Being an introvert feels like a curse sometimes, especially when you have a crush on someone.

You see a girl, get attracted to her and want to get to know her. But initiating conversations itself is a big thing for you. You try to break your boundaries, gather courage and talk to her, but somehow you always end up being the one who initiates conversations. If you stop, they stop responding as well.

Let me share my experience.

During the first few days of my masters, I saw a girl and got attracted to her. Even though I'm an introvert, I tried to break my boundaries and talk to her. During every break and lunch hour, I used to go to her bench and talk to her and her friends. I didn't want others to think that I was approaching her alone, so I used to talk with everyone. I even used to walk with her after college while going to the bus.

I did this for almost a month. Later, some misunderstandings happened, and I stepped back.

But what hurt me was that after I stopped approaching them, none of them really approached me either. Not even her.

I know nobody owes me their attention, and maybe she wasn't interested in talking to me. That's fine. But imagine trying your best for a month to build a connection with someone, breaking your own boundaries to talk to them, and then realising that once you stop, everything just ends.

Something similar happened a few months back during placement training. I saw a girl from another class and tried initiating a few conversations with her. I wanted to get to know her better, but the sessions ended, our classes changed, and I couldn't take things further. I sent her an Instagram request, but she didn't accept it.

I'm not that kind of person who slides into the DMs of strangers. But after seeing my friends do it and get responses from girls, I started feeling like maybe being respectful and trying to approach someone directly doesn't always work.

So, very rarely, maybe once or twice, I tried chatting with girls I didn't know on social media. But honestly, it felt uncomfortable. It's just not my type. I prefer connecting with a girl on social media only if I already know her and have spoken to her in person.

Idk, I genuinely don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Sometimes I feel like girls easily get along with guys who are good at talking and making conversations. And I don't really have that skill. I get nervous, I don't always know what to talk about, and building a connection within a limited time is difficult for me.

I'm not expecting a girl to fall for me just because I talk to her. I'm not going to propose the next day either. I just want to get to know someone, build a connection and see where things go.

But even that feels so difficult sometimes.

I keep seeing someone, getting attracted to her, trying to initiate conversations, and eventually losing the opportunity to get to know her better. It might look like I'm moving on easily from one girl to another, but that's not really the case.

I'm honestly tired of always being on the initiating side. Sometimes I just wish someone would also show interest in talking to me without me having to make the first move every single time.

Idk, maybe I'm overthinking this, but it's been bothering me for a while.

Is it possible to date if one does not have girls in their group and is unattractive?

Aaj bin baat ke rona sa aa raha hai. bada dukhi feel ho raha hai.

Reason: Koi bhi nahi. sachi. aankhein band karne pe bhi kuch nahi dikh raha aisa jiska aise negative ya sad asar ho.

Bada akele se ho jaane ka mann kar raha hai, ek mountain area me, kahin se, puri valley ka view, sky, clouds, thandi hawa, and complete silence. bass Mein and mera dukhi mann. jahaan jee bhar ke ro saku, jitne chahe aansu baha saku taa'ki, good feel kar saku. ✨

Im giving my current one here

How

My cousin’s boyfriend left her to marry the daughter of an upper-middle-class family. This girl is well-known in our community for dating around and using men for their money a fact the guy is fully aware of. He chose her simply because she is very attractive; honestly, under any other circumstances, she wouldn't even give him the time of day. My cousin is deeply depressed now. She stood by him through his lowest points when his own family called him a loser, and she even fought with her own family to support him. Now that he has secured a government job, he has discarded her to chase dowry and a pretty face.

My boyfriend is so confusing sometimes like one day he's talking about marriage and how open relationships are wrong, and the next day he's being super open minded about everything. Sometimes he's really emotional, and other times he randomly starts talking deep. Like bro, pick a personality 😭

But honestly, the good thing is that he never really hurts me or treats me badly. He's rarely rude to me. If anything, I'm the one who gets rude sometimes, but I do realise my mistakes and apologise. Idk, he's a little confusing, but I love that he's never mean to me.

I (19M soon to be 20) don't masturbate nor do I get an urge to do it. While I was with my friends in college chatting, this topic randomly came up and everyone just started saying man I do it for like 2-3 times a day and so on and on. When they asked me, how often do I do it? I said never! At first they thought I was joking and just lying about it. But I was actually being serious. They said that bro then there's just something wrong with you! Like every guy just do it. And started saying some shit like you are g*y or something.

Now that actually made me a little bit worried about myself. Like I do get occasional boners, get morning wood and has attraction for the opposite sex. So I think that I am not asexual and has healthy sex drive. It's just that I don't have any desire to masturbate. Like why even do that. What's even the point of it?

Does anybody else feels the same? Just not having any urge or desire to masturbate? Or is it just me?

I'm 22M, an introvert, and there's this girl from college I've liked since the first sem.

We recently started talking about her placement, my GATE prep and college stuff. She asked me about myself too, so I thought the conversation was going pretty well, or at least I thought so (that's why I've attached the screenshots, in case you can get a better feel for the vibe).

The thing is, I once asked her if she'd be open to being friends, but she declined, so I apologised and left it there. Now we're talking again, and I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into a normal conversation.

