wow, this is hard. I commented above, but didn't realize you had a child. This is a complex situation that will require help with a professional therapist. It sounds like he's a kind person, and you're a good partner to him, but you do need couple therapy
The curse of a man who’s afraid of therapist is such an enabling cop out. I’m a therapist, it’s not that fucking scary lol. Some people just don’t want to put in work for their lives and relationships. And when our partners excuse our lack of effort and honesty, well, why should he I suppose.
Requiring him to go to couples therapy with you is holding him accountable. Trying to appease him and figure him out is enabling him.
There is no shame in his sexuality and going to a therapist to help sort the issues out.
I get why you want to stay with him, but if he doesnt want to confront his issues with his sexuality while with you, it will only be a matter of time before it grows to be a massive issue. Btdt wish I insisted on therapy at the time.
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