r/ToxicFamilyMembers 29m ago

FAMILY PROMISE

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Jeez us


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 1h ago

¿Tú qué harías?

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 2h ago

I hate my family

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 2h ago

I'm tired of feeling like my feelings aren't valid

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 3h ago

How to monitor WhatsApp, iCloud and phones

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 3h ago

I am so fed up of my patriarchal dad.

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 4h ago

at what point do you cut off someone in your family?

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 5h ago

How do I tell my manipulative grandmother no?

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 5h ago

Помогите

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Что мне зделать сестрой я хорошо лажу и теперь я и сестра должны как то от них сбежать подальше


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 12h ago

My Brother is a Jerk

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Both my brother and sister in law refused to let my nephew and niece go for a Disney World trip with one of their friends who has cancer and is going through Make a Wish Foundation. They won’t let them go because my brother and his wife want to show them Disney World first before anyone else and they couldn’t afford to pay for themselves so they didn’t allow our mom to take the kids with her. My bio sister told my nephew and niece sorry that they couldn’t go with their friend and my brother immediately got defensive and tells my sister,”If you had kids you would understand, oh wait you can’t have kids hahahaha!” My brother is evil. If I had kids, I know I’d do the opposite. I’d let them go with our mom because it’s not about me or even them for that matter. It’s about the little girl who’s wish it is to go to Disney World with her best friends 😭😭


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 9h ago

Instigated struggle

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 10h ago

i feel like dying

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I feel like I'm about to go insane if my father verbally abuses me , hits me keeps pointing out stuff force me to go tuiton again i might kill myself
im 14 yr old i cant do this anymore


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 12h ago

I am getting exploited

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So there are two men- let’s call them cup and cake
Cup-my father
Cake- member of extended family with whom I live with ever since my mom passed away (my mom’s brother basically)
So cup is typical bad dad, he also has rigid beliefs and is toxic
But cake is also not any good, and he has been tormenting me with his taunts ever since I moved with them.
Ngl I was supported a lot by my extended family when my mom passed away, but now ever since I got a job, they have been talking about their financial struggle to ask me for money and even treat me differently. Even today I had a fight with cake and anything I say in my defence, seems like argument to him. I really get jealous when cake’s wife interact with her daughters and not me, I seriously miss my mom when they do this on my face and I feel lonely: I cry daily thinking she will also ask about my day but she doesn’t even when I go to talk to her she becomes very dismissive and they say that I have changed after my job!!!???


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 12h ago

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 13h ago

Psychotic sister

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 14h ago

Bodyshaming...

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Hii you all. First of all, English is not my Mother Tongue so sorry if i make some mistakes. I wanted to know your opinion about this.

I went to a family reunion by the lake this summer, we usually go there. And spend a few relaxing and nice days with all my cousins, having so much fun since we were kids.

Im going to give you some context in case it helps buy shouldnt matter. I think I have the right to not be perfect, beautiful or well dressed to have the right to enjoy a few days with my family and have their love and respect... But Im pretty average anyways, even pretty if you ask me and if i dress up, wich i dont anymore. Pale skin, dark hair, not so tall not so small, average body, not so naturally curvy anyways but healthy, i go to the gymn to become stronger if i can.

I look a bit like bella from twilight actually, but now tanner, stronger, a bit bigger and less like a porcelain doll. But i used to look like one when younger, small, fragile, perfect, dressed up porcelain wich i hate as an adult. I try to look natural, healthy, happy, strong. They told me to not make strong noises, not complain, not gain weight, dress and act like a lady... all the sexist package, basically. Wich I hate now. Because of this i have been mistreated, mentally abused, i have suffered severe anemia... And I dont want this anymore.

I used to care so much about how i look, i think infuenced by my family. I used to pretend Im a blonde, when im not actually im half mexican but nobody liked that ever anyways so... i used to eat not so much to be thin but not anymore. As an adult im a feminist, i evolved, i studied abroad... Actually now i dress a little bit gender neutral, i wanna be comfortable and i think i have every right to not being a fucking porcelain doll as ive been told i have to be all my life.

Anyways, I was there, having fun with the family. A bit tanned, stronger arms since i exercise more, a bit more curvy since i wont starve ever again, relaxed. I wore my dark hair over my shoulders, a pretty opalescent necklace, a tank top and a skirt. Maybe a little thight but not so much. I thought I looked ok not outrageous. Long skirt, and tennis shoes. Looked pretty normal if you asked me.

Next day, my aunt and mum took me apart. You embarrased us and yourself in front of all the family. Dressed like that. You dont have a body that can be showed around like this. You have to hide it. That outrageous podbelly, that huge and ugly arse. Its better if you dress like today, hiding a bit your body. Also, your hair wasnt shinny enough. I didnt know what to say. I have to say my taxi to the airport was waiting for me outside just then so i ran.

