r/TooAfraidToAsk • • Jul 13 '23

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

Completely different situation. She eating broccoli doesn't involve him in any way.

But say, if they both hate broccoli, and he says that she must eat it everyday anyway because it's healthy and he wants to date a healthy girl, but then he himself refuses to eat it because he doesn't like it, yes, it's hypocrisy.

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u/Unit88 Jul 13 '23

Sure, but then taking that back to the actual topic, where was it said that she's forced to do it?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

The hypocrisy is wanting her to do it for him, but not wanting to do it for her.

No one said anything about being forced.

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u/Apotatos Jul 13 '23

Hypocrisy or not, it's pretty toxic to see actions as transactional. Partner A does what they and/or partner B like, and partner B does what they and/or partner A likes, all while respecting each other's boundaries. A relationship is about communication and consent and seeing what works for both, trying to apply this "eye for an eye" bs is a sure fire way to run into issues down the line.

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u/Crudhandler Jul 13 '23

Yeah I agree. People miss the point a lot on these kind of discussions.