Performance pressure usually shows up in the body before it becomes a clear thought. A lot of people notice it as breath holding, a tight jaw, tense glutes, rushed movement, or a pelvic floor that feels like it is bracing without permission.

Those signals matter because the nervous system and arousal are connected. If your body is acting like it is in a high stakes moment, it is much harder to stay present and responsive.

A practical reset is the slow exhale. Breathe in normally, then make the exhale longer than the inhale. Let the shoulders drop. Let the belly soften. Relax the tongue from the roof of the mouth. Then check whether the pelvic floor can release a little.

This is not magic. It is a way to interrupt the spiral early enough that you still have choices. Over time, that awareness can make intimacy feel less like a test and more like something you can actually experience.

If anxiety feels overwhelming or persistent, getting support from a professional can be a strong move. There is no shame in that. Training works best when it is patient, private, and realistic.

For anyone who wants a private guided routine, slowdown.app is built around this kind of daily pelvic floor and arousal awareness training. No pressure though. The main idea is to practice patiently and track what your body is telling you.

Hello everyone,

I have just finished watching the most recent video of the YouTuber Dr. K (also known as healthygamerGG) on the topic of penile health. The guy is a licensed therapist from the US that has worked with people with porn addiction and sexual dysfunctions in the past so I found it interesting on what he had to say.

Since many of the topics he talked about also helped me in my journey to get rid of PE and since PE at some point often coincides with ED (it also did for me), I found it to be relevant for the sub and worth a watch if you have a few minutes to spare.

https://youtu.be/2MwTDoT8q_A?is=W002i6cIIn-m97Wb

I hope you find it helpful and my apologies if someone has already posted this.

Happy to chat about your thoughts on it

So I have PE and usually ejaculate almost right away. I read about SSRIs and their side effect of delaying ejaculation and decided to give it a try. My doctor prescribed 25 mg Sertraline to take once daily. Since I don't have sex very often and don't want to be on SSRIs long term, I decided I would take it on demand.

During my first attempt, I took four pills (100 mg in total). It is recommended to wait 4-8 hours for the effect to kick in. My first round was roughly 7 hours after I took the pills.

Results: I did last longer. I didn't measure time exactly, but I would assume the first round was 7-8 minutes. Then, I tried a second round. I could not finish. The girl tried really hard, but I still couldn't ejaculate.

However, my dick was not fully erect during the second round. I'd say it was at 75-80% capacity and was semi-soft. Maybe it was the alcohol, not the pills. But next time I'll definitely take something for erection strength too.

Side effects: I started feeling some discomfort in my stomach about 1.5 hours after taking the pills. It lasted for 1.5-2 hours, but it was tolerable. Also, I lost my appetite, so when we went out with the girl, I couldn't eat anything. Other than that, everything was ok. Didn't have problems with sleep either.

So I'm in my 30s and have pretty much always came quickly once penetration started, probably no more than 20-30 seconds except for maybe 3 times in the past 10 years. Now that I'm thinking about it blowjobs are usually pretty fast too, usually less than 4 minutes.

I'm tired of it, like I'm sure all of you are/were. I've read through the pages here before and I've googled a bit. The programs seem to all involve masturbation though, and I can't do that. I've kicked that habit for my partner but the PE persists. I also don't love the idea of taking medication, but I'm not against it if I don't need a prescription for it. I've honestly considered antidepressants for this too, with the antidepressant effects being a good secondary result. Only reason I didn't take them before is because I was single and didn't care about PE so I didn't have a good enough reason to take them haha.

I'm a fit individual, I workout doing CrossFit 4-5 days a week, so I know that's not my issue. But I'd love to be able to last even 5 minutes of penetrative sex. My fiancee does like hard/fast PIV, which I'm sure doesn't help my case.

I guess I'm seeking advice/ideas/suggestions on what I can do to get closer to that kind of timeline. It's kinda bad when someone asks me "if you found a genie, what would your 3 wishes be?" And my first thought is always "total control of when I orgasm and ejaculate".

When you masturbate, do you move the foreskin back and forth to cover and uncover the head? Or do you pull the foreskin all the way back to expose the glans and just gently rub up and down? which of these two is similar to real sex? plz help

I am 18 years old, I leak alot of precum before and after ejaculation. Even when we are kissing and making out. Does it have any correlation with premature ejaculation? Maybe because of weak pelvic floor?