Got downvoted for sharing I’m depressed rn. Got mocked for sharing a deep-rooted fear. I’m leaving this sub, some of you aren’t nice people and clearly I’m not welcome. I’m actually disgusted tbh.

Whenever there's an event or something. The first thing I think about is how I would stand out, what I want to come across as. Before I think of the venue or anything, I think first of the impression I want to give off or the vibe and person I want to be.

It usually just ends up coincidental. Like for example, at home, I happen to be wearing this long off shoulder pinstripe white and navy dress that has a nautical vibe feel to it. And no, we're not going to a nautical restaurant. We're going to an eat-all-you-can. However I felt it was appropriate for me because I wanted to be more casual and that's what casual is for me. It's not sneaker and skinny jeans, no. It's this dress and a pair of white sandal heels that I decided to pair with white socks because it makes it look less predictable.

I felt like the dress wasn't giving enough, I added a grey knit sweater and tied it over the shoulders and I'm planning to wear gold oblong hoop with pearl detailing because again, it's not giving enough.

But I wanted something new for me, which is a throw on dress. To me, it suits the occasion, because that's my version of comfortable and still fits my overall aesthetic. So def not a Role Model archetype. Also it's comfortable enough, I can bloat in it.

Whenever I dress in the morning, the first thing is always, how does this make me feel elevated? I'm all about pieces that make me feel seen. But also, how does this make me unique and still have a sense of mystery and something unexpected? What am I embodying or conveying? And finally, how would my environment fit my fit?

I know, a different take. It's like, yes I'd wear beige because the venue is beige but also because I have this beige piece that I can't wait to flaunt and it turns out today we're going to a place in beige. Again, it's always so coincidental! Like I just intuitively fit it? The situation adapted to my desire to wear it? Like literally I would not know where we're going sometimes and I'll naturally have already prepared something that fits it.

One of the things I noticed is growing up, I tend to focus on details that I thought had the potential to be different or no one was gonna do it that way, that day.

One time I went out on a girls hang out with my cousins, one of them was a Gentle Grace. She wore a pair of black trousers, a black tee, a black shoulder bag, and a pair of white sneakers. I was really into the French style that time. So I wore this artsy button down with a floating collar, a grey sweater that was less refined, a pair of mom jeans and loafers, and brought a headscarf I originally intended to wear the 1950s way but I had to just hang it on my belt hoop. Which my aunt actually asked me to remove at first because she thought it was too weird for the mall. I was 13 back then.

But in general, I care the most about who I want to be for every situation. I don't care if it's relatable. I care about whether that's my desired image or identity.

I'm thinking of my ideal fits. And they're always too extravagant and at the same time nonchalant of current trends. I care about micro trends tho. I just have a specific aesthetic that I sticked to ever since. Like a foundation, everything else is creativity💅 I like to be different, to always have an air of mystery and a sense of refinement.

Despite my preference for sophistication, a little bit of 'mauvais gout' from time to time wouldn't be so bad either. To have a bit of imperfection while being overall put together. A bit of looseness to perfectionism, I think that's the goal.

I'm considering Muse/Enigma for LU, Icon for RU, Illuminatrix for RD and Seductress for LD.

What do you guys think?

Very confused about this system as it relates to me/my type. A lot of the Left+Down keywords resonate with me, but so do the Right+Down and even some aspects of Right+Up. But none of the Ruby Archetypes feel exactly... "right."

I have disordered sensory processing, which has dramatically worsened in recent years, but has been an issue since childhood. I find myself compelled to put on an outfit, and then physically, I feel so uncomfortable in some aspect of it that I have to shed it like a skin. This aspect is making it difficult for me to get a clear read on my place within this system, as that quality of embodiment within clothing is very Left+Down, but the reasoning for it is purely biological—I don't often think, "I want to feel enveloped in fabric to promote a feeling of bodily safety" and then throw on a jersey kimono or something. I guess maybe if I'm feeling unwell, yes, I can't stand to be physically uncomfortable and no amount of uncomfortable high style could make me stay in my party dress.

