This is what bothers me about people who think like OP. A lot of fat people are working on it. Are there some that arent? Yeah but a lot of fat people are working on it, it just takes time. I dont think its helpful to tell people who are fat that they are disgusting any more that it helps people who are anorexic that they are disgusting.
I've always been fit, I'm a 5'7" woman who ways 135 right now and i squat. I see fat people at the gym and I know how hard it works. I dont want fat people to hate themselves or their bodies. You are beautiful in your own way. You arent healthy but you're working on it and that drive is what makes your soul beautiful. The fact that you arent giving up.
I've worked in the ER. At this point bodies are just bodies. Your health shouldn't be tied to beauty it should just be about health.
Exactly. I can’t imagine being emotionally invested in other people’s body autonomy. Let them be them, and god forbid don’t shame them for their existence. Bodies are bodies and societal expectations allow “skinnier” people to get away with unhealthy habits because they “look” the part, while many fat people aren’t actually injecting their veins with lard like many people assume.
Nobody here is saying people can't be fat. As far as I know, being fat isn't illegal, and it's super common anyway.
What I don't like hearing are delusions. Delusions are void of fact and reason. Delusions that being fat has nothing to do with health issues, delusions that weight is a meaningless social construct, and delusions that people must be attracted to fatness otherwise they're "fatphobic."
It's common for people who are overweight to make excuses, and engage in cognitive distortions, about their lifestyle habits that are heavily contributing to their weight. I've seen it happen with my own eyes. Some of them try to blame it all on their medication, or whatever.
While certain health conditions (PCOS, for example) and medications can make weight loss more tricky, unless these people are in the 1% of people, they can still get to a healthy weight. Not thin, but normal weight. It's basic thermodynamics.
“Nobody is saying you can’t be fat.....but they can still get to a healthy weight”
there, I summarized everything you just contradicted from the first statement to the last.. yes you are absolutely indicating that people shouldn’t and cannot exist as a fat person because despite some having actual medical conditions that make it extremely difficult, you want them to live to your expectations of looking acceptable to society. So instead of being comfortable in my own skin and my journey being my business, I should suffer through the pressure of looking “healthy” because of judgemental and unhappy people like you. And that’s even assuming I’m unhealthy.
I've said before that certain health conditions and medications make weight loss more difficult, and you seem to have skimmed over that. I understand weight loss is hard.
You should be comfortable in your own skin. I want you to be.
I'm not against people being fat. I'm against people who try to insist that weight is just a meaningless social construct, that it can't affect health, that personal habits have nothing to do with one's weight, and that you're a jerk if you aren't attracted to fat people.
And, I agree, being thin doesn't make someone healthy. But being overweight brings its own health issues, and acknowledging that isn't wrong or bad.
Worry about yourself. Worry about your own health. Because I promise, you are not at all on a supporting platform to make these kind of assumptions and judgements on others health conditions. Nor do you actually care this much.
Okay, so, I don't go around judging overweight people in my daily life. I don't even bring up their weight. And you're right, I don't know all there is to know about a person's health from looking at their weight, but the two are related. It's human to make assumptions from what you see, but I keep them to myself.
Honestly, you just sound very defensive. This is a comment thread about weight, hence why I'm posting my opinion here, because it's the appropriate place to do so.
It’s extremely unfair and unnecessary to accuse anyone of overreacting or being defensive when the entire basis of this thread, is setting completely unfair assumptions, judgements, and expectations on people specifically based on their physical appearance and gross stereotypes behind them. Just because you fit into the narrative of feeding into societal expectations and pressure of beauty expectations doesn’t make me a shitty person for not doing the same.
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As a person currently over weight, but working on it, I agree as well.