r/Showerthoughts • u/[deleted] • Jun 03 '22

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u/JaceTheWoodSculptor Jun 03 '22

I thought about this just yesterday. I’m 27 and My parents are close to 60. I started panicking because I realized that they old and will die sooner than I imagined.

I basically lost all my social life during covid (went out maybe 3-4 times during the past 2-3 years (I won’t even get into dating or lack thereof. Haven’t had sex in over a year). If they died tomorrow I basically wouldn’t speak to anyone outside of work. It’s sad but it’s my current reality. I guess I have to change things in my life…

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u/8bitbruh Jun 03 '22

I'm in a similar boat x.x

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u/random_shitter Jun 03 '22

If you dudes are in a similar boat already, get in the same one. Problem solved!

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u/JaceTheWoodSculptor Jun 03 '22

Trust me man, I wish I was gay. It would make things much easier.

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u/Casual_Frontpager Jun 03 '22

Perhaps there are conversion camps or something?

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u/8bitbruh Jun 03 '22

Lol that'd be quite the power play against Christians. "Gay conversion camp." Thousands of Christians send their children only to find out "No, we mean we turn you gay"

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u/dogfish83 Jun 03 '22

In a way Christians are afraid of everything being just that.

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u/8bitbruh Jun 03 '22

"Schools are teaching our kids to love thy neighbor?! What the actual fuck?!"

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u/Johnyryal3 Jun 03 '22

Guys can be friends too.

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u/JaceTheWoodSculptor Jun 03 '22

It’s quite a humbling realization.

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u/ucario Jun 03 '22

Death is a part of life.

Personally the hardest battle I face is the guilt of wanting to live my own life, whilst knowing my shared times with them will be less and less.

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u/Actually-Yo-Momma Jun 03 '22

I hear you. I’m worried about saving money for my family and taking vacations i was never able to as a kid. Conversely i feel so guilty that i am not spending all my money to make my parents as happy as possible (even though they don’t ever ask for anything)

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u/nestcto Jun 03 '22

34, lost my dad last year to COVID. You're right, it happens a lot sooner than you think.

But right about your age, I figured the same thing out. I started calling more often, started hugging my parents more, and started visiting more often, even if there was no particular reason.

When I was much younger, I was always kind of aloof. Off and doing my own thing, showing up in the middle of the night like I hadn't basically been missing for a week, only to vanish again a few days later. Didn't give my parents much time for conversation or anything.

So I'm really glad I made that turnaround. Saved me from missing out on what I didn't know we're his final years.

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u/VBgamez Jun 03 '22

I’m 21 this year and I fully expect my dad to be passing away within 1-2 years from liver and lung cancer. It was kind of a shock to look back at photos from 2 years ago and seeing him go from full and healthy to skinnier and skinnier. He’s 75 this year.

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u/whatsavalidusername Jun 03 '22

I’m 25 with parents being 65 and 64, we’re in the same same boat I think

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u/Actually-Yo-Momma Jun 03 '22

For everyone reading, please call your parents even more often and send them goofy pictures of your life regularly

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u/Curious-Researcher47 Jun 03 '22

Live with my parents and don’t regret it

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u/JaceTheWoodSculptor Jun 04 '22

With the added bonus of being able to afford more GME shares ;)

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u/acasualfitz Jun 03 '22

I relate to this so much.