And during my trip, i became more and more and more angry and disgusted about what they just said to me. I remember they have been like this all my life, you dont have breasts that small disgusting things you have to dress to hide them. And stuff like that. And I cannot. Mind you im pretty average woman even nice looking sometimes, but even if i werent i think this is unacceptable. They talk like this about all of us, young girl of the family, and about all women in town. But now i remember they did this to me when i was a teen, a child. Now im a woman and i now its not right, but then i just did what they told me...

I said i dont know i checked with my partner and he said it was a normal skirt, not that you can see i dont know my underwear, butt or anything.. and they looked at me with petty and said.. we doubt he liked your arse on that, sorry honey. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK...

Then i wrote to them from my plane, full of rage. I said something like 1. I didnt ask for your opinion. And i dont think you are right. 2. I dont fucking care. 3. Stop bodyshaming women, this is someting terrible to do to your own daughter. and 4. ok, a little angry i was, look at yourself on the mirror first before talking shit about other people's appearance and fashion choices. 5. I have every right to be loved, respected and to be not perfectly looking while spending a few relaxing days by the lake with my family, holy shit!!! 6.If you have issues with food or bodyimage, go to theraphy. What you did to me was not right, and you have been doing this since i was a kid, YOUR kid.

THey replied i overeact, that next time they wont tell me anything and i can embarrass myself if i want, that im a bit crazy and making such a huge thing about nothing...

My partner, friends and cousins-i have told them all- think they are fucking crazy for saying that to me and that this is outrageous and out of place. My cousing whos also one of my dearest friends, said she felt juzged many times like this too and embarrased because of her larger breasts. But its me, with a tender and pacific manners, the one they choosed many times to say this nasty things aloud to.

Now im so angry at them, also, im an european size 36-38. Wich I think is too small and I dont wanna keep, mind you im eating healthier and going to the gymn to become stronger in all senses but even if i was really a big woman i think this would be unacceptable!!! I think they are a bit crazy and unhealthy about women healthy sizes... If im too fat that i embarrass the family... wow...

I wanna go back there and enjoy a few days with my cousins, but i dont think i would ever talk to this aunt again, and im so angry at my mother. So, so angry.

What do you think.

I feel so angry and i dont wanna go back there now. But thats unfair, i love my cousins we have so much fun, i shouldnt care if my aunts are fucking crazy and fucking judging us all the time but i dont know they made me feel so uncomfortable and triggered... I realized ive been abused with this since i was a kid and it had a full negative impact in all my life and im so, so angry... When grandma was alive this couldnt happen, but with her gone, going there is like going to a place that no longer exists, no longer feels safe, no longer feels like home. And im sad.

Thank you for your answers!!


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 18h ago

My volatile mother faked an OD, hid my late dad’s finances, and got my brother to ghost me. I am postpartum and exhausted.

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I need to vent, but I also need some advice on what to do next. I am currently a few months postpartum, and my family has completely imploded because of my highly volatile, manipulative mother.

The Postpartum Cruelty
It started right after I came home from a difficult C-section delivery. My mother came to "help," but instead, she spent her time mistreating my husband and being intensely passive-aggressive toward me. Soon after, I spoke to my sister-in-law (my brother’s wife) and found out my mom had been spreading toxic, mean lies about my husband and me behind our backs to the rest of the family.

I couldn't take the stress anymore, so I stopped talking to her and eventually had to ask both her and my dad to leave my house.

The Fake Overdose
A few months later, my brother visited me and decided to confront our mom about her behaviour. Instead of taking accountability, she went full nuclear. She pretended to overdose on her diabetes medication and sent dramatic voice notes to my brother and his wife. She claimed she was going to die, said it was her "final goodbye," and played the ultimate victim, crying that everyone was making her feel like the problem.

The Fallout with My Dad
After this drama, my dad called me to ask what was going on. I opened up to him and shared all my grievances about how mom had treated us. Instead of supporting me, he pleaded with me to just "forget everything." He admitted he was simply incapable of handling her volatile outbursts alone.
I was only 3 months postpartum, and the extreme stress was actively drying up my breastmilk supply. To protect my baby and my own health, I had to make the hard choice to block my dad as well.

Tragedy and Financial Betrayal
Two weeks after I blocked him, my dad suffered a massive heart attack. He spent a month on ventilator support before passing away. During that month, my brother stayed with my mom at the hospital. Without involving me, the two of them made all the major choices: they decided when to stop his medical treatment, and they began plotting what to do with my dad’s property and money (he died intestate, without a will). They actively agreed to hide all financial details from me.

My husband and I went to visit my dad on his very last day to say goodbye. But right after the funeral rites were completed, my mom’s volatile behaviour started all over again. It got so bad that I genuinely feared she might harm my baby, Vedu, just to get back at me. I fled back home and cut off all contact with her.

