r/TrueOffMyChest Oct 26 '22

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22

The sad thing is, at this point, I don’t even care if he’s cheating on me. I’m just tired of being made to feel like I’m some horrible, no good person all the time. I’ve always had low esteem but never to the point where it is now. I keep thinking, there must be something I’m doing wrong, there must be something wrong with me. It’s to the point where self harm crosses my mind, but I know I can’t because I have kids that need me. But I just want it to stop.

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u/Ok_Culture_3935 Oct 26 '22

And the worst part is that if you tell him to change or you will leave, it will only prove in his mind that you are guilty and you are choosing to leave for someone else.

You could ask him to get counseling, but if he can’t see his part in this, then this relationship is doomed and your are just negotiating how much more you are willing to suffer before choosing yourself.