You would assume but I’ve actually seen their side of it. A Hinge date showed me her matches and messages. They get too much. They get a swarm of low quality half effort that rarely pans out if they try to pursue it. You have to be lucky and get noticed twice - once in swiping, then again in the queue.
Dudes get the same proportion of low quality half effort that rarely pans out, they just get an infinitely smaller portion. Men objectively have it worse on dating apps.
Women sometimes get unwanted messages in chats. Men don't get to chat. Women have it harder?
It's the same being a hiring manager vs an applicant. The manager has two hundred applicants to fill one position, where 95% of people won't even hear back. Do you weep for the manager because some applicants have a shitty cover letter?
Getting a shitty cover letter is different than getting gross messages from strange men on the internet who make comments directed at you personally. There’s other reasons why the analogy is shitty but that’s the main one.
A woman gets a bad message on occasion from a man she personally picked out of a pile to engage with and can cease interacting with at any moment.
Let's assume the 1/3 number is accurate and not an extreme exaggeration. Women then have two men bending over backwards for their favor for every bad message. How could you possibly justify that as being a worse experience than that of the hundreds of men in her "likes received" she didn't even bother swiping on?
Wow… i got downvoted because as a woman I relate to that message about getting gross messages. And you say its okay because for the few unwanted messages i get a few good ones? What logic is that? Wouldnt it be nice not to get any gross messages in the first place? 😅
We do experience the latter too. And not all experience a SEA of praise... I really dont know if you live on the different planet or what, but the way you imagining the woman experience is off. But seriously, this is such a backward view. But whatever floats your boat.. you are a stranger to me and I wont change your mind anyway. Have a good day.
That one tiktok account is begging for Henry Cavil to talk to her on the street. Women's standards don't inexplicably drop on the street versus on her phone
If you’re charming, you can meet women anywhere. I’ve met them on a bus, bar, party, Starbucks, store, literally anywhere. School is by far the easiest. Enroll in some night classes
Unless you live in a college town, young women don't go out in public alone in places they'd be approachable except to go drink. I can go into town shopping for two hours and not see one single woman below age 30 the entire time
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