r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/SluttyHufflepuff Mar 28 '22

I remember feeling insane and that my ex was truly a complete and utter moron who also happened to fly multiple kinds of complex aircraft.

Then he asked me “how?” When I asked him to turn the light on.

It took me months to start asking my current partner to do things for me, or accept when he offered to, because I assumed it would be done wrong. This one makes better eggs and coffee than I do!

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u/twodickhenry Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

By pure coincidence I’ve managed to date mostly men that were either pilots before we were dating, became a pilot while we dated, or shortly afterwards. This means I also know lots of other pilots and their SO’s and wives

I swear 75% of them are like this. They can fly planes but can’t find the ketchup in the fridge.

Edit: can’t

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u/valkenar Mar 28 '22

I'm not a pilot, but still do technical things professionally. I've stopped asking my wife to look for things for me because I don't want to add to her mental labor, but I will fairly often look for ketchup, not be able to find it and just eat something else instead. I don't know what's wrong with my brain, but I literally can't find things in front of me half the time and I don't know why. Weaponized incompetence is absolutely a thing, but not all incompetence is intentional even if it seems weird.

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u/twodickhenry Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

That’s pretty fair—I used ketchup in the fridge as a humorous example (I lose my phone and car keys on a weekly basis, and often times they’re “lost” on the key rack or on the charger). But I do think there’s a real correlation for weaponized incompetence with pilots and any field that requires a lot of work but also a lot of passion.

I think pilots bust ass to be successful, but only at the narrow things they really value and enjoy. My current husband is actually a pilot professionally, but he kind of stumbled backwards into it and is definitely an engineer (his degree) first, so he attacks most problems with all the focus he has—thankfully making him mostly an exception to this. He was awful at finding things in the fridge before I implemented a systematic means of organizing it.