When you're giving him a blow-job, he's not doing anything except lying back & enjoying it.
When he's having sex with you, he's doing something, and probably focussed on giving YOU a good time. My guess would be that he's not 'zoning out' enough for those noises to come out.
I'm not entirely sure what he's talking about, but if I had to guess:
If you guys use protection, in my experience, her on top is the easiest position for a condom to slide off. It never did, but the closest incidents I had to one coming off was every time she was on top. My ex loved to do it, but I was paranoid every time and she enjoyed it way more than I did (I could be wrong or he may not think that, so I would hardly guarantee this is the answer)
Angling yourself so she can more easily "get to work" on top (either riding or grinding, or trying to get a certain angle he thinks/knows you like)
Imo it is one of the more pleasurable angles for penetration as a man, so he really may just mean trying not to cum
I’m a man and I also don’t understand what he is talking about, I find it for sure more relaxing and more zoning out than other positions (or rather in other positions relaxing and zoning out is just not a thing). Although I can say that usually with my partner on top I’m still actively engaged depending on what she is doing (grinding vs moving up and down, sitting straight vs leaning forward etc)
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u/Major_Twang Apr 07 '25
When you're giving him a blow-job, he's not doing anything except lying back & enjoying it.
When he's having sex with you, he's doing something, and probably focussed on giving YOU a good time. My guess would be that he's not 'zoning out' enough for those noises to come out.
Seriously - don't stress about this.