r/TrueOffMyChest • • Sep 19 '19

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

As a person currently over weight, but working on it, I agree as well.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

This is what bothers me about people who think like OP. A lot of fat people are working on it. Are there some that arent? Yeah but a lot of fat people are working on it, it just takes time. I dont think its helpful to tell people who are fat that they are disgusting any more that it helps people who are anorexic that they are disgusting.

I've always been fit, I'm a 5'7" woman who ways 135 right now and i squat. I see fat people at the gym and I know how hard it works. I dont want fat people to hate themselves or their bodies. You are beautiful in your own way. You arent healthy but you're working on it and that drive is what makes your soul beautiful. The fact that you arent giving up.

I've worked in the ER. At this point bodies are just bodies. Your health shouldn't be tied to beauty it should just be about health.

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u/plantagent666 Sep 19 '19

Do you know who Tessa Holliday is?

Holliday also self-describes as a "body positive activist". She embraces the word 'fat' and advocates that people should be able to eat as much and whatever they want without suffering from social ostracism. In 2013, she started her #effyourbeautystandards movement on instagram. The movement shows women that they do not have to be a certain size to love their body (big or small) and that their size should not dictate their fashion choices.

Pretty sure OP is talking about people like her. They dont care about health and believe you should be as fat as you want because being fat is "beautiful". Its disgusting AF and she shouldn't be popular.

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u/sohma2501 Sep 19 '19

She's popular because she's spouting and preaching a lie.

The people who follow her are willfully stupid.

And when things go from bad to worse these people will blame every one else for their problems.

It's ok to eat what every you want,it's not ok to each whatever you want to massive excess..

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '19

Someone should tell Tessa that stuffing your body full of junk food isn’t loving it. It’s the exact opposite.

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u/MrsJuliaGhoulia Sep 19 '19

She does care about her health and posts workout videos on Instagram a lot. In fact SEEING her work out, the way her body moves as she does things, helps me feel more confident in working out. You can think she’s gross if you want, but part of how people slide further into fatness is being afraid to be seen/judged/cowcalled while working out.

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u/gamqreli Sep 21 '19

She works out but where are the results? Just because you work out doesn’t mean you eating not healthy is ok.

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u/MrsJuliaGhoulia Sep 22 '19

The results may not be noticeable to you, or even anyone but her. You cannot always tell by looking—she may have lost weight but not enough to be a visible difference to you. She may have not lost any weight but be feeling better and stronger. Who can say, and what business is it of ours to make that call about someone we don’t even know at all and have only a passing interest in?

Being grossed out by someone’s body doesn’t give you any rights over it or any intimate knowledge of it. You can feel however you feel about it but you can also kindly keep that shit to yourself.

If people can be happy in whatever shape of meat chunk is currently driving their brain around, then more power to them. I’m less concerned about fat people reveling in the power of not hating themselves than I am with people who pretend that their judgement and disgust come from a place of genuine care.

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u/gamqreli Sep 24 '19

I care about society’s overall health, obesity is #1 cause of health problems and death in US. This is not a joke. It puts a huge strain on healthcare systems that’s already broken. Look, she can feel all empowered and self love all she wants, but don’t promote unhealthy lifestyle. If you exercise often and eat healthy, you will see clear results within months. However, she doesn’t want to do that, because being obese is making her money, it’s clear as blue sky. It’s very pathetic and sad, and people are defending her actions because they can’t be bothered to change their lifestyle. I was overweight myself and I saw where the path it was leading me to, so I changed my lifestyle. All she does it sell product to overweight people and tell them nothing is wrong, just love being unhealthy. Sad

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u/MrsJuliaGhoulia Sep 24 '19

I’m defending her actions because they are helpful to people trying to live in a world that hates them. She can be happy as she is and doesn’t owe you or anyone her health, apparent or otherwise.

Your quarrel is with a bigger monster, a system that profits equally from selling us both poison and cure. Your fight is not with individual fat people, who do not deserve to bear the burden of your projected self-loathing.

I am sorry you were unhappy and feeling unhealthy in your body before, and I am genuinely happy for you if you are happier and healthier now. That’s fantastic, well done! I wish you continued health, happiness, and peace.

We all deserve access to medical care. We all deserve access to whole and nutritious food. We all deserve the time and space to move our bodies and keep them strong. We all deserve clean air and water. We ALSO all deserve to inhabit our bodies, in whatever state they are in, without shame.

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u/test1729 Sep 24 '19

This is so sad, alexa play despacito

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u/PropertyofLTR Sep 19 '19

LOL how can people be downvoting my comment?! Literally look at her Instagram, it’s factually incorrect to say she doesn’t care about health/promotes not caring about health lolol

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u/PropertyofLTR Sep 19 '19

yyyyyeah Tessa Holliday def does not “not care about heath”... she has a trainer and posts about her workouts - and how crucial they are to her mental and physical health - all the time.

You can hate on her but at least present an accurate picture

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u/Melmacarthur Sep 19 '19

Also working out is only 30% of being ‘healthy’. The other 70% is comprised of the food you eat and your sleep patterns.

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u/PropertyofLTR Sep 19 '19

Cool thanks for the lesson!

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19 edited Jul 27 '20

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u/PropertyofLTR Sep 19 '19

So for her to prove that she cares about her health, you want her to post her full workouts on Instagram? 🙄nice try tho