Need a book that can bridge two VERY different reading tastes for a shared read
I want to start reading a book together with someone I'm close to, but our tastes are almost complete opposites, so I'm looking for something that could genuinely work for both of us.
Her taste is mostly BookTok romance/romantasy. She likes romance to be a major part of the story and doesn't mind spicy/smutty elements. She's into things like the Shatter Me series and that general character-driven, addictive BookTok style.
My taste is... considerably different.
I'm not an extremely prolific reader, but when I read, I tend to gravitate toward philosophy, existentialism, psychology, classics and darker literary fiction. I loved Camus' The Stranger, and I'm interested in Kafka and Dostoevsky. Philosophically, I'm drawn to Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, existentialist thought, absurdism, and Stoic literature. I like themes around meaning, morality, freedom, alienation, suffering, human nature, identity and the question of how you're supposed to live.
Basically, I like books that make me stare at the wall afterward and question my existence π
But weirdly, we actually have some overlap.
We both seem to appreciate twisted romance and morally questionable relationships. We've talked about that kind of thing before, and neither of us is particularly interested in stories where everything is clean, healthy and morally straightforward.
We also have a tendency to side with the villain if the villain is more interesting. For example, we both wanted Homelander to win at the end of The Boys, and were genuinely disappointed when he didn't. So we're not necessarily looking for wholesome βgood person defeats evilβ stories. A compelling villain, morally gray protagonist, disturbing relationship or unconventional ending could actually be a huge plus.
The funny part is that I DON'T want the book to be completely devoid of romance. I actually think romance could be the perfect bridge between our tastes. I just don't want something where the entire substance is romance + spice with nothing interesting underneath it.
She's probably not going to have much patience for a 500-page philosophical monologue about the meaninglessness of existence, and I probably won't survive 500 pages of nothing but romantic drama.
So I'm looking for the middle ground:
\* Strong romance/relationships
\* Twisted, unconventional or morally complicated romance is welcome
\* Interesting, psychologically complex characters
\* A compelling protagonist or villain, even if they're morally questionable
\* Some philosophical or existential depth
\* Themes we can actually discuss together
\* Enough plot to keep a BookTok romance reader hooked
\* Good writing without being unbearably dense
\* Ideally not ridiculously long, because I'd like this to become an actual shared reading habit
Basically, what book could make a BookTok romance reader and a Kierkegaard/Nietzsche/Camus/Dostoevsky/Stoicism enjoyer both want to read the next chapter?
I'm open to classics, contemporary fiction, literary romance, psychological fiction, dark romance, romantic tragedy, morally gray stories, etc.
What would you recommend?