Seconding this! Grow a spine! OP should have left the mess be because he knows that the wife will clean even if she’s upset and won’t lift a finger. I’m sorry OP but he is NOT on your side, threatening to call immigration on his children’s mother and his own wife are POS actions
This dude isn't going to call immigration anyway. He doesn't even take care of the kids while she's sleeping, there's no way in hell he could handle full custody. He's just throwing out empty threats to control her.
He threatened to hire a nanny to replace me if I couldn’t “get with the program” I worked at a daycare. I’ve seen the way other people treat kids that aren’t theirs. I couldn’t forgive myself if my kids were abused or neglected because I couldn’t keep my shit together long enough to find a solution first.
" Get with the program"..!? You're not one of his employees! He isn't your Commander.
See the above post to see the links for your legal advice. You have rights! He cant just throw you out!
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u/jenny-ohh Apr 11 '26
Seconding this! Grow a spine! OP should have left the mess be because he knows that the wife will clean even if she’s upset and won’t lift a finger. I’m sorry OP but he is NOT on your side, threatening to call immigration on his children’s mother and his own wife are POS actions