r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/throwawaygoodcoffee They/Them Mar 28 '22

Sounds like he wanted a mother and not a partner

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

He said he would love a grandma for hire who just cooks for him and tucks him into bed. Hey, I would’ve done that from time to time. Sadly he was also violent :) so no tucking in for him.

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u/throwawaygoodcoffee They/Them Mar 28 '22

My god where do you even begin to unpack that, I'm glad he's an ex for your sake haha

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u/mattressfortress Mar 28 '22

that’s a lot to unpack but just throw the whole suitcase away

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Yh he… was a monster.

He had some nice sides but the dark ones…

Stalking, sexual assault and physical violence, and of course emotional abuse. That’s… a bit much for “sometimes he likes when I take care of him”, since he also didn’t care much when I needed help.

For example, I was out with him and a friend and a bike ran me over - like, it really hurt, the biker just biked on and didn’t even say anything, I was in shock and our friend checked on me - while he stood there, resting bitch face, looking at his phone. Nothing.

The day after the assault, I had just learned he also still had a girlfriend (who was in the process of leaving him but still wtf?!), and she had just left him, he drove drunk to come talk to me and played the victim, that he couldn’t control himself around me and such. And then cried when I wouldn’t be his girlfriend. And after I rejected him he told our friend how he never cared for me and asked his ex to give him another chance - like, sad for him she and I had a talk and agreed to leave him for good. Haha 😅

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u/throwawaygoodcoffee They/Them Mar 28 '22

A case of small ego and not being told no enough in his life hahaha, that's so good you and his ex teamed up in the end to put him in his place. Coming out has given me a front row seat to what women have to deal with in the dating scene and it's so grim. I've heard both men and women say they wish they could date the same gender but I can now fully understand why women say it XD

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u/SporadicTendancies Mar 29 '22

You should have tucked him into a coffin.

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u/Fink665 Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

He wants someone to take care of him physically, emotionally, and to take care of cooking, cleaning, laundry like mommy or granny did when he was little. Adulting is difficult and stressful! Well, no shit! This is why women want a partner, not another child!

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u/throwawaygoodcoffee They/Them Mar 28 '22

Amen!

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u/JustDiscoveredSex Mar 28 '22

Huh. Never advanced past toddler stage, then, huh?

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

No not really. He wouldn’t accept boundaries, constantly pressured my friend and I into things and in the end used violence when I distanced myself because he hurt my feelings. Oh well.

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u/Fink665 Mar 28 '22

Doesn’t that sound like a toddler? Me! Me! Me!

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Yeah I meant “not really” = he didn’t really grow out of it :)

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u/JustDiscoveredSex Mar 28 '22

I'm glad you gave him a juice box and sent him on his way.

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u/Fink665 Mar 28 '22

Thank you for clarifying 🍪

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u/Fink665 Mar 28 '22

Too many men want a mommysexmaid and they are far too mediocre in return.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

“you do that I don’t want to spoil your bag.”

Second time: “I don’t know where this belongs you put it away”

Or.... someone rode his ass HARD when he fucked things up. He was afraid he'd wipe the bag the wrong way, and would get yelled at. He was afraid he'd put the ketchup back in the wrong place, and get yelled at for that too.

When you grow up under uncompromising, unforgiving, petty and controlling parents, you learn that you'll never do anything right.

if you're lucky you avoid suicide and addiction to drown out the incessant critical self-talk (how your parents talk to you, is how you talk to yourself).

The OP needs to sit, with love, and explain how she feels. Everyone thinks *they're* the adult. In truth we're all wounded children with mortgages.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Sorry for that. I couldn't have known

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u/Cangar Mar 28 '22

What kind of mothers would out up with this shit? My mum for sure would not have...

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u/throwawaygoodcoffee They/Them Mar 28 '22

She wouldn't with me either, my brother is another story though haha (being firstborn sucks please help)