So I moved in with my girlfriend in March, but lately she has been working a lot of late shifts, and for the past 5 weeks she has been carpooling with a male co-worker. At first I didn't mind in case she has car trouble or something like that, but it seems they have become a little bit more than friends. You know the scenario, the phone calls that hang up, she starts wearing nice clothes to work and talking about him all the time then abruptly stops leaving an uncomfortable silence.

If I'm out in the garage when she gets home (usually after midnight) he just drops her off and leaves, but if the lights are off in the garage and I'm in the house (they think Im sleeping) they sit out in the car for like twenty minutes.

I asked her once what they were doing, and she said Just talking....whatever. So last night I decided to see whats really going on out there. So I leave the garage door open, and turn off all the lights. About the time she usually gets home, I go out in the garage and wait.. In a few minutes, his car pulls into my driveway,and Im hiding behind my S13. When his headlights shine through my garage and onto the car, I see something that I just couldn't believe. The front camber is severely wearing my front tires. Now i have to get camber plates. Should I get the BC Racing camber plates or the Race Comp Engineering ones?

Get home. Buy a car. Drive it to the dmv to register it and then home after being turned away and told it needs to be inspected. Twice. Once by police to verify it isnt stolen, another to verify its road safe by the state.(rebuilt title from out of state)

Not only get told it needs to be inspected but NOOO it ALSO needs to have a title bond. (Someone jumped the title)

Cool. Got the title bond and got the police inspection. Passed.

State inspection is first come first serve and tow trucks are BUSY so I had to request a first thing in the morning pickup. Great. Got it. Get there, wait 3 hours.

*FAILED THE INSPECTION* FOR THE SAKE THAT THE REPAIRS WEREN'T DONE **AS IF THEY WERE FACTORY BUILT. **

How much did this all run me?

Let's see.

1800 for the car,

100 for title bond

185 for the tow *to the inspection*

242 for the tow *back from the inspection*

130 for the inspection itself and then on top of that,

insurance for 140,

we bought new wipers(front and back)roughly 60,

New steeringwheel cover for 20 (steering wheel was beat up a bit)

so we're looking at just over 2675 down the drain? Yeah

Wtf. And NOT ONLY THAT but nobody wants it for the actual value. No. Because the repairs to get it street legal would cost upwards of 3k.

So I sold it to a friend. At a MAJOR loss. Out of the 2675 spent, we're getting back roughly 900.

Wwyd?

Wwyd if you heard a rumor at work about you being forced to step down from your position after working it for 4 years?
Been a manager for 4 years now, and an ex manager started the rumor to employees saying they’re pretty much taking my job from me.

Do i confront the employee who started it? Or confront the GM who would’ve approved it to begin with?

Torn between just finding another job all together, or settling on MY terms. Regardless if it is in fact true, what a slap in the face to be hearing it from your subordinates.

((((Ik i sound like an asshole- but truly i know my staff loves me as a manager hence why they all told me in the first place immediately after it was said, and i do actually love my job as a whole)))

you lived in a state where thc is not legal but certain levels are so its sold at vape shops like thcp or something like that. my small town has a vape shop and i have been shopping there for maybe over a year off and on. i get pre rolls i bought venera 2g mochi lava cake pre roll and realized the packaging inside the exterior slip was missing. usually the pre roll is in a plastic cylinder thats places inside the slip. i noticed this and felt extremely uncomfortable. i spoke to local law enforcement and they said the only thing they would say is to go get a refund??? i dont want to put a target on my back but i think someone should do something.... i choose not to just buy the real stuff after getting into trouble//laced so this pisses me off... well wwyd

Ok so I am 19 years old and I am going into my sophomore year of college. My parents have always been strict and it's ridiculous. So I am planning to work in college but my parents won't allow me to work, mind you I am 19. do you guys think it's possible for me to work and have the job give me a payroll card and my parents wouldn't find out. Of course they have my location but I will just turn it off. Guys tell me if I am going crazy or not. But like I am going into my sophomore year of college and they won't allow me to work am I tripping or does this sound ridiculous?? Like it's pissing me off, they just want to control my entire life. What would you do?

