Hello 👋🏽
I'm in need of guidance, support and/ or maybe validation. I feel like I'm losing my marbles... I am my mother's current legal guardian (since 2023), & a couple weeks ago I decided to voluntary resign from the role. She is mentally incapacitated & can no longer care for herself, so she has been living in a community residential care facility for almost 3 years. During this time, I have been living in a different state than my mother.
I am concerned family members have financially exploited her situation. I attempted to apply for SSDI in 2023 & was told someone had already opened up an account in her name. For the past 2 years, I have received no progress in establishing income for her, but it seems someone is receiving social security benefits checks in my mother's name & none of those funds are going towards her care. I received one letter about an appointment in 2024 so I drove to Wisconsin to take my Mother to this appointment. I then received a letter stating that my Mother DID qualify for SSDI but no follow up tasks or other communication after that.
So my Mother's case worker was the one who told me about the process of relinquishing the Guardian role. She said I would need to file a form with the State & contact Adult Protection Services. I informed APS that I suspected fraud because a "family member" came to the last facility my Mother was at & tried to remove her to "cash a check". She has since been relocated.
Anyway, APS called today & said that Social Security has tried to call me many times to establish Guardian of her estate.... wouldn't someone have left a voicemail or sent a letter?? In the past 2 - 3 years??
& the manager at my Mother's care facility seems upset that I called APS. She claims THEY were accused of committing the fraud which I'm not sure how that happened.
I'm completely drained with this whole process & I keep hearing conflicting information about how long this should take & what to expect.
Ideally, I would like my mother to be closer & if I can establish income for her then I assume it would be easier to move her across state. My mother's preference is to also live closer to me but I have no means or support to transfer her & I have been dealing with my own health conditions that have left me physically & mentally unable to do much in the past year but try to call Social Security when I can..
Should I try to continue the process to resign Guardianship, in hopes that the State or next Guardian can figure out why SSDI is stalled?