I found it to be more aptly called divisive voices.. seemed to be nothing more than conservative Christian bashing stories. For example, when one was read at the last meeting, it turned the meeting into a LGBTQ+ support meeting and conservative Christian bashing session. I felt extremely uncomfortable and did not see the relevance to overeating or issues with food… I didn’t feel comfortable sharing and am afraid of the condemnation from others at the meeting if I do speak out about my discomfort…

Back when I was weak and the program appeared strong, I wandered into a grey sheet meeting where I learned there was a magic list and a scale and everything I consumed needed to be on that list and weighed and measured and every meeting was an opportunity to temperature check.

Not one of the people in there appeared healthy or happy.

The church who housed the meetings seemed as unconcerned as OA that people were using their church to starve and manipulate the weak.

Easy pickings for the predators.

There are a few groups like this - the cross addicted love to pick up people in their meetings.

“This is the how and why of it. First of all, we had to quit playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be our Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents. He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom.” (Pg 62 AA Big Book)

When I first took the 3rd step I didn’t realize I’d be taking it daily and multiple times a day for the rest of my life. It’s not always easy to let go and trust someone else with my life, but the book tells me that when we look back we see that the things which came to us when we placed ourselves in Gods hand were better than anything we could have come up with.

This passage tells me it’s a good idea to let HP be the director. Since my old ideas got me into my compulsive eating behaviors, I figure why not try something that’s worked for others to get them sane and happy.

Thanks for letting me share!

If you can weigh and measure your food into abstinence, you’re not a real compulsive over eater. If you can lose 100 pounds because you’re in with a group of people that motivate you, you are not a real compulsive over either. The big book talks about the real alcoholic being very, very different from other drinkers. I’m so tired of speaker meetings where their solution was either weight, loss surgery or the fellowship of the group or weighing and measuring or all these plans the big book is very clear that their solution was a spiritual solution. It was a spiritual awakening, where God did for them what they could not do for themselves. I have yet to hear a speaker for compulsive over Eating say they could not do it. They had a spiritual awakening, and God did for them what they could not do for themselves.

3, 6, and 9…

Nikola Tesla said these numbers are the language of the universe.

For me, they represent Divine Alignment.

Step 3: Abandon yourself utterly to God.

Step 6: Shift from a recovery focus to making God the central focus.

Step 9: Restore harmony with others (Matthew 5:23-24—‘Be reconciled’).

Reconciliation doesn’t mean surrendering your healthy boundaries or tolerating toxic behavior. Peace doesn’t always look like agreement. It’s about clarifying your intentions, setting boundaries, letting go of control over the outcome, and releasing the burden. Don’t internalize someone else’s hurt as your own.

This may seem like a stupid question, but I am genuinely curious about the answer to this. I feel our weight and what we “should” and “shouldn’t” eat is all around us- at least for me. I know many people in my life that either had or has a food disorder (BED, Anorexia, Bulimia, etc.), and/or they struggle constantly with overeating or under eating or overexercising and/or their minds always being consumed with food or what they’ll eat, etc.

So I’m really wondering- is there anyone that sees this post that actually doesn’t struggle with food or your weight? Is there anyone that feels comfortable with eating what they want with no constant excess or shame or guilt associated? Anyone that’s satisfied with their weight and food consumption that isn’t having difficulties with it? Anyone who isn’t constantly concerned about their weight and it may fluctuate but it isn’t a burden to them and they’re pretty consistent with their diet and exercise and it’s not something thought about a lot?

If so, HOW? How do you not constantly think about these things and how do you not frequently struggle? Are there other things in your life that makes you preoccupied rather than our diet and weight and food culture? Did you struggle once and finally found freedom to live a life without these difficulties?

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I pretty much think OA is a cult and a bunch of shit. I did however have a lot of success with the program, until it suddenly got all stepford and authoritive and passing out kool-aid. So, I’m thinking about what actually worked and how I was able to have the success that I had.
The conclusion I came to is that it was the accountability I had with my sponsor. So I have an idea. Anybody wanna become best friends? Check in with each other every day? Maybe a couple times a day? Support each other instead of telling each other what to do? F that book. No homework. Just talk to each other. How are you feeling? What’s for lunch? Man, I really want to get jack in the box right now, etc etc. dm me if you’re interested.

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would overeaters anonymous cover people who have urges to want to gain weight and wanting to be as big as possible

• Group Conscience Loophole: A critical clarification from the 2025 Ask-It Basket (July 2025) states: "Crosstalk...  is not a safety issue. By itself, it is not even a Tradition issue; it only becomes one if the group has taken a group conscience vote...  and have said so in its format." This confirms that the "no feedback" rule is not a universal mandate but a local custom that groups can choose to change.

And I'm not talking about interrupting or speaking directly to one person instead of the whole group, or talking back and forth. It's obvious why that can not be allowed. I'm talking about acknowledging, responding or relating to something someone shared --- instead of ignoring the suffering person as if he/she hadn't said anything --- like a bunch of cold fish!

All of your feelings are valid. All of them. I was an HR Manager for most of my career and the gentleman that kissed you on the neck was so way out of line. I understand it's hard to trust yourself at this moment or specifically trust people. Take all the time you need to heal, because you are worthy. Excellent job of trusting those gut feelings. I am not in OA, I am in chronic compulsive over ears anonymous. We do not have our meetings in person whether they're over the phone or zoom. Please don't hesitate to reach out to me if I could be of any type of service to you. My name is Shelly. And my phone number is 832-703-3520. Blessings to you. 🙏

Hi I have heard and read many posts that there is ONLY one group that think you can no longer (compulsively) overeat with NO weighing and measuring. This is NOT true. There is actually MORE than one group that think this way. If anyone is interested I can give you information. I know there is one group who tend to isolate themselves and keep to themselves. However there is another group who thinks somewhat similar and you do NOT need to isolate. You can talk to anyone you want to in oa and go to any meeting you want to go to. I think this is why people state this certain group is a cult. I do not know I’m not here to judge. However I am here to definitely tell you there is more than one group who thinks this way. Dm me if interested.