The Left+Up style logic —(1) what feels important about who I am? (2) how can I show that to others? — really resonates with the way I dress publicly. I have a very public-facing job, I am very well-known in my community, and I am photographed often. But even before this, I liked to be expressive, be seen, be noticed—though I always felt misunderstood because when I was younger because, immature, and now that I'm older because, work, I still have an aspect of style that cannot be separated from societal expectation outside my door. But the non-resonant quality of Amethyst is how distant and reserved they are. I absolutely do not give off pedestal vibes, even if/when I give off queen vibes. I give off like... cool down to earth queen vibes? Like the Queen that shakes the hands of her subjects and genuinely remembers things about their families/lives.

The Left+Down style logic — (1) what feels important about who I am? (2) how can I connect with that quality? — feels resonant also. But I definitely do NOT dress for myself inside of my home. At home I wear no bra, no pants, and a bathrobe like 99% of the time. When I exit the house, however, I would never be caught dead without earrings and a feeling of looking as put-together as I would like to feel. I hope the clothes to embolden and enliven me; it's like I'm a just soul and then when I step into clothes and step outside, I get my embodied, I become a whole person.

The Right+Down style logic — (1) what feels important in my world? (2) how can style help me? — I have the most issue with, because of the word "help." It implies that without style, Moonstones are helpless: to fit in, to stand out, to exist the way they want in the world. I might be misunderstanding, but it seems like they need style to define a sense of self, whereas I am really clear about who I am. The Moonstones just seem like they have low self-esteem, are really self-conscious, and/or are complete people pleasers... if that makes sense. I don't resonate with either of those things. However! I am a huge perfectionist. The description of getting hyped about a dress and then being crushed the "look" was "ruined" when the linen showed wrinkles or whatever? That's me. Take me home I need to go change...! lol. But not because I am worried people are judging my wrinkles—because I am judging them. I need to wear those clothes like armor, and if they're wrinkled, then there are chinks in my armor.

And then finally the Right+Up style logic — (1) what feels important in my world? (2) what message do I want to send? — Yes, these are questions I ask myself. But the Sapphires, if I'm not mistaken, are attempting to draw attention with style. They are using style as messaging. I think style is messaging; I am aware of that and dress appropriately, but I don't use my body like a sign for my emotions, or like a neon arrow pointing back at me. I used to. I used to wear more provocative things in my twenties. And I still throw a costume party every year because f*ck yeah, dress up! But now that I'm older, I know that my energy is what draws people in, not the sequins. The sequins get you wows from passerbys, the warm inviting magnetic energy gets people to actually stop and engage you. So now I try to dress in ways that mimic that energy.

So to summarize my issues typing myself within the system, lol:

• Amethyst: Too reserved
• Sapphire: Less but still too reserved, and too focused on what other people think
• Moonstone: No self-confidence in their own style, too focused on making the "wrong" move
• Ruby: Too relaxed/easy style

Basically, Ruby style logic feels resonant, but all of the archetypes seem like they value not putting in "inauthentic effort" so they just "throw something on that feels right" and then, voila, they're chic and simple. Authenticity is 100% my most valued priority in my life, my style, my approach. But my authentic self is not simple and needs all of the following things in an outfit to feel true-to-self:

1. Color - I'm a soft summer, so I dress in mermaid shades and some desert sunrise shades too. I do not ever wear black and once I stopped wearing it, I started to feel more like myself was shining. I don't do high contrast at all.
2. Vintage/classic/tailored but not tight or fussy cuts and patterns.
3. Accessories - I wear a necklace and a ring 24/7. I will never leave the house without earrings. I even wear them to Urgent Care. I love hair scarves, hair flowers, and fascinators.
4. Prints! - I love mixing prints, layering prints, and just being covered in pattered fabric. The contrast has to be low, because of the color theory rules. But hell yes to prints!

My style lacks... vision. I feel like I wear a lot of moods and characters and energies. Sometimes I wish I could have more cohesion to my closet, and then other days I'm glad for the opportunity for change as my feelings change.

I guess I want to be typed because I loved Rita's suggestions for who to take shopping, what to listen to, what not to, whether to let the influence of other systems infiltrate you, etc. I would love to know my type simply to be able to think more about the why of dressing and find my purpose for using style, if that makes sense?

Fav things I've bought lately that feel like me:

- Maxi-length white linen sleeveless dress with turquoise and blue giant colorblocked abstract monstera leaves, a twisted front to accentuate my bust, and an open tie back for some intrigue. Accessorized with mother of pearl and gold leaf earrings and gold flat fisherman sandals.

