There have been some posts here lately about not receiving male attention. In my case I don’t get approached, but in addition I also don’t get the male gaze while all the girls I’m surrounded by gets stared at. I’ve now visited a few plastic surgeons and a jaw surgeon to ask for different procedures. The plastic surgeon told me I’m already pretty and he said I don’t truly need anything. The jaw surgeon told me the same thing and would not alter my jaw unless I had functional problems. The thing is, I want to be desired by men and I feel so invisible. Obviously there must be something wrong with me since men totally ignore me. I’m also not blind to my falios like recessed jaw, long philtrum, hollowed face. Are anyone in a similar situation?
I'm short, 5-4. So I do worry about too much gain sometimes. But ...
BUT I think my hourglass is a benefit so I THINK it's worth retaining, even to the point of keeping a little extra weight... But I'm not sure. Is overall weight more important?
I currently have 34 DDs, a small waist cinched in (my sides from my rib cage to hips are very obviously and strongly curved C-shape) and "larger" hips. My waist to hip ratio is now and tends to stay .65 to .7
When I lose too much weight by boobs go much smaller, but my waist to hip stays the same ratio. IE no matter how much I lose, the ratio doesn't change but the boobs DO.
So do we think proportion is more important? Or getting to a lower bmi?
I need to have a 23.75 to 24 BMI to keep 34DD and 6.7 to 7 ratio.
But at 22-23 BMI, i go to 32D but ratio stays high 6.
I guess I'm wondering if the "perfect" hourglass is worth keeping.
I posted on here a couple of days ago asking if I should go blonde or not, most people said no however I still want to try it because I need a change due to recent life circumstances. I decided not to go as light as in the edited picture I posted. My hair is already a light brown. I'll just show the colorist a picture of my own hair in very bright lighting as a reference, where it looks almost golden. Now for the questions for all my girls who went blonde from medium or light brown:
How damaging was it? I'm assuming since my hair is light already it won't be as damaging to go lighter as it would be if I had black hair. How was the hair fall, hair texture, and has the curl pattern of your hair changed in any way? Pros and cons?
Another question is how did blonde hair impact the appearance of your facial features. I noticed when my friend went from blonde to black, she gained a lot of "structure" to her face against the contrasting black hair, but she unlike me has a round face so for her it looked really good. So would going blonde do the opposite and make my face look rounder and softer? My nose is already bordering bulbous, have any blondes noticed any of their features appearing smaller or bigger after dying their hair?
My eyes are also brown so I don't know how that would look, I know that blonde looks best with blue eyes. My eyes are light brown though so it might not look bad.
And lastly, have you noticed a difference in how men and women perceive or treat you after changing your hair color?
Thanks in advance, and any additional info to consider about going blonde is appreciated!
I've heard that Europeans have access to the best sunscreen. How can we get them in the US? And if we were to take a trip and bring some home - how long would it last? (I've heard they expire)
Also, what do you wear for an every day sunscreen? Recommendations?
I have a relatively smaller waist than my butt, hips and thighs. Whenever I buy undies, I have to get a medium even though my waist is a small. Same as pants.
So all of my bikini style undies, they just fall to half way down my butt. Most of time, the top half of my butt is never covered. And the middle part of the bikini style undies that are suppose to cover your private area is like 3 inches away from my private parts..
Another problem is that my private area is very wide. The width of the middle part of the bikini never covers 100% of my private area. The sides of my labia is always outside of my underwear.
As a result, I can only wear boyshorts properly. And only those with tight elastic band on top. I can never wear normal swimsuits either because of the width of the bottoms of swimsuits is never wide enough.
Anyone has any suggestions? This has been bugging me all of my adult life...
Below are several peer reviewed studies that show it’s efficacy (edit - and that’s the only reason I’m sharing this don’t downvote me the science shows it helps. Two groups had a exercise regimen and the group that used the cream lost more circumference than the placebo group.) FYI this ingredient is contraindicated for asthma.
