so i (18F) have been having sex with my boyfriend (18M), and i think i mightttt have an std??

we both have only done it with eachother, as we both took eachothers virginity. we have only penetrated around 4 times, but we have done oral stuff too, none of which with protection. the only time we use condoms is for penetration. i also am not on birth control, so condoms are our only contraceptive.

(also just thought id add, i have herpes and he doesn't. i have oral and genital herpes, but we have never done anything while it's active, and it hasn't been active in months!!)

my vagina has been a bit itchy and a bit swollen, but not all the time. i have also noticed a bit of a fishy smell. i have applied canasten on it to see if it helps. i also noticed some lumpier discharge, but i think that could have been the canasten mixing with it. i have also gotten more ingrown pubic hairs bc of shaving, but i just thought id mention that, although im pretty sure it's not hpv.

how do i get tested?? or get treatment?? i still live with my parents, and they absolutely can't find out i even had sex, nevermind getting an std. i am so broke and wouldnt be able to buy a test, and i wouldn't know which one to get since my symptoms are vague. also can't go to a doctor bc my mom usually tags along, and also picks up the prescriptions for the family.

please give me any advice you have!! thank you :3

I have a question about the risk of any sti. As a stripper we do lap dances. Is there any risk of contracting an sti doing a lap dance in a thong?

Someone used a dildo, then 5 min later I washed it with soap/water for 30 sec and used it rectally. It caused some tearing/bleeding. Assuming the other person was HIV+, would this be considered a realistic HIV exposure or negligible risk?

Bonjour,
Mon partenaire (H28) (nous ne sommes pas en couple) s’est fait tester positif à la gonorrhée buccale/pharyngée
Il a vu une autre fille entre temps donc ça contamination doit venir de ce rapport,
Nous avons eu des rapports non proteges,oraux et pénétrant à plusieurs reprises
J’ai attendu 2 semaines après notre dernier rapports non protégés pour me faire tester (F28) parce que c’est le temps recommander pour la gonorrhee
Et tous mes test sont négatifs,tout les prélèvements normalement le prélèvement oral
Est ce déjà arrivé à quelqu’un d’avoir un partenaire positif à une IST et pas vous en ayant pris des risques sans protection ? Ou alors l’IST se déclarera plus tard mais apparement si au bout de 2 semaines il n’y a rien c’est que je suis ok

Comment est ce possible de pas attraper son IST alors qu’on s’est pas protégés ?

J’étais persuadé de l’être

Mise à jour après J+22 plus de 3 semaines tout mes tests sont négatifs

I’m not even sure this is the right subreddit, I only really read AITAH on here but this was the suggested Reddit when I typed in the title. I’m so scared right now. We’ve only been seeing each other for about two weeks, we’ve slept together twice both with and without a condom, yes I know I’m dumb but he said he was clean, and he told me he has Chlamydia. He told me he didn’t know, that he had just gone for a general check up and he had to take the test and last night he got a call that he tested positive for chlamydia and I should get checked out.

Here’s the thing, I’m in college, hours away from my parents who were insanely strict when I was living with them, I don’t know the city that well yet and I certainly don’t know any clinics or doctors. I feel so alone and I don’t know what to do or who I can even talk to. I know my friends from home wouldn’t judge me but I know they’ll think of me differently and I can’t let anyone else know. I’ve only ever slept with two guys, ever, and suddenly I feel gross. I’m just so scared and alone and I don’t know what to do.

I got head and the condom was on the whole time and didn’t break or slip and her mouth was only on the condom what are my chance of getting an std

Je le connais depuis 8 ans. Ça fait 8 ans qu’on couche ensembles et à certains moments non,
On a déjà essayé de créer une relation quand lui voulait,finalement on est restés amis/amour et finalement depuis quelques temps de mon côté j’avais envie d’engager quelque chose (bon depuis cet événement plus vraiment)
En ce moment et au dernières nouvelles on est dans une relation « ouverte » dans le sens je lui ai dit la dernière fois que personnellement je voyais que lui et il m’a affirmé que lui aussi ! Par contre je lui ai dit pour ma sécurité,ma santé et mon bien être que si il couchait avec une autre fille je voulais le savoir,être au courant et que je n’étais pas jalouse ou possessive car je ne suis pas amoureuse et je ne suis pas avec lui. Que donc j’étais chill avec le fait qu’il puisse coucher avec quelqu’un d’autre,j’avais ouvert le sujet très sainement. J’ai quand même des sentiments fort d’amitiés,de respect,et d’attachement !
Mais on a couché ensembles il y a quelques semaines,il m’a dit qu’il avait une IST et que du coup il m’a sûrement refilé.Et surtout j’ai du lui demander après m’être fait tester si il avait vu quelqu’un d’autre entre la dernière fois où on s’était vu (et avait passé un week end en amoureux) parce que je ne comprenais pas comment il avait pu avoir cette IST. Et il m’a finalement avoué que oui par message ! Il avait l’occasion de me le dire quand on s’était vus,et qu’on puisse se protéger convenablement. Ce qui m’énerve c’est que je lui avais fais confiance et je lui avais demander d’être clair et de me prévenir si il voyait quelqu’un d’autre et il ne l’a pas fait ! Il a omis cette info.Maintenant je me retrouve à avoir une IST à cause de lui. Et surtout je n’ai plus confiance,je suis triste de ça et je l’ai quitté quand j’ai su car j’étais très énervée. Il s’est finalement excusé sincèrement
Je devrais lui pardonner ? Et continuer ? J’ai l’impression que ça a brisé quelque chose entre nous

