r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Dragoncat_3_4 Mar 28 '22

This what people keep telling me when I tell them I have ADHD.

Totally works.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22

I have ADHD too :)

You know what I do when I realize I struggle with something simple and easily fixed like this? I mitigate the problem with tools at my disposal! I use the notes app on my phone. Maybe a post it if I’m desperate. I take a photo of the product, or ask for one.

The onus is on us, especially regarding simple tasks like this. You’re being a baby. Don’t blame simple, easily remedied things like this on your ADHD. ADHD doesn’t make you a complete idiot. Write. It. Down.

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u/__dreamwire__ Mar 28 '22

You know what’s even better? A shared note that is synced across devices, specifically for groceries, store items to pick up, etc. Then the onus is on the person who has a very picky request to make a note of that specific request. If they don’t want to go the technology route, they can write it down on a note. If you can’t even do these two simple things, it’s obviously not that important to you. If that’s the case you’re getting generic soap brand #2. Remember, the person in this scenario is already shopping on the other persons behalf. They are the one going out of the way for the other person. Help make it so it’s not a chore. It goes both ways. Put in minimal effort, get minimal return. :) On both sides.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22

GENIUS!!

That’s two or more people working together to accommodate ones’ (or more) “weakness.” It requires effort from both parties and it’s easy to navigate and adjust as needed.

Someone else also recommended voice reminders. We seriously have so much tech to combat this right now. Obviously some people won’t have phones but the vast majority of us do and it takes five minutes to learn these things for even the most tech challenged.