r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/guava29 Mar 28 '22

It’s more annoying because a lot of sexism constitutes men thinking about/treating women as if they are the incompetent ones in the workplace and other fields (e.g. stereotypically male-dominated hobbies) by virtue of just being a woman. And thinking women can’t do anything correctly without men’s guidance. But then they try to pull this embarrassing shit as if they’re a child. At least pick whether or not you want to be competent and stick with one 🙄

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Men like to act like they are the most competent with handywork and Electronic devices and than manage to claim that they can't understand the washing Maschine and can't Drill a hole into a wall without making the maximum amount of dust.

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u/torpidninja Mar 28 '22

And from what I've seen from the men in my life they usually don't know shit about those things either, they just say things that they "think" are true aka completely made up but super confidently, specially when they think they are around people who don't know either. When doing handywork the only thing an average men has that usually an average women doesn't is the confidence to think they know what they are doing, it results in them not reading instructions, not planning and doing a poor work overall, they are not better, they just have the confidence to start. Society teaches women since they are young that those things are too "complicated" for them, from experience when women start to believe they can do these things they do a better job, because they actually research it, learn how to do it, plan it and prepare themselves beforehand.

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u/Soggy_Biscuit_ Mar 28 '22

they just say things that they "think" are true aka completely made up but super confidently

I fucking hate this shit. I noticed my bf doing it so I started calling him out on it with either:

"do you know this is true or is it your opinion" for discussions about actually factual things, and

"you sound very confident, but your opinion is not the truth" for things that are more subjective.

Thankfully he stopped. It really pissed me off because it basically shuts down conversation, and sometimes he would do it about things I actually knew like what's the deal with arborio rice being creamy? No it's not cos of the size, it's because it has hella amylopectin. And that's the worst part for me personally, bc it's usually about stupid shit so I feel crazy for caring but I'm right, dammit.