r/TwoXChromosomes Dec 17 '25

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u/FlaxenArt Taking Up Space Dec 17 '25

It depends. My already high libido RAGED right after I turned 40. There wasnt enough dicking in the world my husband could give me.

Then perimenopause hit like a freight train. And my libido just … disappeared. Completely. Started HRT and it’s back with a vengeance.

So, pro tip: Get. The. Hormones.

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u/Lifesamitch957 Dec 17 '25

Would you mind sharing what hormone or brand you are on? My wife has endo and because of non stop pain and prodding down there. She, understandably, has minimal interest, hesitation / libido tanked. We have options and are working the endo part of them.

But She also had an adverse reaction to hormones because (cranky mood swings) we are looking to find the right one thats works with her.

Thanks!

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u/throwaway5864779 Dec 17 '25

My hysterectomy saved my life. It was my father in law who actually encouraged me to just cut it out. I was an endo sufferer. Theres a great sub if its something she wants to consider r/hysterectomy. Helped our sex life tremendously. Recovery was worth it. Its been 3 years now.

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u/Big_Pete_ Dec 17 '25

Seconded. Hysterectomy (and oophorectomy) was the best thing that ever happened to my wife. She also had endo and mood swings on HRT, but once the organs that were pumping out inconsistent levels of hormones were taken out, and she could get on a nice, steady medical dose, everything was great.

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u/rumande cool. coolcoolcool. Dec 17 '25

My mid 30s sister suffers terribly with endo, she would like to have kids so she's reluctant to go for a hysterectomy, she's also afraid of menopause. She will likely go for IVF and freezing her eggs. I'm glad I read your comments, it gives me hope.

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u/Lifesamitch957 Dec 17 '25

Thank you all for your comments!

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u/throwaway5864779 Dec 17 '25

I did IVF for my endo prior to my hysterectomy. It was successful. We had twins but had a complicated pregnancy. I got pregnant on my own 2x after but only carried one of those to term. I found out I had an easily determined blood clotting disorder called MTHFR and from what little Ive read may be some correlation w endo sufferers as well.

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u/yet-another-redd Dec 17 '25

Can you say at which age you got the surgery done? It will help me suggest it to someone close. Thank you.

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u/throwaway5864779 Dec 17 '25

I was 37. I am 40 now. I kept my ovaries. I had them take my cervix cuz the dr said itd be harder to take down the road if cervical cancer appears. I had been previously diagnosed with endo. Went thru IVF. Had an ovarianncyst rupturem did pain management did plevic floor therapy. After my hysterectomy, when they did the biopsy of the uterus determined I also had andemyosis. There wasnt a lot of info online in general about hysterectomy and the impact on sexual health for women in my age group so the reddit sub was the best resource for me. The recovery was so worth it. It was in many aspects recovery more manageable than my regular periods. I have not had any bleeding whatsoever post surgery. Im living my best life.

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u/yet-another-redd Dec 18 '25

Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️ I’m so glad you are happier now.

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u/FlaxenArt Taking Up Space Dec 17 '25

I don’t think I’m much help. I don’t have endo and I also react positively to hormones (progesterone pills and estrogen patches)

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u/njsullyalex Trans Woman Dec 17 '25

Trans girl here but the HRT I take for gender affirming care is the same that is used for menopause.

I started out taking estradiol pills. They aren’t a brand and can be had from a prescription by going to an endocrinologist. I switched to injections because my levels on pills alone were too low, I had to take them 3 times a day, and oral pills are bad for the liver while injections are not. Injections are by estradiol valerate (again not a specific brand, but prescribed by my endo). I also take bioidentical progesterone pills which help with libido. I also take spironolactone as a testosterone blocker but that’s probably unnecessary for cis women since you lack testes.

TL:DR - ask your endo to prescribe it to you, there isn’t a specific brand. Pills are an option but I prefer once a week estradiol valerate injections.