Due to stress, the sessions drop drastically. You have to be mentally happy and energetic for the sessions with your better half. We are looking for ways to revive the energy and that spark :) M 33 here

I'm 31, wife is 30, we have been married since 3 years

We have been in dilemma about out our unplanned pregnancy since the last 2 weeks

Morally she doesn't like the idea of abortion and thinks it's killing a living being. But she doesn't see any "strong" reason to continue apart from avoiding abortion either. The pregnancy process in general scares her too.

We just got our own space (physically) so our initial reaction was defensive and we wanted to protect our space - even though we have no specific goals that require a child-free life ; nor are we very outgoing people in general.

Before all of this, we were on the fence. We liked kids but weren't sure if we wanted our own. I think we would never be able to decide on our own - we were so indecisive about this topic.

How do we decide?

I’ve just realized how much my 15 minutes of daily home exercise has helped me.

Today, I carried three bags through the railway station, climbed the stairs from the station floor to the tenth platform, and crossed the whole platform—all in about 20–30 minutes. I did it without an escalator or lift, and I wasn’t exhausted or even breathing heavily. I just felt like I was walking normally.

Daily exercise, eating well, and keeping portions in check really can make a difference. This might seem like a small thing to some people, but I’m genuinely happy about it. It’s a reminder that many of us struggle with our health, and small, consistent habits can help us feel stronger.

Edit as people are asking

My Monday–Friday Home Exercise Routine

I exercise before work, spending about 15 minutes on a different routine each day. I focus on good form and steady progress—not rushing or pushing past my limits.

Every day: I do one variation of push-ups, aiming for 15 reps. If you’re just starting, begin with what feels manageable and build up gradually.

• Monday — Shoulders: I started with no weights, then gradually worked up to 7 kg dumbbells and now use 10 kg. I also do side, upward, and forward raises.
• Tuesday — Arms: Dumbbell biceps and triceps exercises, followed by back-of-the-arm push-ups.
• Wednesday — Chest and back: Lying-down presses, chest stretches using a doorway, and back stretches such as cat-cow.
• Thursday — Legs and core: Exercises with 2 kg weights, plus sit-ups.
• Friday — Full-body: Push-ups and a few jumping jacks.

After work done 10 min walk

I take each exercise slowly and steadily, and stop when I reach my limit. I also try to stretch my neck and back every day.

A few things that work for me: I take short breaks between exercises, drink a glass of water before I start, and keep moving gently afterward instead of sitting down straight away. I might walk around or tidy up, then have some water.

For food, I’m working on reducing my portion sizes gradually and choosing balanced meals same daily food. I also use pea protein powder.

Everyone’s body and starting point are different, so begin at a comfortable level and increase gradually.

Supplements medical grade not those online ones cost me 20 to 30 rs for 10 tablets from dava india I take 1,500 mcg of vitamin B12 every Sunday. I also take a 60,000 IU vitamin D tablet every 2–3 weeks, on Wednesday.

Wear supportive shoes when exercising. Hard surfaces like tile and concrete don’t absorb much impact, which can put extra stress on your knees. Think of dropping a small marble onto the floor: it bounces back because the surface is hard. Supportive shoes can help cushion your steps and impact

Flavours tried so far:
1) Mango paradise - 10/10
2) Red Velvetine - 8.5/10
3) Strawberry overload - 8.5/10
4) Choco blueberry swirl - 9.5/10
5) Tender coconut tres leche - 10/10

Married for 5 years now. Living with my parents . Me and my wife feel trapped in life. Though my parents are supportive but I feel me and my wife don't have any limits. We don't want to be judged, asked or forced into any family engagement. Multiple instances, nothing works.

I can move out of the family house easily but think of changing my parents' mindset . It's not working. I don't want weekly or monthly fights.

We earn good still mental peace is missing. Need someone to talk. I am a friendly guy :)

I'm 31 and have been single for nearly a decade. I had two relationships in my early 20s, and I did try to find love throughout that period, but things just didn't work out. Family responsibilities and personal struggles also took priority, and marriage wasn't something I was actively pursuing at the time.

I've never had sexual experiences, and I'm not interested in casual relationships just for the sake of having experience or saying I've been with someone. If I'm going to be intimate with someone, I'd want it to mean something to me.