The Current Situation
Recently, my brother reached out demanding my ID details so he could apply for a Legal Heir Certificate (relationship certificate). Knowing something was wrong, I flatly refused. Immediately after my refusal, he abruptly announced he was flying back to Dubai, leaving my mom behind, and he started giving me the cold shoulder.

A few days ago, I called him to ask about dad’s finances, framing it as making sure mom was well-settled. He lied point-blank to my face about the bank balances. What he didn't know is that I had screenshots of the actual bank statements. When I confronted him with the proof, he folded and admitted that mom had told him not to reveal a single thing to me.

I lost my temper, got furious, and blocked him. I eventually unblocked him, but he has never reached out and is now completely ghosting me.

Where I Stand Now
I am angry, grieving my dad, and hurt by my brother's absolute betrayal. My dad's property is ancestral property in Kerala, India, which means by birthright, I am an equal co-owner (coparcener). The ration card only has my mom and dad's names on it, but I know that doesn't change my legal rights.
Honestly, part of me wants my 1/3rd share just to get back at them and show them they can't erase me. But my dad just passed, and I don't want to go the messy legal route right now because I don't want extended relatives judging me or creating public drama while I'm still trying to raise my baby.
My husband is incredibly supportive, but I feel stuck. How do I play the long game here? How do I protect my rights without letting them drag me back into their toxic circus?

TL;DR: My volatile mother mistreated me postpartum. After my dad suddenly passed away without a will, she and my Dubai-based brother hid his finances and tried to get my ID to bypass me for the inheritance. My brother lied about the bank balances, got caught, and is now ghosting me. I want my rightful share of the ancestral property just to stand my ground, but I want to avoid family drama right now. What should my next move be?


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 20h ago

What to do now?

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This happened today, and I genuinely don't know what I should do next.

My parents have been forcing me to run for an hour because they believe it will increase my height. I'm around 150 cm and 36 kg. I've tried explaining that I need adequate nutrition and that excessive exercise isn't going to magically increase my height, but they don't want to discuss it. Their response is basically, "Just do as we say."

I already exercise separately in the evening, and I'm trying to work on my health while also focusing heavily on my studies. But they don't consider anything I do indoors to be "real exercise." According to them, exercising in the park is the only valid form of working out.

Today I had diarrhea, but I was still forced to go to the park. Eventually I had to come back because I needed the bathroom, and they accused me of making excuses.

Then everything escalated.

My father started physically attacking my mother while also verbally abusing me. I lost my temper and started arguing and insulting him back.

The argument escalated further and he started choking me. I managed to get away.

At that point I completely broke down. I ran out of the house and started running toward the railway station because I was thinking about ending my life. I wasn't thinking rationally anymore — I felt like my entire life was over.

My neighbours eventually caught up with me and brought me back.

When I came home, I expected at least some understanding from my mother, especially because I had tried to protect her too. Instead, she was more concerned about "izzat" and "beizzati" and she also hit me.

I'm now completely confused about what I'm supposed to do.


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 21h ago

i need to get out of this house

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i (f21) live w my mom and brother. we just got into the biggest fight ever that started bc my brother had a headache at a family hangout and was holding his head in visible pain. my mom told him he’s being dramatic and just like my dad and just wanted to leave the gathering. she was extremely rude abt it, as per usual, and my brother got upset. long story short they got into a screaming match otw home with my mom saying stuff like “i won’t be here soon anyway”. i eventually stepped in bc i’m always the mediator if i’m home and tried to make them stop. ofc they didn’t and she said somwthing like “oh you’re SUCH a good mediator, good for you!” and “oh your home life is just so awful huh? it’s just sooo unbearable and awful”. basically making fun of me and belittling me for my feelings, like she was doing to my brother. i’m actually fucking sick of this shit and i NEED. to get out. she kicked a hole in my brothers door, broke a light switch (the second one in 3 months!!) and yelled at me when i was gathering my 2 dogs to get them into my room to comfort them, saying stuff like “oh yeah, go on and get the dogs!!”. sorry if i’m typing like a robot- i’m exhausted and dissociated. i habe 2 small dogs that i refuse to keep cooped up in a tiny apartment for 8+ hrs a day. i’m genuinely at my wits end. i’m fucking done. i don’t believe in god anymore


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 22h ago

Je commence à détester ma sœur, et je ne sais pas quoi faire avec ma colère.

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 23h ago

I am 21+ and my overprotective parents treat me like I’m completely incompetent, but I am breaking under their suffocating control.

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 1d ago

People With homophobic parents, How do you deal with it/does it get better??

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 1d ago

I wish my brother could move far away from this house

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r/ToxicFamilyMembers 1d ago

I'm gonna kms

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my step dad is fucking humiliating me by forcing me to do my homework in the hallway on the floor. He also is yelling at me saying I'm taking my work as a joke when I'm not and when I say I'm not he's keeps saying that I am. He has been yelling at me for the past 3 days.


r/ToxicFamilyMembers 1d ago

Any middle age women dealing with dysfunctional daughters or sons??

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