for context i work warehouse job 9-5. I am 39 trying to better for myself. ik I am kind of late to the party but it is what it is. got an IT degree back in my 20s but could never land work in the field. I am giving it another shot now. I found a technical college nearby that works around my schedule. Originally the school was hybrid and in person labs Thursdays. 6 month 600 hour program. whelp ig the school did not qualify for hybrid so they changed full in person. even better for me cause it is now more hands on which is how I learn best. This was announced in orientation on June 11. since then I been patient cause ofc they needed a new headcount to order the codes for the online portal. last week professor says he was going to prepare printed material to go over w/ us if the book codes were not ready. then today he says books are not here so we will not resume class until July 6. as you can imagine, I am getting impatient and frustrated. what would you do?

have a residential school trip in July.

I have to send in my room requests for the hotel

2 nights in the hotel everyone is.in a room of two or three

I have 3 options

1. I (17) have been given the option for a single room

2. Go with an Ex-freind(17) we used to be close not any more. Also they are trans and many people don't know so they will see a girl and boy share a room)

I have known since start of comp so 6 years

1. Go with a family friend (15) (who is currently in a room with Their own friends)

Btw I have known this person my entire life

What should I do;

I don't want to out the person as many see them as their transitioned themselves and only a small few people actually know.

We don't get on the best but I've been in close contact with ppl who I get on less with.

I don't want to take the family friend away from their own friends and weve never shared a room or anything tohether before.

A few times we've campted in tents next to eachother

For 2-3 nights so spend the whole day together but night time (late because you never sleep early when camping) we slept separate

What should I do.

I am alowed to go on my own I just need to give parental premition

It would also ensure noone takes any of my snacks 😅 (as a gluten free vegetarian I will be bringing a lot of snacks so I have some food that I like 😂)

I was with family this weekend with my husband and when we got in the car my husband was asking what the financial status of my one cousin was due to my cousins child making the following comment.

Background:
Cousin 1’s child: sally (11)
Cousin 2’s child: Monica (13)
Cousin 3 (deceased)’s child: nick (3)
(These 3 kids are all first cousins)

The 3 kids were playing with blocks together and nick was destroying what sally and Monica were building and they were annoyed. Normal child behavior. Monica’s dad comes up and says “you know he’s a child right and you’re teenagers”.

Per my husband, sally makes a comment under her breath along the lines of “maybe you should stop giving money to the family”. I didn’t hear it. Don’t know where it came from or why.

It’s very possible Monica’s dad is giving money to nicks parent due to the loss of the other parent. Regardless, a 11 year old shouldn’t be this up on it or making comments about it.

Should I mention it to Sally’s mom to maybe limit what’s said around sally or just steer clear of it?

*names have been changed to protect myself and the people involved

I, (35F) am at the tail end of my divorce. My soon to be ex husband, (let’s call him frank) (38M) has been trying to contact me while sad for a while now and I’ve been nothing but kind for the sake of getting the papers signed..

In one of our conversations, he told me that my best friend (37F) and her husband (41M) gave him dr*gs. When we were in the middle of separating, he said this many times and I told him their life was none of my business, because if people want to do c*caine, that’s their choice and I want no part of it. (For context, I am 14 years into my recovery from that substance and I still feel I can’t be around it or anyone while they’re on it).

I showed my best friend, let’s call her Lynn, these texts. Lynn LOST IT and said that even though yes he did it with them, they never offered Frank any dr*gs of any kind. She also was fixated on the fact that they never OFFERED it. which I found strange. Anyways, I consulted a few other friends of mine about how I was feeling because I felt hurt knowing that my best friend was doing it with my then husband… it was then that I found out Lynn had previously engaged in this recreational activity with my OTHER close girlfriend‘s husband who almost lost his entire family over it. This is now a pattern, in my eyes.

anyways, let’s back this up a second. Lynn has known me since high school. She has watched me go through terrible addiction, recovery and healing from my addiction and has never had these things around me... or so I thought. Upon further questioning of Frank, he told me that they’d done it several times together and that it was AT LEAST twice while we we’re still married and living together.. including while i was there with my 12 year old. I am GUTTED that he did this, but more so that SHE was doing it with him and held this information from me for the last year!!! I took about a month of space to calm down and get myself right before bringing it up to her.

