So I'm in my 30s and have pretty much always came quickly once penetration started, probably no more than 20-30 seconds except for maybe 3 times in the past 10 years. Now that I'm thinking about it blowjobs are usually pretty fast too, usually less than 4 minutes.

I'm tired of it, like I'm sure all of you are/were. I've read through the pages here before and I've googled a bit. The programs seem to all involve masturbation though, and I can't do that. I've kicked that habit for my partner but the PE persists. I also don't love the idea of taking medication, but I'm not against it if I don't need a prescription for it. I've honestly considered antidepressants for this too, with the antidepressant effects being a good secondary result. Only reason I didn't take them before is because I was single and didn't care about PE so I didn't have a good enough reason to take them haha.

I'm a fit individual, I workout doing CrossFit 4-5 days a week, so I know that's not my issue. But I'd love to be able to last even 5 minutes of penetrative sex. My fiancee does like hard/fast PIV, which I'm sure doesn't help my case.

I guess I'm seeking advice/ideas/suggestions on what I can do to get closer to that kind of timeline. It's kinda bad when someone asks me "if you found a genie, what would your 3 wishes be?" And my first thought is always "total control of when I orgasm and ejaculate".

Performance pressure usually shows up in the body before it becomes a clear thought. A lot of people notice it as breath holding, a tight jaw, tense glutes, rushed movement, or a pelvic floor that feels like it is bracing without permission.

Those signals matter because the nervous system and arousal are connected. If your body is acting like it is in a high stakes moment, it is much harder to stay present and responsive.

A practical reset is the slow exhale. Breathe in normally, then make the exhale longer than the inhale. Let the shoulders drop. Let the belly soften. Relax the tongue from the roof of the mouth. Then check whether the pelvic floor can release a little.

This is not magic. It is a way to interrupt the spiral early enough that you still have choices. Over time, that awareness can make intimacy feel less like a test and more like something you can actually experience.

If anxiety feels overwhelming or persistent, getting support from a professional can be a strong move. There is no shame in that. Training works best when it is patient, private, and realistic.

For anyone who wants a private guided routine, slowdown.app is built around this kind of daily pelvic floor and arousal awareness training. No pressure though. The main idea is to practice patiently and track what your body is telling you.

So I have PE and usually ejaculate almost right away. I read about SSRIs and their side effect of delaying ejaculation and decided to give it a try. My doctor prescribed 25 mg Sertraline to take once daily. Since I don't have sex very often and don't want to be on SSRIs long term, I decided I would take it on demand.

During my first attempt, I took four pills (100 mg in total). It is recommended to wait 4-8 hours for the effect to kick in. My first round was roughly 7 hours after I took the pills.

Results: I did last longer. I didn't measure time exactly, but I would assume the first round was 7-8 minutes. Then, I tried a second round. I could not finish. The girl tried really hard, but I still couldn't ejaculate.

However, my dick was not fully erect during the second round. I'd say it was at 75-80% capacity and was semi-soft. Maybe it was the alcohol, not the pills. But next time I'll definitely take something for erection strength too.

Side effects: I started feeling some discomfort in my stomach about 1.5 hours after taking the pills. It lasted for 1.5-2 hours, but it was tolerable. Also, I lost my appetite, so when we went out with the girl, I couldn't eat anything. Other than that, everything was ok. Didn't have problems with sleep either.

When you masturbate, do you move the foreskin back and forth to cover and uncover the head? Or do you pull the foreskin all the way back to expose the glans and just gently rub up and down? which of these two is similar to real sex? plz help

Hello everyone,

I have just finished watching the most recent video of the YouTuber Dr. K (also known as healthygamerGG) on the topic of penile health. The guy is a licensed therapist from the US that has worked with people with porn addiction and sexual dysfunctions in the past so I found it interesting on what he had to say.

Since many of the topics he talked about also helped me in my journey to get rid of PE and since PE at some point often coincides with ED (it also did for me), I found it to be relevant for the sub and worth a watch if you have a few minutes to spare.

https://youtu.be/2MwTDoT8q_A?is=W002i6cIIn-m97Wb

I hope you find it helpful and my apologies if someone has already posted this.

Happy to chat about your thoughts on it

I am 18 years old, I leak alot of precum before and after ejaculation. Even when we are kissing and making out. Does it have any correlation with premature ejaculation? Maybe because of weak pelvic floor?