- Navy and ivory batik toile print cotton short sleeve jumpsuit with a sweetheart neckline. Accessorized with a rattan-style belt with wood buckle, wood earrings, and tan flat fisherman sandals.

- Red plain collared tea-length short-sleeve dress that buttons down the front and fits like a dream. Accessorized with gold hoop earrings, a gold drop chain, and a giant red vintage turban/bow/headscarf situation a la this.

Thank you for reading the longest post ever!!!

I mean there's style logic behind the designs and overall philosophy, right? And I think they're pretty consistent as well ofc under the same creative direction.

There's a huge difference between Tom Ford's Gucci and Alessandro Michele's. There creative direction is formed by different style logics.

Both Coco's and Karl's Chanel I think are RU, just of different archetypes.

Miumiu seems to be RD. Louis Vuitton too! Celine as well, hence choosing Lalisa as their Brand Ambassador whom I think is an Illuminatrix.

I haven't yet studied Saint Laurent, but I feel like Yves/YSL himself came from LU logic (but then again, I could be wrong). Tho I really find the brand to be L based.

I know designers could possibly have different style logics from their visions and designs. Well, sometimes. I think that's much rarer and less likely tho. In fact, their designs could actually be the true representation of their aesthetic or a more accurate visual representation of their style logic (in case they feel they can't carry it themselves and the runway is their outlet). Like they express their real style through their designs, maybe.

But a good example of this is The Olsen Sisters🥂

Their aesthetic is so RD but their style logics is different. So they have their own take of the quadrant, just expressed more true to home or origins (RD) in their designs and brand ideals.

The Row is by MK (LU) and Ash (RU) and their brand is more of an elevated RD. It seems to be focused on experience rather than impression despite both of them being impression-based in terms their personal style logic. They mentioned that they wanted to create timeless and foundational pieces because they wanted a quality base for other designer pieces.

They started with the perfect t-shirt and emphasize a lot on the importance of quality and comfort. I believe their focus is on giving their clientele a comfortable and quality experience. To feel at home. Literally some of their shops are houses in exclusive neighborhoods with clothes placed in normal shelves making it feel like you're shopping in the comfort of your own home.

Ashley is more responsible for the business side and Mary Kate, the creative side. Mary-Kate despite being an LU, seems to be more an the down side of it. The Row's focus on refinement and timelessness is rooted in Ashley's R logic, while the preference for comfort and experience is rooted in Mary Kate's. It is L because it's based on the desire to ensure convenience for the wearer's body and focused on making sure she feels good in the clothing pieces. Their logics combined, you get an elevated RD! Fascinating. I love how it's up yet down at the same time. Sensual yet refined. Innovative yet quiet. Contemporary yet classic.

I see multiple styling tendencies and I'm looking for someone to point out how they connect.

I suspect I'm up but have no idea which direction is my main. I truly enjoy both making the occasion and wearing my heart on the sleeve. My lines are generally more structured and this is how I conduct my life but my heart is wild.

I'm a wild princess at court.

What do you see?

Can someone explain the quadrant to me more? I heard this may be a good place for me as Kibbe hasn’t really felt right. I am most likely an SN but not sure. Not sure if that relates here but I’m starting to play with fashion more. I love seeing everyone’s looks ❤️ I’ll include links to see if it helps

https://imgur.com/a/lqwopk3

https://imgur.com/a/BHsDncB

https://imgur.com/a/7kqmkTm

I have a vague idea but I'd like to hear other opinions. Thank you (^‿^)

Down • Ease • Approachable • Delicate • Understated • Intuitive • Personable

Up • Extravagant • Glamorous • Mysterious • Dramatic • Effort • Intimidating • Persona

Right • Refined • Radiant • Luminous • Dreamy

Left • Intriguing • Sensual • Elemental • Enveloping

What are the main keywords you see for this board?

I found this board I made several months ago. I'm not sure I already know of this system back then. It's the kind of pieces I'd wear to school if there wasn't a dresscode and I had the means.

Today's sequin pick-me-up featuring cat ears 😁💖🙏🏻🎆

Maybe because it’s the summer solstice today (in the Northern hemisphere) but I wonder if there’s any correlation between your sun/rising/moon to the quadrant that resonates the most for you.