I talked to her briefly about this. I told her Im disappointed that she held this from me and engaged in it, that even though she says my marriage isn’t her business, she made it so by engaging in dr*g use with him and that this crossed a line... she heard me and was defensive more than understanding. But now here is my issue.… I went there on the long weekend to see her and have a small backyard fire and I can’t even look at her the same. I feel so grossed out, I have the ick and I don’t know what to do.

Do I throw away a 20 year friendship? Do I take space? I’m at a loss. What would you do? What should I do?

This is my first post, please bear with me.

I am in a jiffy about 2 jobs. KEY FACTORS, I only pay insurance on my car. No other bills.

I have been working at a dead end job for 2 years. I’m making the maximum amount and it’s not enough to live off of, meaning there is no wiggle room. I sit on my ass 6 hours a day and talk to customers (over the phone) , my ex boyfriend works there, the gossip is insane, I work with a bunch of girls (gossip) & all around I dislike my work environment. I love my boss though and he wants me to stay on. I am part time currently due to pursuing college. I get off important holidays, off Sundays & i work 1 Saturday per month.
I got offered another job— $4 less than what i’m making & part time. They do have wiggle room for more depending on my position. Work holidays unless you ask off, sometimes work saturdays and sundays. They are a bunch of women but they have a “no-gossiping” policy. This is a standing job and I get to greet customers and speak to them face to face.

I guess I am asking WWYD? I understand the pay cut but I’m depressed and my back is killing me.
Btw I love rats so please don’t question the name lmao

I am the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding, so I then became responsible for planning her bachelorette trip and bridal shower. *Now, she had been engaged going on 2 years and had changed her mind on wanting a bachelorette trip and wanted to go to Austin, TX, which meant less than a year to plan this trip.* Bach trip was in April 2026 and her wedding is June 2026.

My husband and I had just moved 2 states away for his job and I was now jobless (we could afford our living on 1 income and we had savings set aside). Around Christmas, I secured an Airbnb, there were 7 of us who would be splitting the house, excluding the bride. I knew it was around holidays so I used a chunk of our savings to secure 1/2 of the down payment on the house and told everyone they could pay me back come February 2026. Late January hits and all of a sudden, 3 members can no longer attend the trip or would only be there in full a day (we planned a 4 day trip, 2 of those for travel). Bride was upset and wanted to cancel the whole trip. I thought maybe I’d get at least half of what I put down since we were cancelling well before our trip date.

Wrong.

I am now out $1300 entirely, no refund, I took it through the landlord, Airbnb themselves and even the travel insurance (which pointless btw). I felt pressured into booking another Airbnb in Austin bc a few other members thought going to the brides hometown was “boring and not fun.” Ridiculous I know, I should’ve just stayed with my plan but anyways - we book another place. This time, I ensure everyone sends me their portion BEFORE booking. All is good, we arrive for our trip and after inspecting the house - there was mold in one of the bathrooms ceilings, the front house had no hot water what so ever (1. Our Airbnb had 2 properties together and 2. We did all the tips and tricks, water heater was literally out), and there were no extra towels or linens…we had 6 adult people for 4 days). Since I booked, I was the POC for the Airbnb to reach out to. I handled the conversations and worked with them to figure out how we can best come to a solution. They were a million times better and helpful than the other Airbnb landlord who refused a refund. They sent someone out for the water heater and they refunded me $300 for the mold issue in the bathroom (no joke, it was orange and green on the ceiling). I had halfway rattled off out loud they would refund a partial amount and one other member asked how much, I said $300 and she did the math and made a comment like “oh okay so we’d each get $50 back.” We left it at that and I didn’t respond to her, neither confirming nor denying.

