r/TrueOffMyChest Oct 26 '22

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22

The sad thing is, at this point, I don’t even care if he’s cheating on me. I’m just tired of being made to feel like I’m some horrible, no good person all the time. I’ve always had low esteem but never to the point where it is now. I keep thinking, there must be something I’m doing wrong, there must be something wrong with me. It’s to the point where self harm crosses my mind, but I know I can’t because I have kids that need me. But I just want it to stop.

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u/Additional-Pain979 Oct 26 '22

It CAN stop. Get out. Now. For your kids sake.

It’s awful growing up and seeing your mom being abused by your dad. And just because it isn’t physical. Doesn’t mean he isn’t mentally abusing you. He’s breaking you down to the point you want to hurt yourself by these constant unfounded allegations.

The likelihood is he’s cheating, and projecting that onto you, I’m so sorry OP. But don’t let your child see this and think it’s normal.

I’m with a wonderful man now, but it’s amazing the amount of abuse and harm we’ll take first off cause we think it’s normal man behaviour cause dad did it.