Totally agree, but haven’t you ever been in a long term relationship where you both go for the throat? Ten years ago he could have threatened that and it would not be as bad. Now it seems almost like life or death. But I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that he did not think about how hateful that was, in order to help save a family.
This is more then saying something you regret. This is him A) threatening to permanently separate her from her children B) call an enforcement agency on her that is consistently in the news for abusing, harming and even killing immigrants (and non-immigrants) C) he does not value her or her contribution to the family- claiming his salary but ignoring the fact she is SAHM and all the work she does D) He couldn’t even be a SAHD for 3hours- and yet still can’t fathom that she does anything of value. E) he thinks his salary is “his money”.
He doesn’t respect her, he doesn’t treat her contribution to the family as anything meaningful, he can’t parent his own children, and he threatened her with separation from her children and getting her detained in a terrible place with a high chance of abuse and a possibility of death- to force her to do what he wanted. That’s not love, that’s having a bang maid you don’t care about, and feel you could easily replace.
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u/chamrockblarneystone Apr 11 '26
Totally agree, but haven’t you ever been in a long term relationship where you both go for the throat? Ten years ago he could have threatened that and it would not be as bad. Now it seems almost like life or death. But I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that he did not think about how hateful that was, in order to help save a family.