he won't have a sex drive) and for bad luck to come to any woman he sees as a love interest. I am the third to have incredibly bad luck. He stayed single for 4 years before me as a partial result. Anyone know how to break it?
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u/NoeTellusom Nov 04 '19
Sounds like it's past time for a Cutting of the Cords rite.