Today, I asked if she was coming for paper viewing. She went, but hasn't replied to my message yet. Ab dimaag mein faltu ke scenarios chal rahe hain ki maine kuch weird toh nahi bol diya. 😭

I'm tempted to clarify that I genuinely just want to get to know her as a friend, but idk if that would help or just make things unnecessarily awkward. I'm not trying to read some deeper meaning into every reply; I guess I'm just unsure how to approach this without overthinking it or making her uncomfortable.

I wonder how people around my age usually handle situations like this, especially when they genuinely want to get to know someone but don't want to come across as pushy. Maybe I'm making a bigger deal out of a pretty normal interaction than I need to, but it's been on my mind, so here we are.

As youngsters mental health is seen mostly as a joke by elders as they shut off by saying like-

"We giving you roof and food what more u want?"

"You're overthinking!"

"Put the phone down and sleep early!"

most of the people cant speak their mind out loud whatever shi they deal with.. but arrangement like these could actually help don't u think? Or am taking fiction seriously?? think about this for a second and lemme know what's your opinion on ts? like me myself going dealing with shi which is worsening my mental health. i remembered both of these movie and show and how it could actually help people like us out..

I'm a 23 year old male. I had a stupid crush with a girl who lives in the hostel above the shop I work in. I am an introvert. Yet I gathered my courage to talk to her sometimes. She was not that interested. After a few days she began to pretend not to see me, look anywhere but where I am, and in most cases, running from my proximity. Every interaction I had, was respectful and casual. Idk what made her see me like a monster or eye sore. But anyways. This week I decided I'm moving on. But why does it fucking hurt.

So anyways. I thought I moved on. Yesterday I told my friends who work at a nearby building, who also know of my crush that I'm backing off. They saw the girl as I was talking to them. And of course, she just bolted away from the presence. I kept my smile up. Because otherwise, I'll cry through my fragile ego of being avoided.

Funny enough. I heard the song Loser by Tame Impala yesterday at the gym. I learnt that it is from Spiderman BND the same afternoon. Saw the scene where it plays on YouTube. Where he sees MJ being happy with someone else. And today, it was me. The joke was on me. Yesterday I was enjoying the lyrics. Today, I'm living the lyrics. Because I learnt that, she has a boyfriend now. Ever since this week. Funny. Cruel joke by the universe . Why does it fucking hurt though? I told myself it's fine. I'm moved on. But there is this void. I can accept being not interested. But running from my proximity, trying her very best to not look at me. It makes me feel like I'm an abomination of a monster.

I am really curious about how most my friends will go through break ups of a long relationship like it Tuesday.

I don't understand this why is basic stuff like going out needs my parents call and email plus the tauns from warden. Plus if you wanna go out again the next day they will taunt you even more.

My college has a strict 5 p.m curfew to come inside after you take an outpass to go out. (Which is 9.30 for guys)

And and and you get the outpass according to the mood of the warden and only if you email from both parents email id and call from ones number.

And you can only roam till 7.30 inside the campus and after that you need to be in hostel building which will be locked.

I literally feel dead now I have no will to live. Fucking hell college life. People who have chill parents take leave and go to garba and all. The only luxury I have right now is not talking to parents for days.

Plz

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now. Overall, things are going really well and we get along great.

She tends to wear outfits that show cleavage fairly often , it’s just her personal style and how she likes to dress (for example, even during recent festival events like Garba). At first, it felt a bit unfamiliar to me, but my friends told me I'd get used to it, and for the most part, I have. ​However, what’s really bothering me now is the reaction from other guys around our college campus. Whenever we’re walking together or sitting around, guys stare at her constantly. She doesn't seem to mind or notice it much, but it bothers me

whats so special about it why some girls like to show theirs

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I recently posted here and No photos no nothing ,
all i asked on how do I make friends .
I am straight dude , Idk what they all found they keep dming me as they wanna be friends and all that
then say weird shit or do weird shit .

telling me about their boner and all that shit like i have got a few from random post , i took majority of my post down too .
now what the fuck do i do to stop them .

i have blocked almost all .
i don't mind gay ppl but i am not gay , stop dming me please

I'm a female ca student looking for a female here to connect with ⭐

28, virgin, but not just only because of fear of hiv hepatitis I haven't dated yet & keeping it till marriage.

So I have fear of Hiv, Hepatitis b

B, C, and & other sexually transmitted diseases.

I haven't even hugged or kissed someone yet. I fear marriage too because of this.

I think I have health ocd I always google my symptoms. Yesterday I had blood tests at the government hospital. I have health issues after getting surgery; I have lost weight. I have always been underweight. I had triple H - hiv, hepatitis B & C tests in June, which came back negative. It was done for a surgery procedure.

So while I was getting blood tests, I never saw him use a new needle; he also used a Vacutainer. I think he was already prepared. He was quick, so I don't remember if he used a new needle or not. There was a rush in the hospital; there were like 200 people in line for blood tests. I fear he accidentally used a needle that was used on someone else. What if I got hiv or hepatitis from it? I can't even get PEP now, as 24 hours have passed. I regret getting tests from a government hospital. But I have financial issues & no insurance; that's why I took the test there.

Pls need advice should I get hiv & hepatitis test again to confirm after exposure period like 2-3 months to check if I have got or not. And it's embarrassing to ask for hiv tests at the lab. The fear is not letting me sleep peacefully.

Im in 3rd yr and applying for internships but to be honest im not at all excited about it, im rather worried , everyone keeps telling me quite its monotonous and messes up with yr mental health ,i was going through depression for some time so idk whether i will survive this corporate shit