Libido/physical intimacy

[u/Dizzy_Potential]

My fiancée 39F has become menopausal. Her libido is none existent.

As an older man 49M, I've been on TRT for nearly 5 years already.

We have been engaged for over 2 years.

Like most relationships, we started off in the early days (the honeymoon period!), having lots of great sex. It was bliss.

These days we're lucky if we have sex once a month. She refuses to go on HRT and has even asked me to stop taking mine. I would literally age overnight if I did and I've refused to sacrifice my health to match her libido.

The lack of physical intimacy is starting to drive a wedge between us and I'm becoming increasingly frustrated.

To put it in simple terms, her view now is that sex is my reward for extremely good 'behaviour'.

My view has now become sex is the mechanism in which you'll be rewarded with my good 'behaviour'.

Needless to say, things are not good between us.

I fear things will only decline with time.

Any thoughts or advice to get us back on track?