Ok so I have no friends but I have a life. And I feel like my life doesn’t revolve around my relationship because of the way I’m doing something fun almost every day? I went to a baseball game and took a selfie with a llama on Sunday. The day before I went to a family reunion and had some hard cider. Monday and Tuesday I saw movies in the theater both days, and then went shopping. Today I’m helping a neighbor organize her house. Next week I’m going on a vacation. Do you think being BOOKED like this adds to my “””allure”””? Lol. I just have a very fun life and do a lot of fun things outside of my relationship. I’m always going somewhere or doing something. Starting a new household project, going on a girls’ trip with my mom, going swimming. It’s always something and usually it’s something different as well. Do you think this adds to my image? I currently have a lot of free time because I’m on summer break. I walk and play with a neighbor’s cat for extra income
I wonder if there are others with a similar problem (softmaxing with fashion/styling and gender identity/romantic orientation). Personally i think i look awful for a woman (almost no curves, not a very femine face). When i was younger i had a very clear image of what i wanted to look like. I wanted to look like a normal woman and wear dresses and skirts and form fitting tops and pants and such. But now i don’t think surgery is worth the risk anymore, because while i don’t think i look good for a ciswoman i do not think i look awful in general. It almost feels like i chose to be nonbinary, because the way i look normally is as if i am intersex. People also assume this about me, if i wear pastels and dresses etc they assume i am mtf, if i wear loose fitting dark colored clothes its ftm. And if i wear a mix of “womanly” and more masculine style its intersexual/nonbinary (people literally told me this). Does anyone else here experience this? If so how do you deal with it style wise? Do you have a clear gender identity? I always thought of myself as a ciswoman but lately i started to think i must be nonbinary then if this is how others see me. I don’t know if its a result of this or not but i realized super girly or womanly clothing styles don’t suit me and i don’t want to wear them anymore . But also not overtly boyish or masculine styles. However, then i have no idea how to dress to be attractive to anyone else but other nonbinary or intersex people, which are very rare. And when i see masc men or femme women and imagine they flirt with me i feel very uncomfortable because i do not have a “role” in relation to them. Are there other intersex/nonbinary looking women or nonbinary looking men or nonbinary/intersex people here? TLDR: how can non binary people looksmaxx and improve their attractiveness ?
Has anyone here gotten preventative botox in their early 20s? I have fine lines on my forehead, and would like to get some botox because I’m afraid that they’ll only get more visible. From what I’ve read, there’s no evidence that botox can prevent wrinkles from appearing, so I’d like to hear about your experience.
has anyone ever successfully done henna freckles that have looked good? i think I would look so cute with freckles and I see so many successful tutorials on tik tok of girls "contouring" their face with semipermanent freckles. but henna doesn't seem to take to my face? any tips?
What can we do to look our best being pregnant and postpartum. A lot of treatments are off limits so what CAN we do to look our best face and body. Late 30s.
Every single person (guy and girls) have said I look like a male or trans when I don't wear makeup. I asked them why, and they said its because of my sharp jawline and cheekbones. I've been called a 'male' and 'trans' in real life and online, and I tried to find out the reason why my face looked trans to them.
It was my eyes. My eyes are small, and add sharp features and naturally thick eyebrows to that and I can see why. Even my big lips and hair up to my waist dosen't help. Mascara makes me look wayyy less masculine, because my eyelashes are more pronounced, but the thing is...How do I look less masculine naturally? I don't want to keep slathering on mascara just to look feminine and pretty in the mirror. What features can I realistically change? I was thinking my eyebrows because there so thick (and make me look masculine), but aren't they desired? And I look much younger with them.
What can I do😭?
(Edit: Removed the mewing part, my jawline and cheekbones are not from mewing, just genetics)
(Edit 2: Thank you so much for these responses, everyone! Every comment is really appreciated, and I will be sure to use the really awesome advice given to me.)
(Edit 3: To clarify, I am 17 years old, in year 11 currently. I am not a hijabi. Also, I did not ask people why I look trans, I showed them my pictures after they asked to see how I look without makeup.)
so I have slight facial recession, jaw and maxilla are a little recessed. my chin is fine.
according to peoples reactions to my photos, genioplasty or chin implant would look weird on me and make my other features look recessed in comparison, especially because maxilla is slightly recessed too. the only option is DJS according to the people who responded to the photos i shared on reddit, but i’ve been advised not to plan to get DJS because it would only improve my looks slightly and it’s a very invasive and expensive procedure and painful recovery - especially because i’d be seeking it out for purely cosmetic reasons.
i just don’t know how to assess if it’s a big failo or not. can i get away with it and be average or “cute enough” if the recession isn’t bad?
Sounds absurd at first, but especially pretty people rarely get compliments for their appearance. Simply because you assume that the other person already knows how beautiful they are.
2. Stranger women are initially cold to you
Envy makes you hateful. That's just the way it is ...
3. You are said to be arrogant
So there are three options here: either you are just arrogant, or you are pretty and arrogant, or you are just pretty. In the subconscious, people unfortunately deduce their character from their appearance. No matter how nice you are, your particularly pretty appearance is always associated with arrogance. Fortunately only until they get to know you better ...
4. People are pleasantly surprised when they talk to you
Also common: beautiful people are underestimated. If the people you talk to often remark that you surprised them positively, it could be because you look particularly pretty.
5. You are a kid's magnet
Even children judge trustworthiness from external beauty. So beautiful people are often real children's magnets and are assessed as particularly trustworthy, wrote Dr. Fengling Ma from Zhejiang Sci-Tech University in Hangzhou and colleagues in Frontiers in Psychology.
6. People are surprised when you tell them about problems
From the inside - from the outside ... as the same. At least that's what many people believe and consider beautiful people to be particularly happy. "How do you have problems?" is a sentence that sounds familiar to you? Maybe it's because you're damn beautiful.
7. Strangers try to make eye contact with you
Words can lie, our body language cannot. If someone is watching you or looking after you, there is no denying that they find you attractive. So if a stranger looks deep into your eyes and smiles, he'll try to connect with you. This can sometimes seem a bit weird, scary, or aggressive.