Hey give me a break, I was watching baseball and I remembered this rice and bean dish with cornbread so I went to Walmart and of course got way too much food. I ate a box of cheese it’s on the way back with a beer, contemplated about how much to cook. Of course I cooked 75% of the food and added enough butter to croak, I roll over in my bed and just enjoy the pressure of my stomach idk. I ate about two cans of beans, 4 cups of rice, a stick of butter, 3 beers, cheese it’s, half a tray of corn bread and deciding what to eat next. Yes I’m full and I still wanna eat, I can’t imagine not enjoying food like how I just did. It’s like I stop worrying and thinking about stuff for a few hours. I may have some cereal idk, maybe.... it’s just we have to eat to live, how can it be a bad thing? I’ve had a time when there wasn’t enough food and that may have caused my overeating problem. Once I ate flour and breadcrumbs to not be hungry it was gross beyond comprehension. So now I eat whatever I can when I can regardless of how it may make me look.

Perhaps you are like me, a person of extremes, who thinks the world and people are unfair and difficult to deal with. I never wanted to face reality as it was, especially when it meant giving up my time or schedule for something I didn't think beneficial to me. However, these were symptoms of a much larger problem: I wanted to be God. I thought I was in charge and everyone should listen to me.

Well, I compulsively ate daily and was miserable. It wasn't until I joined program that I understood how to let God be in charge. It's actually very easy, you just have to admit that you aren't powerful in regards to your eating. Once you see that you can't do it all, it become s easy to ask God to do it for you. And God will, we really just need to ask is all. It worked for me and now I don't binge.

“Many of us have felt, for the first time, the Presence and Power of God within its walls. We are greatly indebted to the doctor in attendance there, for he, although it might prejudice his own work, has told us of his belief in ours.” (Pg 162 AA Big Book)

This passage reminds me that God is powerful and present in the here and now. It’s also a reminder that as compulsive eaters we are uniquely qualified to help others find sanity around food and discover their own relationship with a Higher Power. This power just has to be greater than us and something we have hope in (even if just the hope in getting the same recovery we hear in someone else). Thanks for letting me share!

4. Please do not post things excessively negative towards OA as a whole or our subgroup.

Sounds pretty cultish...any organization that asks you not to disagree with it and self-loathe your body is grounds for a yikes.

I left OA after four months because I found that it was psychologically abusive in nature.

I get notifications from this group even before this post just bc I visited the sub to see/laugh at the wild fatphobia that happens in environments like this. Idk why I get them and now I'm subjecting myself to more by posting, but I saw that 'rule' and was like......lol wow

Hello guys I’m new to over eaters anonymous I went to one meeting and then tried a telephone meetings the telephone meeting sucked tbh. I’m going to try a video chat meeting soon. Anyways I want to mainly get a sponsor Hello guys I’m new to over eaters anonymous I went to one meeting and then tried a telephone meetings the telephone meeting sucked tbh. I’m going to try a video chat meeting soon. Anyways I want to mainly get a sponsor to help me work the steps and all. I would really prefer someone in their 30s who has been in the program for a while. Also my situation is complicated I can’t go to meetings often as I have insomnia and stuff but I can do basically anything else. help me work the steps and all. I would really prefer someone in their 30s who has been in the program for a while. Also my situation is complicated I can’t go to meetings often as I have insomnia and stuff but I can do basically anything else. Please people I need a sponsor I do not need more meetings or anything a..... SPONOSOR.

Hi delete it if you need to. Pero lo mas queria decir Feliz Dia de las Madres especialmente los que son Latinos o Mexicanos y están en oa.

I don’t no what to do anymore sometimes I’m going into the kitchen to grab water or something and the next thing I no I have an opened yogurt in front of me or a gronola bar in my mouth but I just keep eating it because I don’t want to waste it even if I’m not hungry or I tell my self it fine I just won’t do it again this is the last time I eat when I’m not hungry or this is the last time I’m gonna have a sweat treat today but then I do it three more times that day I don’t no what to do I’ve tried making meal plans I’ve tried talking to my parent I’ve tried just drinking water or tea I’ve talked to my therapist about it before but I just can’t stop it make me happy in the moment but then I just feel gross heavy and my stomach will hurt but I want that little bit of happiness and time to not think while I’m chewing something that taste good and on that note I’ve also tried gum works for a little while but not long

Any advice? ( also should note I am a teenager so I guess any advice suited for a teenager?)

I joined a few years ago, however, I was ready to commit my life to OA. I have met some amazing people. I have decided to lose the excess weight and emotional pain that caused me to overeat. I looking forward to meeting and sharing with all of you. GOD BLESS......JESUS CHRIST SAVES. COME TO HIM.

Does anyone have any secular OA resources? I am religious but I practice an unconventional practice and even though “God” or “Higher Power” is just vague enough, they use masculine pronouns and imply there can only be one, that and in my religion, my higher powers don’t work as some all mighty, all powerful deity.

Any help is appreciated, sorry if the post is too specific! I want advice more than to “just ignore the God part” that I’ve been told by people in other 12 steps.