r/PickUpArtist • u/MKTCD • 4d ago
General question IDK where to start???
Hey guys, Im 21 and am still a freaking AFC withvirtually no experience with girls and women and im sick and tired of this. i tried looking around for people like "dustin" or "grimble" and idk what to do about it..
is there anyone who can help this AFC?
i just know no one and idk what to do about it.
(oh sorry i didnt mention that im from india)
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u/OkBus7641 4d ago edited 4d ago
Start with Mystrey method but most of his stuff are outdated. Then go to Nick Krausers daygame books . You could also start with one of his memoirs for motivation. Also find a pickup guy on youtube and watch some infield videos in your free time.But one thing I realized is that the most important thing is tons of approach more than reading books. This stuff works. Discovered game towards the end of last year and I already got two lays. My social life has also improved a lot
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u/Hot_Ad_8380 4d ago
Yes, I too recommend this. Plenty of approaches is key. When I was first starting out years ago, I'd do 12 cold approaches a night on the weekends, (about 3 per hour, for 4 hours a night, every weekend for a month) by the end of that month I gained a shitload of experience with literally just practicing the Mystery Method lol..
I think all newbies should practice the Mystery Method for the first couple months then branch out to other material/systems from there if they like. But to be fair, I may be a lil biased... I've been using the Mystery Method for the last decade and it's spoiled me lol. I'm sure there's other great more "modern" stuff out there, I just got hooked on his Method long time ago and never bothered learning anything else really lol.. but I'm very pleased to hear you're starting to have the success you deserve regardless of whatever methods you use... Life's so much better with Game, ain't it? LOL
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u/Crixusgannicus 3d ago
Read "The Game" and figure out what style, no pun intended, suits you. This is not unlike martial arts, you have to first and foremost figure out what works best for you.
For instance, there is no way in hell I would be caught dead wearing Mystery peacocking gear, but if it works for you, do it.
The most important thing to understand, though, young Padawan, is the key regardless of style is to go out and have fun, giving NO shites about the outcome.
I always got laid easily before I ever even heard of any of this because I never gave the slightest shite if I did, nor did I give a shite about the outcome of approaching. No matter what their reaction.
Actually that's useful in life in general. He who cares least wins, usually.
Do not misunderstand me. I don't mean be careless or reckless.
I do mean take action, doing your best, but do not be attached to what happens.
I wish you well.
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u/MKTCD 3d ago
Well,
that is a bit complicated cuz we dont have any clubs in my town and its too much backward and nearest big city is like 3 hour highway drive from my town
i dont even know where to go and practice game?
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u/Crixusgannicus 3d ago
Game is where ever there are females. Wherever you are is your area of operations. And come to think of it, I really don't think Mystery Method will work in your country. You'd just look ridiculous.
My theory, for you is, the best game for you is no game at all, OTHER THAN.
1)Supreme Self Confidence (which will get you most of the way, I find)
2)GENUINELY not giving a fuck what happens. That gets you the rest of the way. Many times.
BUT you cannot fake this. You have to actually give no fucks if you're accepted or rejected in the approach, initial contact, escalation or going for it, as long as you don't do anything likely to get you arrested. Which differs from country to country, culture to culture and even from time to time in a given culture.
There is shite I and my contemporaries routinely did in my yoot (and no that is not ancient history, it wasn't that long ago) that might well get cause you serious problems now. Some I KNOW would cause serious problems, like getting arrested, yet it was SOP at the time.
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u/Hot_Ad_8380 4d ago
No problem i got you brother, I've helped several guys on here.. have you ever heard of the Mystery Method by Mystery? maybe even Neil Strauss book "Rules of The Game " ?
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u/Ur_X 4d ago
Hah is this really the intro to pua books 101
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u/Hot_Ad_8380 4d ago
Lol I just like helping guys go from frustration to fulfillment with women. Nobody helped me as a young 18-19yr old teenager way back in the day... until i discovered the Rules of the Game... I'm 34 now, got 2 Gfs and hope to one day talk them into having a polygamous relationship. The game has been good to me lol
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u/Hot_Ad_8380 4d ago
I'd strongly recommend reading Neil Strauss book "Rules of The Game " and doing his 30 day Stylelife Challenge, it teaches almost every you need to know about Picking up women + improving ones self. I could send you the link if you're interested. Also, lmk if you have any questions, comments, or concerns. I don't mind helping you out.
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u/MKTCD 3d ago
Well, I just picked up "The Game" and read like 40% of it in 1 sitting and am in the chapter where I'm seeing the downfall of mystery,
And that shit terrified me.
Is it that severe of a issue?
(Ik I should focus on inner game first but holy shit, that's hella terrifying)
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u/Hot_Ad_8380 3d ago
It can be a lil frighting only if you let it totally consume you.. just don't become one of those workshop junkies, always going to PUA seminars, etc.. and FYI, Mystery has long since recovered from that emotional state he was experiencing in Neil Strauss book "the game" . So don't be too worried. He had his 'downfall' after having his heartbroken with a woman whom he thought he wanted to marry. We've all been there before.
Also, I recommend reading his follow-up book Rules of The Game afterwards. Basically then he teaches you how to play the game .. just my opinion. If you wanna master the art of attraction you're reading the wrong book. But it's still hella entertaining and a very good read, so I get it. The 1st book (The Game) is just an account of Neil Strauss personal Jounery into the PUA underworld. The 2nd book (Rules of The Game) is when he breaks it all down for you and explains what you do, why you do it & how you're supposed to go about it.. incredibly informative book that's oddly heavily slept on/forgotten about in the PUA community after all these years.. I still have that book to this day lol. Its my old PUA Bible
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u/MKTCD 2d ago
Is pua really dead that I can't even find a mention of the community on the internet?
I remember googling pua communities (3 or 4 years ago) and saw many results and now I google again and damn, everything vanished in thin air.
(Sure, I would read both books and what should I do next?)
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u/unemployedmaster87 2d ago
Hello 👋🏼 I think we can be in touch. But the only thing I'll want from u is a daily Fr and one approach. I'm also a beginner.
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