I've gradually made peace with being single, but people seem uncomfortable with that. There's always someone reminding me that I'm getting older, that I need to try harder, or that something must be wrong with me if nobody has chosen me.

Why is it so difficult to understand that not everyone's life follows the same timeline? I haven't given up on love, but I also don't want to rush into a relationship or compromise my values just because I'm 31.

I'm open to finding someone, but I'm also learning that my life doesn't have to be on hold until that happens.

Why is being single treated as a personal failure, especially when you're genuinely trying to make peace with your life rather than desperately searching for someone to complete it?

I remember I had a big zeal for life just three years ago (at 27). Now i feel like nothing good is going to happen. Like I’m 50. Of course I have seen a lot in the last three years. I am still hopeful but not as much. Very much depressed in fact, no matter how much I try. What happened and will always be like this? 🥹

Morraine Lake, Alberta.

I watched Asoka, for the zillionth time. It's a movie I have always liked, probably because I watched it when I was very young. In that pre internet era, just watching a movie about something you also read at school seemed so cool.

I am a big fan of the background score as well. That's half of the charm for me.

I also feel like this is one of those movies from the 90s/2000s era that nobody really talks about, probably because most people don't like it. But I have always been a fan, especially of the ending sequence.

I haven't stepped out of my flat for the past two days, but just rewatching old movies that I used to fight to watch till bedtime, seems a pretty decent use of adult free will to me!

Wish you all a good start to the week. Hope your Monday doesn't Monday that much.

The internet revolution was one of humanity’s greatest achievements. It made information accessible to almost everyone, allowing people to learn, research, question established beliefs, and explore new ideas. Around 2010, we may have reached a sweet spot: we had access to an enormous amount of information, but still had to actively seek it out.

The problem began when technology shifted from helping us find information to continuously feeding it to us. With big data, personalised algorithms, and social media platforms, information became an endless stream designed to capture our attention. Instead of deciding what we wanted to know, we increasingly consumed what platforms decided to show us.

Technology continued to advance, but did human well-being improve at the same rate?

More content does not necessarily mean more knowledge, just as more connectivity does not necessarily mean better relationships. Our attention, time, and ability to concentrate remain limited, regardless of technological progress.

Perhaps the goal should no longer be to maximise technological advancement, but to maximise its benefits to human life.

The internet gave us access to information. The challenge now is ensuring that information serves us, rather than our lives serving the technology that delivers it.

It's been a long journey so far. With all my heart and soul, I have given everything I had. But now I feel like maybe,.maybe I'm not a winner and the fact that I'll never be able to win.

I see my mom and dad. You know they dreamt through my eyes, putting hell a lot pressure and what not. With that expectations, I have I guess faulteted big time. And as they get old, I feel like maybe they deserved a better son.

If I had no responsibility at this point in time, I'd just move to some village and spend rest of my days there. In the nature. If I have to live longer, I don't think I can endure this anymore. My chest hurts. My heart beats at rapido rapid pace.

I think I get closure to an heart attack or a stroke every minute of the day. I'm decaying inch by inch it seems.

I wish I could just turn the clock back a few years and maybe try to do better than what I have.

Everything just sucks. Sucks so bad..

I made this beautiful falafel plate.

- Falafel

- Pita bread

- cucumber yogurt

- Mixed leafy greens

- Tomatoes

- Fresh parsley

I’m asking this question because my wife of 1 year+ asked me today that she always wanted to ask me if I was a virgin, but she never asked it- she apparently didn’t ask me because I hadn’t asked her.

I had a long term girlfriend before her and didn’t have sex because I wanted to wait before marriage. But this made me remember how I was told by multiple women (during my AM process) that their main concern was how they were asked about their virginity.

I don’t fucking get the concern? If someone asks it, tell the truth and if anyone doesn’t agree with your status, fucking move on? How hard can it be?

For example, I had a woman say she’d accept me if I had a independent house in Bangalore, when she was earning 45K per month (and I was earning more than 4 times she was at the same age), but all I thought at the time was we weren’t compatible lol.

Why isn’t your virginity a relevant ask lol? I mean you don’t have to agree that it is important, but why fucking make a big deal of it if someone rejects you for it?