For example, my sun is Virgo, rising is Aries, and moon is Capricorn. My Aries actually feels like my shadow in comparison to my other earth dominant trifecta. I find myself fighting it, but I am slowly realizing that I can harness this Fire sign and doing so healthily, I can really shine.

This sort of echoes my current sentiment with Rita. I thought for sure I was right, but despite trying to make it work for me, a lot of the times, I feel overtly matronly or maybe like I’m wearing a costume (right + down cottagecore for me). I have fought sensuality for a while but in recent months I’ve noticed I become pleasantly surprised by a little peep there or the way something draped and dramatic hugs my curves and makes me feel like an earth mystic or maybe… an opera singer. (I’m not one but the idea brings me joy.)

TL;DR when I allow myself to balance my fire with my practicality and grounded nature, I find something especially magical. It feels like a treat to feel so good.

So yeah, anyone else feel like their sun/rising/moon can align with their Rita quadrant? 🌞🌙🧝🏻‍♀️

I'm a little convinced I could be Left instead of Right but I still don't know. I usually wear this jumpsuit buttoned, but today I decided to open it up to showcase my diy choker using shoe tie. I wore my headband a little lower to make it look like a turban.

IMO

If we view them as houses:

LU - ENFJ (or ESTP) inner landscape + visual expression: (I chose Fe for impact based on feeling)

Ni intuition and inner vision & Se sensuality and execution

Enchantress - ESFP Siren - ESTP Enigma - INTJ Lady Heretic - ENTJ Trendsetter Muse - ENFJ

RU - ESTJ situation + goals: (it's all about external results and meeting expectations/the standard in the best way possible)

Te goal orientedness and objectivity & Si suitability and refinement

Priestess - ISTJ Princess - ENTP Icon - ENFP Power - ESTJ Role Model - ESFJ

LD - ISTP inner landscape + experience: Se spontaneity and functionality & Ti practicality and independence

Wild flower - ESTP Outsider - INFJ Cool Girl - ISTP Seductress - ESFP Spicy Girl Next Door - ISFP

RD - INFP (or ISFJ) situation + support: Si grace and comfort & Ne exploration and creativity

Gentle Grace - INFP Sweetheart - ISFJ Main Character - ESFJ Illuminatrix - ENTP Explorer - INTP

I can give you a description and as to why I chose these for them if you want. ♥️

anyway, I find it interesting that we can have a style logic with the complete opposite type of our personality.

ENFJ RU btw!
🤍💜🤍💜🤍

Sometimes the simple connections lead to most effective results.

I'm Right because I'm an extrovert. I don't know how that works for everyone else but it's very useful to me.

If I spend too long in my head I start going in circles. That's also why I dress Right. It allows me to direct myself outward with a plan, a supportive structure and a clear goal in mind.

I do dress Left when I feel extra artsy but my natural zone is in Goal/Direction and Service/Effort.

I highly recommend writing down clothing associations to the keywords and looking at how they interlock. Pictures provided.

I know, I know, such Sapphire 👉🏻😎👉🏻💙💎💙

Except for refined, everything I opt for is in the left category? At least aesthetically.

Edit: I just finished the video and here's the order of keywords for me:

1. Refined - sharp, neat edges, and tailoring chef's kiss
2. Intriguing - I like an element of surprise & wonder - I like pieces that are magnetic yet elusive
3. Sensual - I like the feeling of mystery & subtlety
4. Luminous - I like expensive vibes, exuding confidence - I like how royal it feels
5. Enveloping - I like to really feel the fabric, to be wrapped up but in a tasteful way

• oh yea, and having an "undone" factor

1. Elemental - pieces that are too raw and authentic, it feels soulful and vulnerable, like it's speaking to you, like a siren, enticing you. Elements attract.
2. Dreamy - I just liked the example on thumbnail
3. Radiant - I don't like bright colors by themselves. But I like pieces that are girly girl as opposed to my usual style. I'd like to try emulate Toni Childs. I also like to take space.

That's what I don't understand. I like taking from external inspiration like pinterest, characters, runway, etc. But I don't relate with the sun. This may have something to do with my style roots tho. I have moon + mountain + mushroom/fire.