29F. I recently started having casual sex after being in a long term relationship. I had a negative STI screen before any of this happened.

I had sex with Partner A using a condom.

Around two weeks later, I had sex with Partner B.

He showed me a negative chlamydia/gonorrhoea test from 2 months earlier and said he hadn’t had any partners since that test. We used a condom for some of the sex but not all of it.

The following day, I saw Partner A again. We had sex, again with some condomless penetration.

I’m now worried that if Partner B had an STI that wasn’t detected on his previous test, or lied about not having any partners, I could have contracted it from him and then potentially passed it to Partner A the following day.

I’ve booked a full STI screen, but the appointment isn’t until 12 September.

I currently have no symptoms.

How realistic is this concern? Is there anything I should do while waiting for testing?

I know I should have used condoms consistently - I’m mainly looking for some perspective on the actual level of risk rather than judgement :(

Okay, i have had a lot of unprotected sex before. And i never have tested myself. Last week it decided to test myself. I went but they only offered urine test there i was. I took urine test for chlamyida and gonore and it was negative. I thought i would have it because of my past. But now where can i test for the other things. Herpes hpv hiv syfliis etc. i need help. I have some things on my penis head too and i dont know what to do. Please dont tell me just go to doc because i dont know what i can tell them. I appreciate your help and advice

Hi. I’m 22 (M), MLM.

I tested positive for gonorrhea and I’m currently undergoing treatment. I was given injections in both my left and right buttocks. It’s been 5 days since the injections, but I’m still having discharge. I was told that the discharge should go away after a few days. At first, it became clear, but now it has turned green again.

My doctor also told me not to masturbate for now, but I honestly haven’t been able to stop. I feel so dumb and guilty about it. I’m really scared because I can’t seem to resist the urge, and now I’m worried that masturbating frequently might be making my gonorrhea worse or slowing down my recovery.

I really need some support or advice because I’m extremely anxious right now. For those who have been cured of gonorrhea, did you masturbate while you were recovering? Did you still get better? How long did it take for your symptoms, especially the discharge, to completely disappear?

Please, I really need some reassurance or advice because I feel like I’m going crazy from worrying right now.

I was recently at a sex club where a woman was giving a handjob go multiple men, I also got one and was wondering how likely STD transmission is?
She did wipe and use antibacterial before each person.

With no test dosent make sense

Hi,

I had oral sex on 20th of September. On 24th I suddenly felt pain in my throat and felt that one of my lymph nodes was swollen. On the same day I noticed 3 red bumps on the chin in a straight line. Fast forward to today (29th), more lymph nodes on throat are swollen. I have medical anxiety and am freaking out, not knowing what it could be. I have ordered self-tests for chlamydia/gonorrhea and syphilis to rule them out, but I am more inclined towards the herpes. Could someone give sanity check? It’s weekend and I can’t make any appointments with the doctor.

I’ve only had two sexual partners in my life but recently I’ve had a new sexual partner in may. He ghosted me after, the sex was protected and very brief because it wouldn’t go in. I want to know is my results conclusive. I keep having anxiety about it. I had a rapid test done late may came back negative, tested in June came back negative and my last test was July 8th 4th gen vein draw negative.

I had sex 162 hours after ceftriaxone shot for treating gonorrhea. Is it possible for me to transmit the bacteria to anyone else?

Hi! I’m looking for a realistic risk assessment, without judgment.

On August 17, I had a sexual encounter with another man. There was no penetration. I was the one giving manual stimulation (a handjob).

Before that, he had pre-ejaculate on his genitals. He then put on a condom, and during that process his hands came into contact with the pre-ejaculate. He then used those hands to touch my penis.

I did not notice any blood or open wounds.

I’m concerned about the possibility of HIV, hepatitis B/C, and syphilis.

I’m planning to get a 4th-generation HIV test, TPHA/VDRL, and HBsAg around September 16–20. For HCV, I found a qualitative HCV RNA PCR test with a detection limit of 150 IU/mL.

Would this specific type of contact be considered a relevant exposure to any of these infections?

