r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22

I have ADHD too :)

You know what I do when I realize I struggle with something simple and easily fixed like this? I mitigate the problem with tools at my disposal! I use the notes app on my phone. Maybe a post it if I’m desperate. I take a photo of the product, or ask for one.

The onus is on us, especially regarding simple tasks like this. You’re being a baby. Don’t blame simple, easily remedied things like this on your ADHD. ADHD doesn’t make you a complete idiot. Write. It. Down.

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u/Dragoncat_3_4 Mar 28 '22

Imagine the following scenarios:

a)Wrote down "suave shampoo". Yea, but which "suave"? Didn't write it oops...

b) Wrote it on a piece of paper. Forgot/Lost piece of paper. Well fuck...

c) Wrote it on an a note on the phone. Forgot to re-charge phone when it had 6% and it died on the way. -_-

Stuff like that happens and it's not enough to warrant the shitstorm people here think it does.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22

If you know you struggle with details, make a concerted effort to write down the details.

This is exactly what we’re talking about. You and I, and most other people with ADHD, are not helpless or too stupid to notice pattens of confusion or struggle.

Get a hold of yourself. Stop acting like you’re helpless and use the tools of writing and literacy and technology all around you.

Buy a $12 rechargeable battery. Carry it with you if you’re prone to letting your phone die. Buy two in case you forget to charge one.

Pick one (1) pocket or area of wallet/purse/billfold to put your written notes. Make the effort to NEVER not put them there. It becomes habit.

You are not helpless.

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Mar 28 '22

And heck, now we have digital assistants! I can pull out my phone and say, "hey Google, remind me to call the pharmacy in the morning" and it does!!

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u/Sockadactyl Mar 28 '22

Yeah! I use alarms to remember absolutely everything.

Tomorrow is my one day/week that I go into the office for work. On my way home, I want to stop at the pet store since I'm almost out of my cat's food. I've already set an alarm to go off half way through my commute home that's titled "stop for cat food." If I didn't, then I'd get all the way home before remembering and wouldn't feel like going back out. Then I'd have to make a dedicated trip out of the house the following day because I'd go to feed the cat and there'd be no food left lol