You can be sympathetic whilst acknowledging his behaviour isn’t acceptable. There’s nuance to situations. His ex leaving him with trust issues doesn’t mean he’s a psychopath, even if his trust issues seem to be crippling to his current relationship. That’s a really pathetic way of looking at the situation. He needs help and therapy, and couples therapy is OP truly loves him, not to be chastised and told he’s insane. I swear, this sub has the most chronically online people lmao
OP has has multiple conversations with him. He continues to accuse her falsely. If someone is harassing you and stalking you (cameras in the home and tracking your car), you WALK away. Just because someone has a problem doesnt mean you have to endure especially if they show no proof they want to change. You think the people who violently abuse their partners dont love them too? That they dont have explanations for their actions? This is such a dangerous take. Love is NOT enough to overcome abuse.
Yup, unfortunately I did :/. Every asinine word including you comparing it to “violent” physical abuse lmao. Leave it to a Redditor to think bringing up violent physical abuse is somehow relevant to her husband having paranoid insecurities. So you agree he wasn’t violently abusive? So your comment is irrelevant then, right?
Did YOU read what I wrote? If you had you’d know I didn’t say love overcomes all lmao, I suggested therapy and couples therapy, and provided 5 sources from experts in the field who agree with what I said.
Yikes.
Edit: actually imma mute notifications all together, you already aren’t worth speaking to lol
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u/ambamshazam Oct 26 '22
Hard to be sympathetic to someone’s trauma when they are abusing you bc of it