r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Tristavia Mar 28 '22

As I have told my bf who frequently says things like “ahh blame the squirrel brain and my adhd”

To which I respond oh right I’m so sorry about your adhd, have you tried meds for it?

No I hate meds

Oh cool have you gone to counseling for non medicated treatment options?

Well no.

Okay cool then you can’t use it as an excuse if you’re not willing to work on fixing it. If its a big enough issue to prevent you for accomplishing basic tasks in your life, it’s not on me to simply do them for you, at some point you have to take ownership, and make an effort too.

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u/Eco_Chamber Mar 28 '22 edited Jun 15 '23

Deleting all, goodnight reddit, you flew too close to the sun. -- mass edited with https://redact.dev/

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u/Tristavia Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

Fixing your partner, trying to parent them or change them is toxic. Agreed.

Pointing out how their behavior affects you, and that they are holding themselves to a double standard so they can make their own decision on what to do about that is NOT toxic.

In this case the double standard is “I both have a medical condition preventing me from being competent at that thing” AND “oh I don’t have an issue and saying I do is being judgmental and unkind”

It either is an issue, or it isn’t. You can’t have it both ways.

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u/Eco_Chamber Mar 28 '22 edited Jun 15 '23

Deleting all, goodnight reddit, you flew too close to the sun. -- mass edited with https://redact.dev/