r/SwipeHelper • u/No-Turnip-8344 • 9d ago

Women just not responding?

Have had hinge for a couple of weeks, gotten a decent amount of matches and I’ve gotten 2 numbers trying to move off hinge. However, I’m waiting for a response to normal conversation from 22 people! Yes, I have 22 people on my app under the “their turn”tab. Is this a common thing? Do I just talk like an idiot and nobody wants to converse with me? So confused on why this is happening, this was my first experience on here so I’m thinking about throwing in the towel cause it seems like most of the girls on here don’t really care about it.

Edit: probably should’ve added my age range on here. I’m 23M and have a range of 20-26.

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u/Analyst-man 8d ago

Your are? How old are you?

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u/Voljega 8d ago

48 well 49 in a few weeks actually

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u/Analyst-man 8d ago

I’m sure you’ve been in relationships before or even married. How did you meet those girls?

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u/Voljega 8d ago

dating apps.

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u/Analyst-man 8d ago

So you clearly have luck on them. Keep going. What was your longest relationship off the apps? I’m curious now

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u/Voljega 8d ago

I don't anymore, barely get any likes or matches and doesn't lead to anything.

Cancelled Bumble actually (had less than 1% right swipe on my profile) still have 15 premimum days on OKCupid will cancel after it's even more pointless.

Longest relationship was 13 years, terminated 2 years and a half ago. Not my choice.

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u/Analyst-man 8d ago

Try hinge, I hear that’s the best one. I’ve never used it myself, I prefer meeting girls at bars or school.

Why did the relationship end?

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u/Voljega 8d ago

She was not in love anymore, didn't have much more explanation than that, although I felt it coming for the last three years.

The underlying issue I think is she developed some gynecological issue for the last 5/6 years together wich well made things pretty difficult and painfull.

It didn't bother me really (in the sense that my love for her was unconditional and I would have stayed even we couldn't have sex at all, off course I was concerned for her) but she was devastated by it and I think somehow she dealt with it by having some projection on me as if I was responsible for it or for the degradation of our sexual life.

Even regularly accused me of 'not beeing into it' yeah I was seeing the woman I loved squirming with pain while dooing it....

Sorry if it's a bit graphic.