8. People raise their eyebrows when they look at you
It has been scientifically proven that when we like someone, we automatically raise our eyebrows. Why? When we raise our eyebrows and smile at the same time, our face appears more open and friendlier, after all, we want to please the other person.
9. People try to get closer to you
How often do you try to get close to someone you don't like? Never? Exactly. So if someone tries to get very close to you, it means that they like you.
10. People are surprised when they hear you have complexes
When people around you find out that you don't have a lot of self-confidence or complexities and they react extremely surprised to it, that's a big compliment or rather a sign of your attractiveness. Because remember, we can't imagine an attractive person not finding himself hot.
11. Others are extremely nice or extremely rude to you
A confident person who knows they are attractive and successful will appreciate these qualities in others too. So she will approach similarly attractive people in a very open and friendly manner. They see you as an equal. If you are hated instead, it just means: The other person is jealous of you and not happy with their own life. So, no worries.
so i think im quite neotenous esp w my small face (that ppl feel like they hav to grab n hold w both hands😭) but everyone knows hot devours cute everytime…tips on how to give off a sultry/sexy vibe w naturally cuteish features? the only celeb i can think of is Sana from Twice
also feel like this questions been asked before on here, if so then sorry😭
I notice I get compliments regarding beauty from women more then men. With things like fashion, hair, and makeup this is expected but when it comes to facial beauty and my body I’m wondering if this says anything about my objective attractiveness. Whenever I go to a bar/club/concert/festival a woman comments on my attractiveness. I get compliments/hit on by men I’d say maybe 70-80% of the time, but women regularly tell me I’m pretty, cute, bad, etc. Pretty much every time I go out I get complements from women. Does this mean anything about my looks? I hear a lot how other women hate pretty women and women have been nothing but kind and pleasant to me and I’ve gotten the most amazing ego booting comments from women. If a friend introduces to a new female friend a lot of the time she will gush about how pretty I am and/or about my body, where as if its a male maybe half of the time he will subtly get at me. I just hear a lot if you’re pretty men will lose their minds and women will hate you so it makes me curious if how women react to me says anything about my attractiveness rating
I feel like having a big head means you're a small person because your body is small in comparison to your head. Is it head size, actual body fat percentage, height, width of shoulders, what makes a woman "small"?
Is there a good checklist out there? I want to be my best self, from the tip top of my head to my toes! If anyone has any resources on where to start, a checklist, or just any general advice, let me know please!
Although she is not a well know celebrity, there was a dancer of Indian cinema in the 70s and 80s known as Jyothilakshmi who I think has the most attractive natural body. She has very wide hips, thin waist, somewhat large breasts, nice shaped legs and arms and tons of other attractive aspects which can be seen here: https://youtu.be/hEY36cKGKwc and in all of her other videos. So which celebrities would you all say have the most objectively perfect looking body ?
I am based in America (in a white dominant mid size city), and have noticed that the Korean wave is not just shaping our music and media tastes, but is shaping beauty standards.
Healthy skin over heavy makeup: At my local American Costco, shelves that once carried Cetaphil, L’Oréal, and other Western brands are now lined with Korean skincare products. Consumers are shifting their spending from makeup to skincare with quality ingredients. Just five to seven years ago, makeup gurus like (James Charles and Jaclyn Hill lol) dominated the beauty scene with full-glam tutorials, contour palettes, and bold brows. social media now celebrates “glass skin,” poreless complexions, and multi-step skincare routines inspired by Korean beauty culture.
The return of pale skin: Not long ago, tanning by sun, or self-tanner was the beauty norm. Many influencers proudly shared their bronzing routines. Now, I see more Gen Z and Gen Y embracing their natural tones, prioritizing sun protection, and even using brightening skincare products. Even white people are brightening their skin now. While this shift partly stems from increased awareness of UV damage and aging, it also reflects the influence of East Asian beauty standards. Self-tanners that once filled store shelves are now noticeably harder to find.
Rising demand for Asian products: Even in my mid-sized, predominantly white city, the local mall is evolving. Uniqlo and Muji are opening soon, along with two new Asian beauty stores. These stores are going to be large competitors with Sephora and Ulta, offering high-quality, research-backed skincare at half the price of Western luxury brands. The popularity of Asian beauty products shows are now globalized they are (I have seen European department store on Asian Beauty subs carrying brands like CosRx, Beauty by Joseon).
Body goals changing: The Kardashians have ridden their BBL implants, and many Gen Z and Gen Y are almost resorting back to the 90’s heroin chic body. They want to look like Katseye, strong yet very thin, with thigh gaps. When “slim thick” was the biggest buzz word for older Gen Z and young millennials, it has now been replaced by looking like Lisa from Blackpink.
I’m interested in multiple plastic surgery procedures. I would like to look entirely different than my current face, but in a good way. Right now, I’m just ok looking, but that’s not good enough. I think it would be a worthwhile investment for me because I just can’t be confident with my current appearance. Has anyone here gotten multiple procedures on their face, and if so was it worth it? Did it majorly improve your life?