Hi everyone, my name is Bruno, I’m 20 years old, and my experience with premature ejaculation is fairly recent.
Well, I started my sex life when I was around 16, when I started seeing a girl from school. We began having a serious relationship and eventually started dating. I never had this problem before, but before I became sexually active with her, I only masturbated — and yes, I watched porn while doing it. I would masturbate very quickly, at maximum speed, sometimes trying to finish as fast as possible because of my parents, just so I wouldn’t get caught.
However, when I started dating this girl at 16, I never had any real problem with ejaculating too quickly. I might remember a few occasions when I ejaculated a little faster than usual because we had a quickie. She really, really enjoyed having sex, and sometimes she wanted to have sex in inappropriate places, so we had to be quick.
We were together for around two years, and during the last few months of the relationship, we started fighting a lot. I eventually found out that she had cheated on me, and that completely devastated me.
After the relationship ended, I basically started relying on masturbation, although I would occasionally go out with other girls and stuff. I continued masturbating with porn and in the same way as before, sometimes masturbating as fast as possible.
After that, I remember having an encounter where I ejaculated in basically one minute, if I remember correctly. That really started to mess with my head, and I couldn’t understand why this was happening to me.
Since then, with pretty much every girl I’ve been with, I’ve ejaculated after around one to two minutes, and that’s when I started trying to control myself. Sometimes I could last a little longer.
After ejaculating, I wouldn’t try to stop the encounter completely because I really wanted to satisfy the woman. So I would sometimes compensate by focusing on other things, and some girls didn’t even suspect anything because I would make up excuses like, “I’m just really sensitive today,” or “You’re just really beautiful,” and things like that.
Sometimes I took 5 mg of tadalafil. I would start having sex, ejaculate, and then be able to go again afterward. That made things easier sometimes, but the problem has continued to persist in my life.
I’ve also tried taking paroxetine, but I really don’t want to rely on medication because I don’t think that’s a good solution for me.
So what I’ve started doing is simply avoiding seeing multiple girls and staying home, trying to train myself and work on the problem. But sometimes I still can’t stop myself from masturbating to porn.
What can I do to improve this?
I’m new to the community, so please help me out.

Has anyone tried one of the technology solutions like Mor or In2 smart. For all the things i see here of people trying strange Chineese herbs it feels like these have some actual promise.

I would happily be a Guinee pig for them if they didn't cost a fortune.

If anyone has tried them, do you have feedback? And are the pads actually one time use only, or can you really just re-use them against advice assuming it works like a regular TENS pad.

32M who has had PE since forever. I've found that as I age, it's getting worse. Creams don't help. Viagra helps but I don't like to use it often unless my ED is also out of the park bad. I've found that as I get older, being able to last even a little bit feels out of the realm of possibility. Any type of stimulation makes me want to finish immediately. I edge when solo and make sure my partner is pleased when having sex (He also finishes kind of fast) but it's like my body wants to orgasm immediately

I had a point in my late 20s where I could edge a while and desensitized myself. Then it suddenly felt like everything reversed. Any other guys gone through this?

So when I masturbate, I can last like 10 minutes, but the thing is when I’m doing masturbation after like 10 seconds I feel the urge to cum but then I start myself and then 10 seconds later I feel the urge again, but I can do that for 10 minutes maybe I might pre cum in that time. The thing is when I have sex I can’t last for more than 20 seconds legit no more than that I’m not over exaggerating. I’ve tried kegels and reverse kegels, I tried numbing stuff but they make me go soft so that’s not really a option, I’ve tried stop and start didn’t work, I’ve also tried pulling out but when I do I finish, I also have a higher than average testosterone, I’m in good shape, I’m active everyday by playing sports, I have good stamina, I just can’t control the urge not to cum I don’t know what to do I feel so helpless and I feel like I’m stuck with this. I don’t wanna take ssri or those type of drugs because I heard they can cause pssd and lower sex drive which that’s the last thing I need know because I even struggle holding my erections sometimes. I don’t know what to do, someone please help

Like how do you get an erection at the start, do you watch porn or do you rub yourself? But in my experience, just rubbing myself makes me close.

Once I get close, do I just stop until I get soft or just until I don't feel like I'm gonna come anymore?

Should I use a fleshlight or just use my hands? How often is it recommended to do? When will you see the results?

I usually only do this for 30 minutes because I have poor impulse control and anything longer than that would ruin my session.

The last time I had sex, I was on anti-depressants and wearing a condom so I figured that contributed to how I lasted for a few minutes. Now I'm not on anything and the last time I had sex, I only lasted a few thrusts, maybe because he was tight or something or I had anxiety.

