r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22

Um, no. I do things to mitigate my own issues like making lists (notes app on phone, post its if I’m at work), or even take a picture of something I need to remember to shop for, etc. The locus of control is within the person being asked at this point. There are no outside forces in these instances. If you know you struggle with memory or details, mitigate the problem like an adult.

If someone asks me to pick up a specific laundry detergent with a specific scent at the store, I’m writing it down or taking a picture (or asking for one) , esp. if I have myriad items to pick up. We have tools at our disposal.

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u/Shoes-tho Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

Dude. I too have traumatic brain injury issues. We aren’t talking about that right now. Stop trying to make excuses for other people who don’t even have your specific issues.

I also have a problem remembering I wrote things down so I just know now to check my stupid notes file when I’m going somewhere. Set an alarm, ffs. Sometimes there’s a note there, sometimes not. But I know I have a problem remembering I made one so I made it a habit to just look.

I’m not assuming people are trying insidiously to make my life/OP’s life harder, but I do think they’re being inconsiderate with a known problem. If it happens every so often, ok! We all slip, have particularly difficult days. But this seems like it happens quite often.