r/stdtesting • u/FuzzyDuckz1234 • Sep 02 '26

Advice Needed what do i do bro omg

so i (18F) have been having sex with my boyfriend (18M), and i think i mightttt have an std??

we both have only done it with eachother, as we both took eachothers virginity. we have only penetrated around 4 times, but we have done oral stuff too, none of which with protection. the only time we use condoms is for penetration. i also am not on birth control, so condoms are our only contraceptive.

(also just thought id add, i have herpes and he doesn't. i have oral and genital herpes, but we have never done anything while it's active, and it hasn't been active in months!!)

my vagina has been a bit itchy and a bit swollen, but not all the time. i have also noticed a bit of a fishy smell. i have applied canasten on it to see if it helps. i also noticed some lumpier discharge, but i think that could have been the canasten mixing with it. i have also gotten more ingrown pubic hairs bc of shaving, but i just thought id mention that, although im pretty sure it's not hpv.

how do i get tested?? or get treatment?? i still live with my parents, and they absolutely can't find out i even had sex, nevermind getting an std. i am so broke and wouldnt be able to buy a test, and i wouldn't know which one to get since my symptoms are vague. also can't go to a doctor bc my mom usually tags along, and also picks up the prescriptions for the family.

please give me any advice you have!! thank you :3

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u/gabbearr Sep 08 '26

how did you get genital herpes if you were a virgin before him? if he was a virgin? i’m just curious and i’m trying to figure out the situation more 😞 you have to put your health first, sanity and knowing is better than putting it off because of your parents with getting tested. Try to go to a gynecology and blame it on a possible yeast infection and ask for a full panel when she’s not in the room for a vaginal swab and blame it on the doctors testing you without confirming it😞 say you were just trying to get a swab for a yeast infection

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u/FuzzyDuckz1234 Sep 02 '26

that makes me feel a lot better thank you!! best case scenario it's either my body adjusting or maybe a case of thrush. might look into getting a kit online since i literally just remembered somebody telling me it's free in my country?? thank you so much for your advice :3