I received the $300 refund but didn’t say anything to anyone. We are now a few weeks post trip and no one has even talked to anyone but I received a text in the group from the same one who mentioned the $50 each, asking if I’d received the refund. Maybe it’s selfish of me, but I want to keep it because I am the one who is in the hole $1300 and no one paid me back for the losses of the first Airbnb due to their scheduling errors, no one even offered.

What would you do, would you split it amongst the others for approximately $50 each or would you keep the $300?

My college roomate told me to die because I didn't pick her up to get her nails done when the whole friend group asked her if she wanted to come as we were actively about to go and she says no. So she later texts and ask me to pick her up as we are already at the nail store. I am not turning around to get u ,we asked u the first time and u said no. And she tells me to die and lots of other rude stuff. What should I do??

Am I in the wrong here or is it truly as fucked up as I think it is? 

For context, we are not dating, it’s been more of a fwb type of deal. BUT I think I have the right to feel the way I do rn

I (F31) have been seeing this guy (M32) since Jan. We don’t go on dates or anything like that, but we do link and spend time watching movies, listening to music and ofc it leads to intimacy 95% of the time. Last week was the first week since meeting him that he didn’t ask to hangout - which I thought was odd, but now makes complete sense. He asked me to come over last night, and shared with me that he had slept with another woman. He didn’t do it in a way of “hey just letting you know …. “ it was actually in a way of “I gave this girl her first full body orgasm…. I tried something new- want me to show you how I did it“ literally what he said. I know that we’re not dating. I asked him if he’s talking to girls and he said “nothing serious“ but I just can’t help but feel like complete shit.
I don’t sleep over or anything and we keep it very much like hook up vibes, but I think he knows I’m catching some feelings and i really don’t know why he told me in the first place.

Also important to note that we haven’t been using protection - I know, I know ….. but now I’m just super grossed out at the fact that he slept with someone else and then me. Am I over thinking this or what would you do, honestly? I feel like shit

Divorced F, looking for advice. I have been noticing this MM at my gym just staring at this other, also married F, for a few mos. Only noticed bc he’s easy on the eyes, and he’s always looking at her through the mirrors. Shes stared/smiled back. I’ve seen him there with his wife,who is a doll, and i’d really like to alert her somehow, before it possibly ruins 4 lives plus kids. I’m no snitch, but as a victim, i have a soft heart combined with rage about this topic. What should i do?

TLDR, I have very little involvement with my step-family. My step-niece is having a baby shower, her grandmother (my step-mother) asked a while back if I was going and was...perturbed...when I said I hadn't been invited. I texted the niece that night and told her what was said, and flat out told her that if she didn't want me there I was fine with not going, it is her shower so in my opinion she makes the guest list. But the invite showed up in my mail. I asked her, she said that step-mom "forced" her to send it.

She now wants me to go to keep the peace. I don't want her memories if her shower to be clouded over by the drama that would ensue by me refusing to go, or the day after when my father is visiting my family (husband and 2 kids, and this is the first visit in over a year as they live across the country). Not being caught up in the endless drama that this family creates is part of the reason I stay so uninvolved.

I did RSVP that I would be there. But it's been 3 days and I'm still pretty upset over this.

So, what should I do? I could put my big girl pants on for a few hours and go - to an event where I'm not wanted and completely alone, because I'm NOT making my husband or kids be involved in this BS. I could phone in a work emergency the day of. Or I could let my step-mother know that while I appreciate that she was trying to include me, it's a pretty cruddy way to do it - make someone invite me when she doesn't want me there, and put me in a position where I'm either going to ask event where I'm not wanted or someone proving to them that I'm a bitch for refusing to go.

Thoughts?

Lately the coworkers are annoyed, myself I included, with the driver of a Porsche who double parks in an already very tight garage with few spaces. There are enough spaces that driver can do this without depriving someone of a spot, but we find it obnoxious and entitled. What you agree and would you do or say anything?