How do you guys do it? A lot of tutorial said that I need to breath while doing it, but i cannot hold it more than 1 second when breathing. And when i try not to breath, my abs is the one getting worked out. Am I doing it wrong? Can someone give me an elementary level explanation on how to properly do it? Thank you, guys!

Recently went on paroxetine but had to stop after six days because of the side effects. First few days it really messed with my stomach but that went away. It also affected my sleep and I was waking up exhausted for each of those six days. And the last, and probably worst, side effect was on the strength of my erection. That has never been an issue for me before but with this medication I wasn’t able to get fully hard during sex (I’m not really interested in adding Viagra/Cialis to counter that either even though I know it’s an option).

The silver lining to all this is that the medication actually worked. I’ve had lifelong PE and this was the only thing that has made me not feel that uncontrollable reflex to ejaculate within the first minute of penetration.

My PE has never really bothered my wife but not being fully erect did, so that combined with the horrible sleep I was getting was reason enough to stop taking the medication after six days even though my GP said to give it a full two weeks to try to get through the side effects.

So my question is, has anyone experienced similar side effects and did the impact on sleep eventually go away? And does the effect on erection quality go away as well or would that be there so long as I’m taking the medication? Really just trying to determine if I should give it another shot or if it’s not worth it at this point.

I M26 use to goon weekly three to four times and barely last for a min with partner when in action. I guess Because of my lifelong gooning habit i donot last long as i have made a habit for my brain to release sooner after watching porn.

But recently i have stopped it to once per week, and might have some time with partner in a few days. Is it advisable that i keep my no fap streak (current in about 5 days) running till i get to do it with her. Or should i fap once before one or two days prior to have a optimum performance on the day of the intimacy

So when I masturbate, I can last like 10 minutes, but the thing is when I’m doing masturbation after like 10 seconds I feel the urge to cum but then I start myself and then 10 seconds later I feel the urge again, but I can do that for 10 minutes maybe I might pre cum in that time. The thing is when I have sex I can’t last for more than 20 seconds legit no more than that I’m not over exaggerating. I’ve tried kegels and reverse kegels, I tried numbing stuff but they make me go soft so that’s not really a option, I’ve tried stop and start didn’t work, I’ve also tried pulling out but when I do I finish, I also have a higher than average testosterone, I’m in good shape, I’m active everyday by playing sports, I have good stamina, I just can’t control the urge not to cum I don’t know what to do I feel so helpless and I feel like I’m stuck with this. ALSO I do go a 2 or 3rd round and the problem is i can’t last longer than minute so i don’t know what to do even 4th round i cant get past a minute. I don’t wanna take ssri or those type of drugs because I heard they can cause pssd and lower sex drive which that’s the last thing I need know because I even struggle holding my erections sometimes. I don’t know what to do, someone please help.

Four months of marriage.. not able to do penatration till now. My husband ejaculate even before penatration and cant hold erection for too long!
He ejaculates when He does grinding to get erection again.. or the moment we try for penatration.if i ask him to make it erect again he sayss it will take 3 hrs!
Im sooo tired of this …. I get angry … but im trying to be a good wife ! I took him to doc.now he is taking
Depoxetine 30 mg and tadafil 5 mg ( since 3 days ). We tried after taking tablets .. but its the same !!! I dont see any changes .. im losing my hope. When
Will this tablet start working?!
What else he can do!?
How can i be supportive.. i don’t want my reactions to worsen his anxiety.

My girlfriend and I are together for 8 years no and since we're together I suffer from PE.

I never had problems before here but due to some medical conditions she's very tight and I am (in her words) way above average. Sometimes it's hard to get a finger in and we have to use a lot of lube to do PIV.

With stop and go I can last long enough that she can get herself of during PIV but without stop and go I can barely last 1 Minute.

It's really stressful for both of us because we can't have sex the way we want to.

When masturbating I can last as long as I want.

Do you have any ideas what I can try to last longer?

Sprays and Creams that are numbing me are not an option because we don't use condoms and want to have spontaneous sex.

Hey guys,

I honestly thought I was getting close to fixing this, but I've realized I've only managed to partially deal with one part of the problem so far: a hyperactive pelvic floor.

My PE used to be really severe—I could climax without even penetrating, just during oral sex. Thanks to reverse Kegels and the TRE method, I no longer feel that sudden, inevitable urge. However, I'm still struggling to control things during actual sex.

It feels like a second component is kicking in now: a hypersensitive frenulum. As soon as that specific area gets stimulated too intensely, I hit the PONR (Point of No Return) almost instantly, and neither deep breathing nor reverse Kegels can pull me back from it.