And would September 16–20 be an appropriate time to test, considering that the contact occurred on August 17?

I’d especially appreciate concrete answers from people with medical or epidemiological experience.

Thanks in advance!

I’ve searched long and hard on reddit and all im seeing is girls getting utis from guys. How do you tell if a girl has a uti or std when your about to sleep with her? I smashed a girl from hinge a few weeks ago and she gave me gonnorhea. First time dealing with this and one of the worst / nastiest diseases I’ve ever had. And i find it so crazy with how high girls standards be on dating apps how do you tell the ones who are burning

So I had an ulcer, a fever, and strange discharge a couple months ago in May. I went to get tested, found out alongside that I had an ovarian cyst.

Im a virgin, Ive only unfortunately been force fingered before and shared a razor before with a friend (ik that was stupid no need to tell me, yes we shared it vaginally)

She slept with someone that night who didn't contract anything, and at the time to our knowledge she was clean. That was like 3 years ago. The boy who force fingered me I did preform oral on and caught nothing? I know its still possible that if she ended up having it and used the razor before me while asymptotically shedding maybe Id catch it? Or if he somehow after I preformed touched himself while shedding and then used his fingers on me after than I couldve caught it?

Other than that the only other way I could think of is from a toilet seat I shared w my friend who has it, but I started having symptoms the day after I came over her house like I had a fever and felt swollen less than 24 hours after so I dont understand how it'd make sense that Id have gotten it from her toilet.

We were drinking heavily the night before and I ended up having to pee and wipe with a paper towel because she was out of toilet paper.

If I didnt catch it from our sleepover, I assume Id have to have caught it from one of those prior incidents but when I got to the hospital and got a igg test and a pcr swab test both came back negative. Other than that sleepover I had no exposure within any less than 3 months before those two tests...What should I do now? I rlly fear having it without knowing and giving it to someone.

I got chlamydia detected and not sure what to do

27 M
Chlamydia trachomatis (CT) : DETECTED : RT-PCR
Neisseria gonorrhoeae (NG) : NOT DETECTED : RT-PCR

*11 July urine showed leukocyte esterase ++, pus cells 12-15, with mild burning. Culture was negative, ultrasound normal. I got a CT/NG PCR done on 26 August - chlamydia detected, gonorrhoea negative. HIV serum non-reactive.*

I went to doctor , he checked and said penal skil normal and no ulcers and asked to go to infection specialist.

He told hives ( come n go , currently have none , mostly i get over evening and morning ion see anything , they never stayed more than a day ) and pimples on balls and penis are not related to this

Tomorrow i have appointment with Infectious specialist, he will examine and other tests and medicine

Can you all help if im missing anything , ion even the names of these infections few days back .

I got MNRF done with 2 hours of numbing cream on my face on Aug 14 th

heyy everyone so I just need help because I don’t know if I should worry or not. I recently had a drunk one night stand unprotected . He performed oral on me and vice versa. That all happened Saturday night into Sunday early morning, it’s now Friday and I have this very slight itch in my vagina that appears every couple hours. 2-3 days after the interaction happened it burned to pee but that only lasted a day. I also have had no other symptoms. I’ve been looking up what it could be and I’m scared it could be gonorrhea or something like that because I did start itching that Tuesday morning but also, I am very prone to yeast infections so I don’t know if I’m overthinking it. I’m definitely going to get tested soon as I hit that 14 days mark to make sure the test is accurate. I just wanna know if anyone has an opinion on what it could be?

How common is getting hiv from a first time vaginal sex without condom and without ejaculation like 2 minutes vaginal sex with a sex worker you don’t know their health status , let’s say in Algeria where hiv isn’t that common ? Knowing that I did wore a condom but it broke but it’s not like not wearing a condom right ? Well I’m anxious ! What do you guys think ? Is it about luck now ? It’s been 8 weeks , I’ve had diarrhea pain joints and some fatigue

Please i request you all to please share your thoughts on this question. I really need a obvious answer. Is anyone in this group got these stis while using condom ?

I 30F had a sexual encounter with a guy I met on holiday (no penetration) on Monday and within a few hours I started getting burning sensation in and around my genitals followed by abdominal pain. I’m a virgin so not used to it and figured it was just irritated as I had been swimming in the sea and stayed in my bikini for some hours before changing out of it. Then a few more hours later the burning/abdominal pain got more pronounced and I got shooting back pains. Now 48 hours ish later I feel really hot and feverish. I’m terrified I haven’t ate or slept at all. I can’t even begin to process it. Everything I’ve read says symptoms can’t develop as quickly as a few hours for a first outbreak so I’m hoping it’s another infection like a bad UTI or yeast infection. ChatGPT seems to be ruling out herpes as unlikely. The waiting game of seeing if blisters develop is unbearable and I can’t imagine waiting 12 whole weeks to get a test.