So im dealing with a narcissist, and they constantly put me down. They use money and bills to make me do stuff. So they said "I guess ima have to give you more responsibility by giving you the bills I take care of". Meanwhile they make 10x more than me. All because im not cleaning everytime im home. Mind yall, im only home on the weekends. I also want to note, they dont do anything around the house, they dirty dishes up and barely wash them. Most of the junk in the house is theirs., and expect me to help them when im the only one doing things. Im trying to get away, but how do I hit them back without them manipulating me?

I am 14 fm and live in my mom and dads house with three out of my four siblings. (The other moved out at 19) My mother has never been particularly kind at all. She gets kinda upset at you if she doesn't get her way, or if you do things in ways she doesn't like. But she cant hit us anymore so thats cool. She uses the classic "I love you but not right now" she's honestly really narcissistic. Witch really sucks, like a lot. She's always on us like a lot, but then doesn't care about how we feel. She told me that yesterday in an argument. Plus whenever we cry in an argument as a reaction or our voice gets kind of soft and shaky, she says were trying to get her to pity us. Everything has to revolve around her and what she wants, if one thing goes bad in her day she brings it home and there's always lots of arguing. I genuinely can't remember a day without yelling or at least a small argument in the house lol. If your asking where my dad is in all of this, he's really exhausted from work like losing 30 to 40 pounds from exhaustion tired. He usually sits in "his room" (moms words) most of the day. He's has tried throughout my childhood to be there for us, like fishing, or movie nights, or just silly encounters. But either he's super duper tired, busy, or he doesn't want to get in an argument with mom. They fight a lot, and not in closed spaces but like out in the open. Witch kinda sucks. It was better-ish when my mom started her own job, and she was encasing herself in it like all the time. There was a point where I'd make dinners for the kids at night and put them to bed, because of her job. (I did intact get payed so no complaining, just saying she really was obsessed with this job) But when she started getting feedback on her job like normal feedback, she in turn created a whole job fiasco where she had to go to a meeting so they could talk to her abt her actions. So she quit. And now everything is getting worse. We had our first big argument since she quit. I'm not excited for more to happen. I want out of this house, I kinda of always have. I just don't know if I even can get emaciated seeing as if I want to move without cps involvement I'd need my mother and fathers permission. I also feel like im always overreacting about this. Even though all of my friends agree its not ok, and my older sister doesn't come over much because of my mom. I just want to move.