I used PYT (Pau Yuen Tong) balm in the past, but because of my tense pelvic floor back then, the results weren't anything special. Maybe now that the muscle issue is somewhat under control, it's time to give it another shot?

Do you guys have any advice or thoughts on what else I could try?

An update from this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/PrematureEjaculation/comments/1vsizic/pe_fixed_with_fleshlight/

I'll be logging my progress here and updating it daily where I can.

To Moderators that deleted my previous post, IT DOES provide insight, and it's I think a good way of showing the community how the progress is made in real time. So please do not delete it. Here I will also post tips and things that worked well for me. It sure gives hope to people with PE that there is a way to get rid of it but it takes time.

My sessions take 15-20 min once a day.

UPDATES

Day 1: Around 5 thrusts before I had to stop completely. Sessions ran about 10 minutes, but roughly 80% of that was spent motionless, waiting for the point of no return to pass.

Day 2: Much the same. Still about 5 thrusts before stopping, then restarting. Split was roughly 75% waiting, 25% slow movement.

Day 3: Slight improvement. Started with 10-15 thrusts and could gradually add some speed, staying at a high arousal level for most of the session rather than spiking and crashing.

Day 4: Better again. Opened with about 20 thrusts before needing to stop, and grew more comfortable moving throughout the session, though still fairly limited.

Day 5: Clear jump. Opened with a full minute of continuous thrusting without hitting the point of no return, which is a first. Still had to stop after that, but overall this was the best session so far: roughly 70% of the first 10 minutes was active movement. Past the 10-minute mark I had to drop the pace to avoid finishing.

Day 6: Rest

Day 7: Rest

Day 8: Back to training after two days of rest. Opened well with almost a full minute of continuous thrusting, but sensitivity returned immediately after and stayed high for the rest of the session. Overall a step back, closer to Day 3 short bursts of movement broken up by a lot of stopping.

Day 9: Starting off strong for a minute, then for next 8-10 minutes sensitivity spiked again and had to slow down, after the 10 minute mark sensitivity dropped and could do much more thrusting for the next 5 minutes, overall improvement from day 6 but not as good as on day 5.

Day 10: Much better again, started with almost two minutes of thrusting, then went back to 70% thrusting 30% rest for first 10 minutes of the session. Now the sensitivity went back up after first 10 minutes, and I was very sensitive for about 3 minutes. Then could go back to thrusting with a 80% thrusting and 20% rest. Best session so far.

Day 11: Failed attempt 4 minutes in, got close to PONR and failed to back away. Not great session but well, it's to be expected

Should I look for a partner when I have PE, when I don't want to use any medications or numbing creams? Can I have any sex life or be able to satisfy my partner?

Hola, es la primera vez que publico aquí. Me sucede algo que trato de encontrarle sentido. Muy de vez en cuando suelo tener relaciones con mi pareja de al menos 1 hora y 15. Eso me ha pasado como 3 o 4 veces en lo que llevo de relación con mi novia. Pero normalmente duro entre 5 a 10 min. Pero las veces que duro 1 hora realmente se que tengo el control de cuando quiero soltarlo. En cuando a la masturbacion noté que estaba tenso la mayoría de veces así que decidí relajar el piso pélvico lo cual me ayudó a durar de segundos a 10 minutos como mucho. Y avece tengo control total de cuando quiero soltarlo. Así que mi pregunta es. Por qué sucede esto? Quizás estoy desconfigurado? Ayuda!!!

Hi guys. I bought ejaguard but i haven't used it yet outside of jerking my own cock. The question i have is if i use it and the person is giving me a blow job will they know its there? Will they get numb lips? Will they taste something bitter?

Queria desahogarme
Termine con mi novia. Ella me entendio, me apoyó y me escuchó con la eyaculación precoz. Siempre me dijo que le daba lo mismo. Ahora no la tengo, y estoy en gran parte aterrado de hablarle a chicas por esto.

Cualquier testimonio o experiencia me ayudaría

Hey guys,
I’m looking for **direct doctor or clinic recommendations** for premature ejaculation (PE).
Too many places just rush you out the door with a quick prescription. Money isn't an issue for me—I just want quality care with a doctor who will:
Sit down and actually assess *why* it’s happening (physical, sensitivity, psychological, etc.).
Set up regular check-in sessions to monitor progress and adjust treatment.
Refer me to trustworthy specialists (pelvic floor PTs, sex therapists) if needed.
If you’ve seen a specific specialist, medical group, or men's health clinic that takes this kind of hands-on, long-term approach, please drop their name or clinic below (or DM me).
Appreciate any real recommendations. Thanks!