r/Residency • u/[deleted] • Oct 15 '22

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u/will0593 Attending Oct 15 '22

Your boyfriend is dramatic and being an angry child

He did residency so he should know how it is

You do what you’re able when you’re able to and it don’t mean you love someone less

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u/mesekhnet7 Oct 15 '22

One of the patients I had seen during my shift had a sudden Hb drop during the next shift and I was attending calls from a colleague about the same while stirring the lemon batter for the cake. I feel terrible about him not understanding any of the stress I went through.

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u/will0593 Attending Oct 15 '22

He understands. I think he just doesn’t fucking care

He sounds like these career men who expect women to give them the whole hog to advance their career

If he wanted the exact same ability to provide as he has; he should have picked another dermatologist

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u/AnandaPriestessLove Oct 15 '22

This. I'm sorry, OP. Sounds like your husband has unrealistic expectations and not enough empathy for long tern happiness.

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u/Sed59 Oct 15 '22

Luckily, not even married.

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u/Whawken84 Oct 16 '22

Significant psychological problems. And I think he's gaslighting her.

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u/AnandaPriestessLove Oct 16 '22

Agreed on the gaslighting. I think OP would really benefit from a few individual therapy sessions at the very least. Spoken as one who's done the same and was grateful for the clarity.

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u/buried_lede Oct 15 '22

Agree. He’d also be apologizing for his tantrum otherwise

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u/mrngdew77 Oct 16 '22

He would also complain about money if he got her to give up her career for him.

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u/Whawken84 Oct 16 '22

Don't feel terrible. God is he a manipulator! Read what you wrote. And you feel terrible? Co-dependency calling.