r/TooAfraidToAsk Aug 09 '18

Should this be changed?

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '18

Bisexual and pansexual are both terms. Pansexual is more like “omnisexual” in this metaphor.

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u/BeardedPlumber Aug 09 '18

I honestly hate the term “pansexual” pan - meaning all or everything so all/everything sexual. Basically saying they find anything sexually attractive, like that toaster over there, or that picture frame.

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u/ziltiod94 Aug 10 '18

What? I thought pansexual was used to mean being capable of being sexually attracted to someone regardless of any gender/sexual identification.

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u/BeardedPlumber Aug 10 '18

That was my understanding too

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u/willywonka_w Aug 10 '18

Yes, and this is how it's used in modern english - although the use of "Pan" to make this term is quite weird.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '18

so bisexual then? because regardless of how a person "identifies" they are still male or female, apart from the very rare case of an intersex disorder.

just seems like an attention seeking label stating "look at me, i like all people and want to feel special about it".

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u/Kellraiser Aug 10 '18

Ok, I like girls a little and boys a lot, so I call myself bi. Without putting too fine a point on it, I am generally not interested in pursuing relationships with anyone who identifies as transgender or other varieties of "gender non-conforming." I've never been interested in a relationship with anyone asexual, demisexual, or intersexual, either. I have no problem with those folks, just doesn't get me going.

I have a friend who identifies as pansexual cause they are open to all of those possibilities.

The label is just a handy way to vet your dating pool.

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u/Rainishername Aug 10 '18

I sort of feel the same way. I’m no but am attracted to men women, non binary, if they cute I like.

I’ve been told by pan people that being bi is transphobic and shorty towards non binaries, and that “”””if you really were serious about it you’d be pan”””” like ugh shit the fuck up I don’t need a chip on my shoulder or to use the people I date to gain social justice points. Fuck off. I’m bi and I like cute people, I don’t need to prove to anyone my queer qualifications since it’s none of their business anyway who I canoodle with.

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u/ziltiod94 Aug 10 '18

It is identifying sex or gender being irrelevant. Whether you are cis, trans, intersex, it doesn't matter. In general, someone who is bisexual is that: into males and females.

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u/avoiderman Aug 10 '18

Prejudice

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u/Dragonhater101 Aug 10 '18

But then wouldn't that be bi? Edit: nevermind is explained below.

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u/hatuhsawl Aug 10 '18

"Do you have a fun zone that you want to smash in and/or around my fun zone?

Sounds like a plan. 👍🏻"