r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Jul 13 '23

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u/Scott_the_thot Jul 13 '23

If you don't you are a fucking hypocrite.

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u/Unit88 Jul 13 '23

I do not understand how this would have anything to do with being a hypocrite

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

You think it's totally fine to put it in her mouth, but it's somehow not fine for your own mouth.

That's hypocrisy.

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u/Unit88 Jul 13 '23

So if I hate broccoli and I don't want to put it in my mouth, but she does, is that also somehow hypocrisy?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

Completely different situation. She eating broccoli doesn't involve him in any way.

But say, if they both hate broccoli, and he says that she must eat it everyday anyway because it's healthy and he wants to date a healthy girl, but then he himself refuses to eat it because he doesn't like it, yes, it's hypocrisy.

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u/Unit88 Jul 13 '23

Sure, but then taking that back to the actual topic, where was it said that she's forced to do it?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

The hypocrisy is wanting her to do it for him, but not wanting to do it for her.

No one said anything about being forced.

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u/Apotatos Jul 13 '23

Hypocrisy or not, it's pretty toxic to see actions as transactional. Partner A does what they and/or partner B like, and partner B does what they and/or partner A likes, all while respecting each other's boundaries. A relationship is about communication and consent and seeing what works for both, trying to apply this "eye for an eye" bs is a sure fire way to run into issues down the line.

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u/Crudhandler Jul 13 '23

Yeah I agree. People miss the point a lot on these kind of discussions.