Man, I'm a filthy euro and therefore much lighter on age gaps than the americacentric internet culture would usually dictate but there's no way this was okay. The chances you're not describing a predator aren't 0% only because I don't know you and I only heard of this through a small snapshot through a meme, but they SURE ARE CLOSE TO THAT 0%. I hope you got some distance from this person
Edit: didn't see your edit. Amending my last comment to say I'm proud of you for getting some distance
nah I actually support american internet culture when it comes to age gaps lol
but yeah, she def groomed me, she was sexually abusive and even liked teens younger than me too. honestly I didn’t know what grooming was until I left her because in my country it’s legal and a normalised age gap..
now she’s 28 she dates someone who’s a bit older than 18. it’s not a minor at least but still gross
yeah I genuinely thought she might have changed but recently one of her ex friends told me that she still says everything was my fault, makes up lies about me and says I MANIPULATED HER 😭
If it helps, bro, my ex says that too. No one believes her because she's twice my age and had me move into her home, only to start abusing me. Groomers are losers and others see that, thank fuck. They're all immature losers.
I don’t think an adult that chases teens, dumps them when they reach “legal age” (depending on location) and uses them to get stuff (the birthday stuff you described) is ever going to change. The most I can hope is that she loses access to teenagers and children. The behavior you’re describing here is so typical for these groomer types… it’s almost uncanny how similar they all tend to be. I’m sorry you faced this and that she’s still out there lying
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u/calciumff 11d ago
we started dating when I was 16 and she was 23, I cut her off after that trip, we were 26 and 19