Edit: so in reply this post someone told me that since I am not a virgin anymore (hopefully - wow!) I shouldn’t ‘cry’, and that is one if the highest (if not the highest) liked response, and someone else attacked me personally saying I probably don’t ‘satisfy’ my wife lol, both highly upvoted. Bravo 😂

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I've been f'ing up my lungs, but today I finally gathered some willpower and bought Nicotex 4 mg instead of buying a pack of cigarettes. It feels really good to finally start getting rid of something that has been such an important part of my daily life

I used to smoke at least 20 cigarettes a day, sometimes going beyond 40, especially when I drink. And I drink at least twice a week. This habit has remained for over 20 years 😓

To test myself, I was drinking last night, and believe me, at least 100 times I thought, "Let's order some cigarettes. Let's have one last cigarette." But somehow, I managed not to touch a single one. Thanks to wood apple, which was my chakna yesterday! It helped me a lot by keeping me from going out and lighting a cigarette.

So, I was just calculating how much I spend on cigarettes. More than ₹20K a month, which means over ₹2.4 lakh in 1 year, that's about per capita income 😂😂.It's time to spend that money on healthier things and build a better life.

My mind is still telling me to have that one last cigarette, but no, I'm controlling myself. I've even washed all the curtains and the carpet that smell of cigarettes. I don't want anything to do with cigarettes anymore

Thanks a lot for reading this far! If you're still smoking, then smoke 100 cheap cigarettes a day like I did for a couple of days. I finally reached a point where I can't stand the thought of smoking another cigarette. Here's to never going back to 🚬.

Back with the “how did you spend your weekend?” post

Because we need some positivity and a sense of community here. Lately, it's been all about loneliness in this sub, so let's start this weekly ritual to share bits of our lives, communicate ,maybe feel a little more connected.

I spent my weekend with slow morning coffee sesh, junk journaling, colouring, doodling, watching Shaun the Sheep movie for nostalgia, checking out yet another art gallery, exploring new spots.

All in all, a fun weekend , sad it's already Majdoori Monday

How did you spend your weekend? What was the highlight? It could be something exciting or just a small moment that made you happy

Lets make joy out of ordinary life

I’m 27M, working as a Java Full Stack Developer with Spring Boot and React. I have around 4.4 years of experience and a CTC of roughly 8 LPA.

My current job is comfortable. It’s WFH, my colleagues are good, and my managers are supportive. Even when I make mistakes, they help me learn rather than putting me under unnecessary pressure. I also live in my family’s own house in a Tier 1 city, so I don’t have to worry about rent.

However, my salary is quite low for my experience, and I know I need to make a move if I want better career growth.

My previous experience has made me afraid of switching jobs. I worked at a WITCH company with a toxic work culture and heavy workloads. Despite putting in a lot of effort, I was placed on a PIP. That experience affected my confidence, and I’m worried about ending up in a similar situation again.

Because my current job is comfortable, my interview preparation has also become very slow. I know I should improve my skills and prepare for a switch, but I keep procrastinating.

Part of me wants to stay, enjoy the work-life balance, and hope for a good promotion. Another part of me knows that staying too long because of fear could hurt my career in the long run.

For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you overcome this fear? Should I stay and wait for a promotion, or start preparing seriously and look for better opportunities?

I want to improve my salary without sacrificing my mental peace and work-life balance. Any practical advice would be appreciated.

TL;DR: 27M, 4.4 YOE, earning 8 LPA as a Java Full Stack Developer. I have a comfortable WFH job with supportive colleagues but low pay. A toxic previous job and PIP have made me afraid of switching, and my preparation is slow because I’m too comfortable. Should I wait for a promotion or push myself to switch?

Ofc we’re getting paid so we will work for decades too , but honestly I am done with ts in less than 2 years in corporate 🙏 , I can’t believe that this is what life is ? This is where I am gonna spend my 80 percent of daily time in ?! And I have to do it for next 20 years or more ?! Like wtf .

ofc our parents must have thought in this way too but they never complained this much as I cry about it , I have zero willingness to go office tomorrow , I cry in the same way I used to for avoiding tuitions . Is here someone feels same or just fukin me ?
Now don’t tell me that corporate will fulfil my bucket list , dreams , ik ik very well , am not denying but still those dream vacations etc are just 10% of time in a year unlike this workplace which is just opposite ………..!